Awkward question

[insideontheoutside]

My last awkward thread is dead and buried so I thought I'd start a new one since I'm genuinely curious as to how (trans) guys feel about this ...

Does size matter to you? And yes I'm talking about THAT size. First does it matter to you personally (as in what you got - and no, I'm not asking specially what you got lol) and second, if your partner is a cismale, does it matter to him?

[Osiris]

Size does matter to me. I really want to be able to penetrate with the growth I get. It doesn't need to be huge or anything but a few inches would be great if I can get it.

[Shang]

It matters to me.  I want to be able to have something that can at least penetrate someone else--so I guess 3 or 4 inches hard. XD

[Nygeel]

I'm pre-T and I'm maybe an inch already. Additional length and girth would be awesome but it's not on the very top of my list. I can already penetrate using what I've got (figured a way out) so that's not an issue to me. I don't have a partner currently and probably would not be dating a cismale so I can't answer the last question.

[Devyn]

Size does matter to me. I really want to be able to penetrate with the growth I get. It doesn't need to be huge or anything but a few inches would be great if I can get it.

Pretty much this.

[aydan_boy]

Meh. I don't really give a ->-bleeped-<-zu one way or another. Size down there at the moment is the LEAST of my worries. Right now I'm more worried about my face and moobs.

[Bagheera]

Size does matter to me. I really want to be able to penetrate with the growth I get. It doesn't need to be huge or anything but a few inches would be great if I can get it.

Agreed, but it's not as important as fixing my chest and overall appearance.

[Liam K]

Doesn't really matter that much to me.  Though I am looking forward to growth.

[Arch]

I'm disappointed in the growth I've gotten so far. I've read that it can take a couple of years--or more--to get full growth, but I'm over a year and a half and don't have much hope. Regardless, it's not going to be a regular penis, so I keep telling myself that it doesn't matter anyway.

My ex was kind of freaked out about the changes in my...well, down there. Don't know whether it was the prominence of that organ or the fact that it didn't respond to what he used to do to it. He sure as heck didn't want to change his patterns. I guess I was starting to smell and taste different, too. (Makes me shudder to think about it now...because I feel like I don't ever want anyone messing around down there again, ever. I suppose I will change eventually.) Anyway, he didn't come right out and say that he was bothered, but I knew.

[Cindy]

I apologise and feel free not to answer,

But what sort of size do you guys get? I realise that corrective surgery for FtM isn't very good. I also read that males have a thrust response while females have a 'passive' response. When I was biologically male I never had a thrust response .  My wife would be rider and I was, the ridee? Sorry I don't mean to cause any offence. Just interested.

Cindy

[Meepit]

I definitely have a thrust response . I've had it even before I knew what it was for . As for size, just on T or with surgery? As with bioguys though, some guys get lucky, some aren't so fortunate. I've heard the general "rule of thumb" is to expect the size of your thumb (not sure if that's flaccid or erect or even pumped), but I even think that's a bit optimistic.

[DylanAugusten]

I haven't started hormone therapy but hope for some growth for penetration. I have to agree with some of the other guys that my overall body appearance and chesticles are a bigger worry for me. As of right now I don't even want any bottom surgery.

[jmaxley]

I definitely have a thrust response . I've had it even before I knew what it was for .

Heh, same here. 

I'm not real worried about size right now.  It'd be nice to be able to penetrate one day though.

[Aegir]

Size does matter to me- it's kindof the elephant in the room as far as my fears about transitioning go. Not that it's likely I can anyway, not with my cardiovascular health.

And I third the thrust response thing- my "instinct" if you'll call it that made my first few sexual encounters really awkward.

[insideontheoutside]

I definitely have a thrust response . I've had it even before I knew what it was for .

Yup add me to that response as well. Even laying on my back I still want to do it lol.

@CindyJames I think it works the same way as bio guys - genetics I'm sure can play a part ... in other words lots of different sizes. I'm sure there's an "average" but I'm not sure what the average is. Personally I think I lucked out in that department as I've got as much as some slightly smaller bio guys when not excited about anything and enough to get the job done otherwise.

[Tad]

Females don't have the thrust repsonse?

[Carson]

I definitely have the thrust response.. and I'm about 9 months on T and I am about an inch to an inch and a half flaccid and between and inch and a half and 2 inches probably erect.

I hope to get maybe another inch just on T and then i want bottom surgery. I'll probably get a release/metoidioplasty first and then see what the situation on phalloplasty is. If I get a phallo I want a good 6-7 inches haha.

[kyril]

Women don't have a thrust response?

[sneakersjay]

In an ideal world, yes it matters.  Would be nice to have at least 5" if not more, to play with.

But since I had an invisible dick before (yes, truly teeny!) and got decent growth, which translated into a very small dick post-op, the fact that I actually HAVE a penis, even though very very small (toddlers are probably more well endowed, LOL), I'm thrilled to have what I have.  And after seeing pics on the net and Howard Stern's small penis contest, I know that lots and lots of cis men have very small penises as well.  I'm short, too.  I deal.  At my age, who cares? LOL  I'm thrilled beyond belief to have balls and no vag.

If someone could swap out my junk with what your average man has, without having to have surgery or take antirejection drugs, ie magic wand, sure I'd opt for larger junk. But it aint gonna happen, so I'm realistic and accepting of what I have.  And thankful that i was able to get it.


Jay

[Elijah3291]

ok well I don't feel the need to penetrate with MY dick, but I think that is because I know it probably wouldn't be very pleasurable, being so small, and also that I feel like it wouldn't have an effect on my partner.

I haven't had much growth yet on T, but It does matter to me, I wan't to be able to have enough growth to be able to be 'suckable' if you know what i mean, and I would like to be large enough to be able to grab at something at least.

BUT testosterone has kinda changed my mindset of my junk, I feel more confident about it somehow, and I think/ am hoping that as I pass more and more on T, I will be able to "own" it, you know what I mean.. like "yea, I'm a guy with girl junk and a small dick, but I'm still sexy"

lol

also.. what is thrust response?