Do some of you still (or used to) do this?

[Robert F.]

Just a few minutes ago, I was talking to my mom about my new room in our basement. She asked me if I'd be okay turning off all the lights when I go to bed, and jokingly asked if I was afraid of the dark. I then replied, "No mom, I'm a big girl."

I only just came out a few weeks ago. Nobody's using any male pronouns (haven't really brought it up yet, I'm waiting until after I start seeing a therapist), nobody really refers to me as male except a few days ago in the car, when my mom asked me, "Because you're a boy, do you like girls?" So I guess I'm just in the habit of referring to myself as female around family. But did any of you guys accidentally refer to yourself as female after coming out?

[SnailPace]

I've had this sort of conversation:

Somebody: "Blahblah.. she... blahblah"
Me: "Hey, you know it's "he"."
Somebody: "Oh, well, it's hard okay? Besides, you call yourself "she"!"
Me: "I do, really? Like when?"
Somebody: "Uhhh... I can't think of a specific time..."

So who knows if I'm slipping up or not.

I wouldn't worry too much, it's hard to break a habit even if it's important to us.

[kyril]

I called myself a "city girl" once.

The people around me were kind enough to pretend not to notice, but it was terribly embarrassing

[Elijah3291]

I dont ever call myself she, especially sence coming out, and I dont think i did it that much before transition either

[Silver]

I really just avoided talking about myself like that at all since I considered it an indignity to refer to myself as female. Other people I can not control, but I have no reason to offend myself in such a manner.

[littlemonster]

When talking about my fat old cat, I call myself her mom.  I've done that since I got her when I was in fourth grade, and I think that's the only occasion on which I use female names for myself.  It's cool, since I'm her mothering, smothering, feed-you-love-you-overly-cuddle-you figure.   

[thestory]

I refer to myself as a female now and again because its inappropriate or unwanted around family friends and people that wont understand...

On my own and with accepting people I refer to myself as male.

[Elijah3291]

I really just avoided talking about myself like that at all since I considered it an indignity to refer to myself as female. Other people I can not control, but I have no reason to offend myself in such a manner.

yea, thats how I feel

[dudical]

I really just avoided talking about myself like that at all since I considered it an indignity to refer to myself as female. Other people I can not control, but I have no reason to offend myself in such a manner.

yea, thats how I feel

thirded.

[Zrfm]

Depends on who I'm with, with my friends I refer to myself as male but with my family I refer to myself as female if I have to use a gender specific word.

Lol I got the "You're a boy so you like girls right?" from my mum too.

[James42]

Yea I also pretty much avoid speaking of myself. But I was at a meeting with my therapist one day and was talking about my sister and said "out of my sisters, we're full brother...err..and sister" I almost thought I had to "correct" myself and say sister, but then realized I was right, brother and sister.

[Jeatyn]

I often talk about myself in third person (Jeatyn like bagels, etc)  and I've come out with my old name a couple of times then been like "woah that was weird"

I don't think I've ever done the wrong pronouns on myself, I can't even bring myself to do it when I am talking to somebody who I'm not out to. If I was saying something like "I'm a city girl" I would change it to "I'm a city person" - sorry to rob your example Kyril, couldn't think of anything else

[JesseA]

when I talk to myself, i still refer to myself as "Sara". that bad habit is slowly drifting away though thank goodness

[sneakersjay]

Yes, once after about a year on T I was talking about the time I had made a purchase of some exercise equipment (I was fat) and in the course of relaying the story, I said something like, "Like yeah, right, she's gonna run a road race!" referring to what the salesperson was thinking about me, as I was F at the time I bought it.

Another time about 2 yrs on T I was talking about a time my son was sick, and referred to myself as just a mom.  UGH.

But yeah, I'm working on that to either eliminate pronouns, or insert male ones.  Took a few slips like that to go DOH!! and wake me up.


Jay

[tangobravo]

I dont ever call myself she, especially sence coming out, and I dont think i did it that much before transition either

i agree with this.
i protested being a girl all the time. though i didn't admit that i was a boy either until i was 15.

i was a confusing child. 

[Tad]

Nope. For a long time before coming out I just used... gender exclusive speech. I'd find a way to word things without having to refer to my gender.. Now I don't at all.

[zombiesarepeaceful]

Off topic but OMG, Elijah....I want that kitty in your avatar. I'm a cat fanatic....it is quite pathetic, the degree to which I love kittehs.

[Elijah3291]

Off topic but OMG, Elijah....I want that kitty in your avatar. I'm a cat fanatic....it is quite pathetic, the degree to which I love kittehs.

lol thats my baby Edwin

[insanitylives]

I do the opposite.

I refer to myself as male to people i haven't come out to.
Not sure if that's good or bad. But people ignore it.

[Noah G.]

I actually don't think I've ever really spoken too often of myself in a way where pronouns or nouns other than "I" are necessary, and on the occasion I have I can only ever remember using gender neutral words. Of course, occasionally to the people who know I'm trans or know me as a guy I will use male pronouns (admittedly occasionally just for the chance to use them), but even then I don't usually refer to myself in any way that warrants them. Really it's just a habit, I suppose -- I never really refer to myself in any way as my bio sex unless first explaining that I'm trans, or trying to explain it, or talking about it in general I suppose. Hell, even now I'm not entirely comfortable admitting that I'm not physically a guy...it's sort of my way of avoiding dysphoria: ignoring the whole mess as much as I can.