Just a few minutes ago, I was talking to my mom about my new room in our basement. She asked me if I'd be okay turning off all the lights when I go to bed, and jokingly asked if I was afraid of the dark. I then replied, "No mom, I'm a big girl."

I only just came out a few weeks ago. Nobody's using any male pronouns (haven't really brought it up yet, I'm waiting until after I start seeing a therapist), nobody really refers to me as male except a few days ago in the car, when my mom asked me, "Because you're a boy, do you like girls?" So I guess I'm just in the habit of referring to myself as female around family. But did any of you guys accidentally refer to yourself as female after coming out?

I've had this sort of conversation:

Somebody: "Blahblah.. she... blahblah"
Me: "Hey, you know it's "he"."
Somebody: "Oh, well, it's hard okay? Besides, you call yourself "she"!"
Me: "I do, really? Like when?"
Somebody: "Uhhh... I can't think of a specific time..."

So who knows if I'm slipping up or not.

I wouldn't worry too much, it's hard to break a habit even if it's important to us.

I called myself a "city girl" once.

The people around me were kind enough to pretend not to notice, but it was terribly embarrassing

I dont ever call myself she, especially sence coming out, and I dont think i did it that much before transition either

I really just avoided talking about myself like that at all since I considered it an indignity to refer to myself as female. Other people I can not control, but I have no reason to offend myself in such a manner.

When talking about my fat old cat, I call myself her mom.  I've done that since I got her when I was in fourth grade, and I think that's the only occasion on which I use female names for myself.  It's cool, since I'm her mothering, smothering, feed-you-love-you-overly-cuddle-you figure.   

I refer to myself as a female now and again because its inappropriate or unwanted around family friends and people that wont understand...

On my own and with accepting people I refer to myself as male.

Quote from: Silver on October 13, 2010, 01:12:29 AM
I really just avoided talking about myself like that at all since I considered it an indignity to refer to myself as female. Other people I can not control, but I have no reason to offend myself in such a manner.

yea, thats how I feel

Quote from: Silver on October 13, 2010, 01:12:29 AM
I really just avoided talking about myself like that at all since I considered it an indignity to refer to myself as female. Other people I can not control, but I have no reason to offend myself in such a manner.

Quote from: Elijah on October 13, 2010, 01:30:59 AM
yea, thats how I feel

thirded.

Depends on who I'm with, with my friends I refer to myself as male but with my family I refer to myself as female if I have to use a gender specific word.

Lol I got the "You're a boy so you like girls right?" from my mum too.

Yea I also pretty much avoid speaking of myself. But I was at a meeting with my therapist one day and was talking about my sister and said "out of my sisters, we're full brother...err..and sister" I almost thought I had to "correct" myself and say sister, but then realized I was right, brother and sister.

I often talk about myself in third person (Jeatyn like bagels, etc)  and I've come out with my old name a couple of times then been like "woah that was weird"

I don't think I've ever done the wrong pronouns on myself, I can't even bring myself to do it when I am talking to somebody who I'm not out to. If I was saying something like "I'm a city girl" I would change it to "I'm a city person" - sorry to rob your example Kyril, couldn't think of anything else

when I talk to myself, i still refer to myself as "Sara". that bad habit is slowly drifting away though thank goodness

Yes, once after about a year on T I was talking about the time I had made a purchase of some exercise equipment (I was fat) and in the course of relaying the story, I said something like, "Like yeah, right, she's gonna run a road race!" referring to what the salesperson was thinking about me, as I was F at the time I bought it.

Another time about 2 yrs on T I was talking about a time my son was sick, and referred to myself as just a mom.  UGH.

But yeah, I'm working on that to either eliminate pronouns, or insert male ones.  Took a few slips like that to go DOH!! and wake me up.


Jay

Quote from: Elijah on October 13, 2010, 01:05:38 AM
I dont ever call myself she, especially sence coming out, and I dont think i did it that much before transition either

i agree with this.
i protested being a girl all the time. though i didn't admit that i was a boy either until i was 15.

i was a confusing child. 

Nope. For a long time before coming out I just used... gender exclusive speech. I'd find a way to word things without having to refer to my gender.. Now I don't at all.

Off topic but OMG, Elijah....I want that kitty in your avatar. I'm a cat fanatic....it is quite pathetic, the degree to which I love kittehs.

Quote from: zombiesarepeaceful on October 13, 2010, 12:17:09 PM
Off topic but OMG, Elijah....I want that kitty in your avatar. I'm a cat fanatic....it is quite pathetic, the degree to which I love kittehs.

lol thats my baby Edwin

I do the opposite.

I refer to myself as male to people i haven't come out to.
Not sure if that's good or bad. But people ignore it.

I actually don't think I've ever really spoken too often of myself in a way where pronouns or nouns other than "I" are necessary, and on the occasion I have I can only ever remember using gender neutral words. Of course, occasionally to the people who know I'm trans or know me as a guy I will use male pronouns (admittedly occasionally just for the chance to use them), but even then I don't usually refer to myself in any way that warrants them. Really it's just a habit, I suppose -- I never really refer to myself in any way as my bio sex unless first explaining that I'm trans, or trying to explain it, or talking about it in general I suppose. Hell, even now I'm not entirely comfortable admitting that I'm not physically a guy...it's sort of my way of avoiding dysphoria: ignoring the whole mess as much as I can.