I want to help someone

[iris1469]

OK here we go, ready? I am going to do something for all today!! It might make you laugh, who knows. (i look at it and wow, brings reality back into view lol!!!) I woke up about 30 minutes ago. AND snapped a quick pick of myself and Im going to make that my profile pic. I will do this until around the same time tomorrow,,,,then up goes pretty Superkitty!!!

One reason I want to do this is cuz it has been brought to my attention that I make others feel down. I met a couple other mtf's yesterday. WE were talking and I could just sense something, you know. Anyways, candy (dont remember the other girls name, but then I don't even remember my own name sometimes) she says something like, "you are one of the pretty ones" And i feel terrible for the way she felt, feelings that I inspired,,,she was sad, the way I looked made her sad and dammit that is NEVER my intention. anyways, just in case there are others here who may feel the same as Candy, Im going to bring myself down. Give you all a look at how friggen plain Jane I really am....Its all a friggen illusion, and thank god for makeup or,,,,,,,,,off the cliff I would go! So please, and I am serious about this, if there are any feelings of any type of jealousy,,,,,,,,I WANT you to take some pleasure from my pic...I know it sounds sarcastic, but I swear on my life, screw that my life is nothing to me, I swear on all 3 of my bunnies lives that I am serious and not being sarcastic. And by the way, I am a slave to my bunnies, they are NEVER in a cage,  but instead have full house privileges and they punk me on a regular basis!!!! BUT i would go to prison over one of my bunnies!

[Janet_Girl]

You're still a pretty girl.  And I am jealous of the bust line.  A plain jane is yours truly.

Hang in there, Sis.  Even GGs get jealous of someone they see as prettier than themselves.

[niamh]

I don't get it! You still look like a hot lady, just in the darkness!

And Janet, you many be a jane but you're anything but plain!

[iris1469]

You're still a pretty girl.you have got to be kidding me right? take another look  And I am jealous of the bust line.I know I KNOW IM A TARD, but what exactly is a bustline  A plain jane is yours truly.

Janet, dont do that, instead throw darts at it!!!!!

[Janet_Girl]

Bustline aka boobage.

And you are pretty.

@niamh  Thank You.

[iris1469]

I don't get it! You still look like a hot lady, just in the darkness!

And Janet, you many be a jane but you're anything but plain!

What exactly are you smoking, cuz I want some, I want some! LOL. Reallyt though,, thanks for saying that, However at this precise moment in time i feel ok. And Janet, what she said

[spacial]

Kitty, no sense in hiding it, the secret's out and we all know it.

You look good. 

[iris1469]

OK then ill just have to change the pic yet again, this was taken 5  minutes ago

[Janet_Girl]

Nope still pretty.  Sorry you are just going to have to face the fact that you are pretty.

Cute Bunny though.

[pheonix]

OK here we go, ready? I am going to do something for all today!! It might make you laugh, who knows. (i look at it and wow, brings reality back into view lol!!!) I woke up about 30 minutes ago. AND snapped a quick pick of myself and Im going to make that my profile pic. I will do this until around the same time tomorrow,,,,then up goes pretty Superkitty!!!

One reason I want to do this is cuz it has been brought to my attention that I make others feel down. I met a couple other mtf's yesterday. WE were talking and I could just sense something, you know. Anyways, candy (dont remember the other girls name, but then I don't even remember my own name sometimes) she says something like, "you are one of the pretty ones" And i feel terrible for the way she felt, feelings that I inspired,,,she was sad, the way I looked made her sad and dammit that is NEVER my intention. anyways, just in case there are others here who may feel the same as Candy, Im going to bring myself down. Give you all a look at how friggen plain Jane I really am....Its all a friggen illusion, and thank god for makeup or,,,,,,,,,off the cliff I would go! So please, and I am serious about this, if there are any feelings of any type of jealousy,,,,,,,,I WANT you to take some pleasure from my pic...I know it sounds sarcastic, but I swear on my life, screw that my life is nothing to me, I swear on all 3 of my bunnies lives that I am serious and not being sarcastic. And by the way, I am a slave to my bunnies, they are NEVER in a cage,  but instead have full house privileges and they punk me on a regular basis!!!! BUT i would go to prison over one of my bunnies!

Honestly, it's her issue, IMO.  Even cis-women have someone who they feel is prettier than them.  And they cope. 

[iris1469]

Honestly, it's her issue, IMO.  Even cis-women have someone who they feel is prettier than them.  And they cope.

I hear ya. when a born female in the right body gets jealous of me, I am catty enough to LOVE every minute of it!!! But not when they are you know, family. In other words in the same baot as I. wow............i dont know what else to say....actually yes I do... The reason I was/ammore sensitive in a case such as this is because I am of the opinion that that is why there is so many suicides in our community. Yes there are those that are stroong and will always make it, but it is not easy as I am sure that you know. do you understand now why I feel the way I do? I hope so. and yeah even though it is dog eat dawg, and when it comes right down to, I have my own back and always have, BUT in the meantime, if I can hhelp make life a little easier for another, that in and of itself makes the world just a little bit brighter!

[Alexmakenoise]

I can relate to where you're coming from Superkitty - I get frustrated when people get jealous of me for things that are beyond my control and I just want to do something to even the playing field and make them feel better.  But what about trying to help them to feel better about themselves instead of trying to make yourself look worse?  When someone mentions something they envy about you, thank them for the compliment and then return it by pointing out something you admire about them.  Or offering advice on how to look better.  Which ever seems more appropriate for the situation.  Also remember that you can turn being envied into an opportunity to be an inspiration or role model for other people.  If you point out the negative qualities in yourself, all you're really doing is bringing yourself down, and it might not actually help other people feel better.  They may act jealous, which is hard to watch, but maybe you're actually giving them hope by reminding them that it is possible to be whatever they envy about you.


I hope this doesn't come across as condescending or something.  It's hard to express without risking coming across as . . . uh, what's the word?  High and mighty?  Preachy?  I don't want to be that way at all, but I still wanted to say something.

[iris1469]

I can relate to where you're coming from Superkitty - I get frustrated when people get jealous of me for things that are beyond my control and I just want to do something to even the playing field and make them feel better.  But what about trying to help them to feel better about themselves instead of trying to make yourself look worse? you know something. i NEVER though of that When someone mentions something they envy about you, thank them for the compliment and then return it by pointing out something you admire about them.  Or offering advice on how to look better.  Which ever seems more appropriate for the situation.  Also remember that you can turn being envied into an opportunity to be an inspiration or role model for other people.  If you point out the negative qualities in yourself, all you're really doing is bringing yourself down, and it might not actually help other people feel better.  They may act jealous, which is hard to watch, but maybe you're actually giving them hope by reminding them that it is possible to be whatever they envy about you.


I hope this doesn't come across as condescending or something.  It's hard to express without risking coming across as . . . uh, what's the word?  High and mighty?  Preachy?  I don't want to be that way at all, but I still wanted to say something.

thank you. definitely something to ponder. again, thanks.......................huh

[Hermione01]

OK here we go, ready? I am going to do something for all today!! It might make you laugh, who knows. (i look at it and wow, brings reality back into view lol!!!) I woke up about 30 minutes ago. AND snapped a quick pick of myself and Im going to make that my profile pic. I will do this until around the same time tomorrow,,,,then up goes pretty Superkitty!!!

One reason I want to do this is cuz it has been brought to my attention that I make others feel down. I met a couple other mtf's yesterday. WE were talking and I could just sense something, you know. Anyways, candy (dont remember the other girls name, but then I don't even remember my own name sometimes) she says something like, "you are one of the pretty ones" And i feel terrible for the way she felt, feelings that I inspired,,,she was sad, the way I looked made her sad and dammit that is NEVER my intention. anyways, just in case there are others here who may feel the same as Candy, Im going to bring myself down. Give you all a look at how friggen plain Jane I really am....Its all a friggen illusion, and thank god for makeup or,,,,,,,,,off the cliff I would go! So please, and I am serious about this, if there are any feelings of any type of jealousy,,,,,,,,I WANT you to take some pleasure from my pic...I know it sounds sarcastic, but I swear on my life, screw that my life is nothing to me, I swear on all 3 of my bunnies lives that I am serious and not being sarcastic. And by the way, I am a slave to my bunnies, they are NEVER in a cage,  but instead have full house privileges and they punk me on a regular basis!!!! BUT i would go to prison over one of my bunnies!

You're pretty, vivacious (always wanted to use this word  ) and all that.

Jealousy isn't good but even the best of us can suffer from it from time to time.

The only problem I would have would be with your bunnies. 

Are they white and fluffy with pink eyes? 

[erocse]

Your making my laugh Super Kitty. Your anything but "Plain jane".

   I've seen this girl in person, She's a Bombshell !!

    I'd give you a big hug, But I'm afraid to squish those gorgeous mellons. 
Erocse

[Janet_Girl]

Speaking of cuties.   Erocse you are looking good there yourself.

[erocse]

Speaking of cuties.   Erocse you are looking good there yourself.

Thanks Janet, I had a bit of discouraging day. But you just made me smile.

  Thanks, Erocse

[AweSAM!]

OMG superkitty, you are not plain by any means, and I'd consider myself one of those jealous about the way you look. Will jealousy make me look better? Nope. Why should I concentrate on the progress of others, when we all progress at different rates. I strongly dislike my face, and it still doesn't look very good even while smiling (sooo much worse without a facial expression); check my avatar. My body is still pretty masculine looking, save for my small, widely spaced barely-there breasts. All I can do is wait for the future.

We are generally our own harshest critics, and sometimes we just have to step back and think. Concentrating on the things we don't like can make life hellish.

[Randi]

You are already helping me by posting-and you do look good.
Randi