So, therapy..?

[Cody Jensen]

Hi all, too often I feel like a boy stuck in a girl's body. I am looking into therapy and I was just wondering, what exactly do they talk to you about? Do they pity you, do they make it look like they feel sorry for you? I can't stand that, so I was wondering what exactly do they do there? All I want to know is if I really am transgendered. If it's not too much to ask, I was wondering if you could share your experience? 

[Epigania]

They talk to you about whatever is on your mind.   My therapist asks me how things have been since our last visit, and I talk about whatever has been on my mind.

He is non-judgmental and is fairly direct about his observations on how I handle whatever challenging situation I am talking about at the time.   We actually only talk about my GID when I have something I want to bring up.   Most of the time we talk about other issues I have that are non-related.

If you fell like your therapist is pitying you or babying you, it's my opinion you should find a different therapist.

[Janet_Girl]

Almost four years ago, I was trying to fight this thing yet again.  I found a gender therapist and when to him to help me stop this "demon" out of my head.

We talked about my past and the things I had done transition-wise and why I had stopped.  He suggested that I "go out with the girls" once a month to help quiet the voice.  Like that would fly with my wife.  So I tried to just be the "man" that she needed me to be.  A year later I tried to take my own life.

It was then that I knew I had to transition, period.  My wife and I sold the house and went our separate ways.  I sought out the same therapist.

At our first meeting , I asked if he remembered me.  He said yes he did and then he said some thing that told me I was finally on the right track.  "I knew you would be back.  It is obvious that you are Transsexual." 

Most gender therapist will use the first meeting as a "getting to know you" meeting.  Then they will get down to business.

[Nero]

It depends on the therapist. I've had 'pitying' types and non pitying types.

[Aidan_]

Most aren't going to pity you. In fact, they won't show any emotions usually except interest in your case. Call it creepy. but this stuff is fascinating to most of them...moreso than other people and their job materials.

Mine never really asks much aside from what he needs to know to gather information and make decisions. He's asking the questions I know I have to face, despite the fact I am scared to. I've only had 2 visits from this day, but progress comes fast when you dedicate one hour a week to nothing but work.