Marriage

[James42]

Ok everyone I really need your help! I um, kinda proposed to my girlfriend.... of course though we wouldn't get married until after I've had all my documents changed (and i'd be on T long enough and top surgery) so we're looking at like within a year.

So does anyone have any input on marriage when a trans person is involved? I know theres been the Nikki case going on in Texas as far as the actually legality of it, and we actually plan on living in Texas. I don't know how thats going to go. If we get married in a more liberal state, would it still be recognized in Texas in case my gender/sex was ever questioned for something?

ANY advice (legal opinions, link recommendations, if you know a youtuber or blogger who might discuss this) would be greatly appreciated!!

[insideontheoutside]

Hey first of all, congrats It's a really awesome feeling when you find someone who actually accepts who you are fully to the degree they want to spend their life with you.

My situation is kinda different because I didn't transition (and married another dude!) so in the eyes of the law, we're "normal" but if you can actually get your gender marker changed in a state that will allow it (a few states only require a diagnosis and partial transition, like HRT - a lot more require top surgery and still more require even bottom surgery) then I would say you're pretty golden. Because then you go to the new state, whatever that is and you have all your ID that says you're male so they are less likely to question it at all - you'd be just another dude getting their license in their new state, etc.

[Robert F.]

First of all, congratulations, man!

As far as legally, in the event you get married in a more liberal state, under the Full Faith and Credit clause of the Constitution, if a legal document is recognized in the court of one state, it must be recognized in the courts of all of them. So, even if the courts of Texas do not recognize you as male (which they should, because, again, Full Faith and Credit clause), and recognize your marriage as one between two women, your marriage is still legal, because your marriage license is recognized in the state you were married in.

[xAndrewx]

Congrats on the engagement! I know for a friend here it was as simple as filing for a license once his marker was changed. I don't exactly know if it transfers from state to state. He's really into the trans legal stuff though, I'll ask next time we chat.

[James42]

Thanks guys! I'm still on a high that she said yes lol

and thanks for the info, I have no insight on any of the legal issues of this type of situation, I'm starting to look into it though, and I really appreciate the help!