QuoteYour body is NOT JUNK! You may not like it, but it's a valuable thing, even if it "betrayed" you at puberty! Female parts are part of your history, regardless of the fact you like it or not, just like scars and wrinkles are. You would not be YOU if you didn't have your "junk", even if it's a thing you hate with the fiercest of passions. I accepted my female body but I also have a baby face as well. Guess what, I'd LOVE to have a more mature, androgynous looking face, so that I could "pass" as my real age and not get weird looks when I talk complex stuff or I drive, but it's part of me and the solutions to the obstacles I had to overcome for it (in my field especially) are now part of me too. So if I magically changed my face to something more mature and masculine, I'd lose an important part of myself as well.
Don't hate your body, and remember that scars (but not mastectomy ones) are cool!
Blue, you accepted your female body because
you are not trans. But we
are trans. There is a biological reason that our brains and bodies do not go together, and we can't just snap our fingers and fix it. This is how we were born, and the only thing we have to accept is our identity and the struggles associated with it. We are not obligated to love parts of us that do not align with our minds. Comparing your insecurities about your face to our dysphoria is bordering on insulting. You should be taking this argument to a forum about plastic surgery for vain 20 somethings (not that all plastic surgery is solely for vanity's sake), not to a forum for people whose dysphoria can make them suicidal. Here's the difference: I would love to have a stronger jawline, but I don't need one. The specific shape of my jaw is not engrained in my brain's chemistry from birth, but the existence of one is. But I am not meant to have breasts. Their presence, not an imagined hatred for them, made me suicidal not long after developing them. Because the presence of breasts is NOT part of my brain.
There was research done on a man in India with "reverse phantom-limb syndrome." He believed his left leg below the knee was not meant to exist there. Doctors thought he was crazy until a brain scan was done. While his knee, or any other part of his body was touched, the sensation was registered in a specific part of the brain dedicated to that part. When his lower left leg was touched, nerves registered it, but there was no part in the brain that existed to acknowledge it as part of him. I strongly suspect this phenomenon occurs in transsexuals. Female brains have sections devoted to their breasts, male brains do not and instead have one that is unfilled for a penis. Due to whatever hormonal occurrence in utero, we ended up with the wrong bodies for our brains. Therefore, these parts literally do not belong to us, "us" as in our brains, the core of our consciousness. Do not ask us to accept what we cannot accept. Again, you were able to accept it because you are a female bodied, female brained person. We are not, and you don't seem to understand that despite what experiences you had in the past, you are not the same as us.
