A browner lipstick and brown and taupe shades of eyeshadow, just use the pale shade to highlight along the brow bone. Try using bronzing pearls rather than blusher and just sweep a minimal amount over your cheeks, make a smile in the mirror, then brush up and out over the apples of your cheeks towards your hairline, extending the line up to your temples. I really do mean a minimal amount as well, it is easier to add than to remove, and the idea is to just add a healthy flush to your face. A slightly darker foundation or even a tinted moisturizer will make a huge difference. Try to find a youtube demo on how to apply several different shades of eyeshadow, it does give a softer result.
You do actually look good in that photo. A longer necklace will elongate your neck rather than draw attention to the width, it will also help to naturally draw the eye down to your cleavage.