Hesistant At Coming Out With Childhood Friends

[Moonspirited]

So here I am sitting infront of my computer wanting to come out to my childhood friends over facebook. I am still pre-hrt and I believe I must tell them eventually no matter how they react. Both of the friends of mine I want to tell have been around me since I was three years old. Something inside me tells me it isn't time to tell them and another part of me is telling me to drop them out of my life then recreate myself - move on. The latter seems very selfish, but we rarely talk to each other anymore as it started to fade away every year. Infact , we only post on each others facebook walls for wishing each other happy birthday. However, they stood beside me through my drug abuse and respected me for choosing my own path into wicca. My parents were fortunate in allowing me to choose my own religion. Although, in the end it was my parents that didn't like that I joined up with a coven but tolerated it. Which didn't last the long since around that time I hit drug abuse pretty hard.

Input please?

[spacial]

From the sound of it, I think your friends might surprise you.

[lilacwoman]

like everyone else some former friends will be happy to see you and happy to accept and help the new you and some will just hate you for changing and you will have to drop them lik red hot coals.
Get em told so you know where you stand with them all.

[Susan Baum]

Listen to both spacial and lilacwoman and others who will chime in - Truer words have never been spoken. 

I'm sure it was hard to come out to your family but I'm sure some of them already had an idea that something "different" had been brewing in your head for quite some time.  If these folks have really been friends for as long as you say, they probably would have seen it also.  We have all seen relarionships go down the tubes with drug abuse - could that have been a factor in your friends' drifting away.  The sober moonspirited isn't the same as she was before, she's better and wiser. 

I tried to come out to a friend yesterday - but as it turned out, Sally already knew - or at least had a pretty solid idea - that I coexist with my 8 to 5 self.  My next hurdle will be meeting her in person but somehow that thought doesn't scare me as much as telling her did. 

If they are indeed friends, they will stick by you; if not what have you lost?  Nothing... because there was really nothing there to start with.  Plus you still have a huge bunch of friends who won't leave you right here. 

Take care,
Susan

[Moonspirited]

Update
Sorry for the late update I just went ahead and told the two of them a couple days ago. So far I've only gotten one reply.

This what he replied:
"I'm fine with all of this as long as it makes you happy. And I'm sure a few people are going to take some time to warm up to this info, but don't worry, the ones who count will come to accept it"

[cynthialee]

YAY!

[spacial]

And another YAY!