Disclosing Trans Status
Filed by: Tobi Hill-Meyer
November 21, 2010 4:00 PM
http://www.bilerico.com/2010/11/disclosing_trans_status.phpOriginally written for SexIs Magazine, this last March.
The music at the club was pounding and we were dancing close. It wasn't exactly a date, as the friend I was with wasn't exactly available, but I was happy just to dance and share a flirtatious energy. I didn't expect one of the other patrons to come and ask to dance with us both. Within 10 minutes, she was making out with me, groping my side, grinding her leg into my crotch. My mind was racing.
I'd heard the advice to always disclose my trans status before doing anything sexual at least dozen times, but this was my first time navigating it. I'd met all my previous partners through my activism. They knew that I was trans long before the first date. I'd never picked someone up in a club before. It was so loud that we needed to shout just to exchange names. Somehow, yelling: "I'm trans!" over the surrounding cacophony didn't seem like the best way to come out.
