RAWWRRGGHH Anger!!!

[FebruaryFalls]

You need to end this. You're in an extremely unhealthy relationship. He doesn't love you for you, he loves the idea of what you could be. He's blackmailing you to stay and no one who truly loves you will EVER do that to you.

You need to end it for real, and hope you can stay friends, and if he keeps up his negative views, stop talking to him all together. I imagine you bring yourself down a fair amount on your own without him helping you, especially since he's supposed to be the one making you feel better about yourself.

I don't mean to be insensitive, but you're stuck in a spiral of negativity, I've had girlfriends try to keep me around by using the "I'll kill myself" angle, and nothing good will come of it. If you're seriously worried about him hurting himself, call someone he knows and trusts and let them know what's up as you break up with him. That way people will be aware that he's in a dark place and will get him the help he needs.

[xAndrewx]

You need to end this. You're in an extremely unhealthy relationship. He doesn't love you for you, he loves the idea of what you could be. He's blackmailing you to stay and no one who truly loves you will EVER do that to you.

You need to end it for real, and hope you can stay friends, and if he keeps up his negative views, stop talking to him all together. I imagine you bring yourself down a fair amount on your own without him helping you, especially since he's supposed to be the one making you feel better about yourself.

I don't mean to be insensitive, but you're stuck in a spiral of negativity, I've had girlfriends try to keep me around by using the "I'll kill myself" angle, and nothing good will come of it. If you're seriously worried about him hurting himself, call someone he knows and trusts and let them know what's up as you break up with him. That way people will be aware that he's in a dark place and will get him the help he needs.

It sucks man but he's right You gave him a second chance and almost immediately he's telling you you're not trans and hurting you. It's probably comfortable with him even though he is causing you pain, am I right? If that is the case then just realize that if you stay with him he isn't going to stop that. He's going to continue to hurt you.

Alright, I hate to admit it but if it will help. The suicide card.... I've been there. I told one of my ex's that I would, I never really meant it I was just desperately trying to get her to stay. You try to make the person feel guilty about leaving you and make them down on themselves so that they will question what it is you don't like and even if they don't question it it lowers their self esteem so that they think no one else would want them.

She left and I'm glad she did. It gave me time to realize how sick I had gotten. I never even ended up attempting it, I talked to a councilor and I got help. It made me a better person but had she not left I'd probably still be in a vicious cycle of a bad relationship making my partner unhappy.

I'm not saying that he won't commit suicide but if he really is at that point he needs professional help and you can't help him the way he needs.

[Lee]

Pixieboy, I can't add much more than has already been said, but I just wanted to wish you luck.  It's hard, but I know you can do it!

[sej]

Wait until you have to fart and then hold him down and do it on his head.

[Griffin]

You need to end this. You're in an extremely unhealthy relationship. He doesn't love you for you, he loves the idea of what you could be. He's blackmailing you to stay and no one who truly loves you will EVER do that to you.

Could not agree more.  He's acting like the biggest a$$hole in the world to you, and I have no idea why you are bothering with him.  Just because he has problems doesn't mean you should be the one to fix them.  If he's not giving you the respect you deserve, it's time to end it for good.

Think about it this way:  if a casual friend said to you "Well, I don't think you're a guy, but whatever I know I'm right and you're wrong.  You just need to be normal for me and I don't care how you feel inside I only want you if you change."  Is anyone else said that, would you put up with it?  At what point are you willing to not put up with abusive BS from someone who claims to care about you?  Putting someone's needs above your own does NOT mean giving into their every desire or allowing your own personality to evaporate.

Seriously, end it now or be stuck with this Dbag forever.