When to tell her...

[Mister]

Brownstein doesn't do metas.  Or at least, he didn't 3 yrs ago when I had top surgery with him.

[Vancha]

Ah, this topic again.
I hope it wouldn't be intrusive, and instead mutually beneficial to me and the original poster to ask which books you specifically read on the subject.  If I were to know, it would be easier to find the information I need.  In fact, your findings themselves could be extremely valuable to many a person.

[K8]

Welcome to Susan's, MrReborn. 

There's a lot of good information and good people here.  Each of our stories is unique but we have a lot in common.  Settle in, pull up a keyboard, and explore.

Be sure to look under the Announcements heading.  There you will find the rules we live by in this little world of ours:

• Site Terms of Service and rules to live by
  
• Standard Terms and Definitions
  
• Post Ranks (including when you can upload an avatar)
  

Look through the other stuff there, too.  You'll find that you have to reach 15 posts to be able to send PMs.  It's a process of becoming part of the community, so we frown on people who pad their posts.

Welcome, and happy exploring.

- Kate