Ok, this is one of those times when I feel I've lost all perspective and I might need a slap, but...
I started insisting that folks use my new name in early 2009; It was legally changed to Jessica in May, 2009. In the beginning, especially at work, I would tell people that "Jess" was Ok for then... I figured, since my look was still a bit androgynous, that "Jess" was relatively non gender specific and it would get those who knew "him" used to my new identity gradually. My employer issued a new name badge and things went rather well...
Well it kindof backfired. On the daily work schedule, ever since, it's "Jess." On memos that involve me, it's "Jess." On greeting cards addressed to me, even from close family, it's, "Jess." When I'm introduced to people, in or out of work, it's "Jess." I chose my name very carefully and it means alot to me. I don't mind the nickname at all... but in some situations I would like my full name used, especially when it comes to introductions. I've tried to hint it to people (I don't want to sound like a crybaby) but they don't catch it. It's like my name doesn't count as much as others' normally do.
Sometimes I feel like my name will always be in parentheses. I don't feel slighted when people who have only known Jessica use it.... but when certain people say, "Jess," there's always a little accent on the name, like everyone except me is in on the joke.
Does anyone know what I mean? Has anyone felt this? Sometimes I think that, in the grand scheme of things, I should just be glad they don't call me "*****" anymore and I should stop whining. Do I need a smack? ;-)
