Am I A Virgin??

[Nygeel]

Well, if PIV was the only way to lose your virginity then lesbians would be screwed. I, like many others think that it depends. It depends on what it is that you're doing. PIV is definitely not the only option.

As would gay men, and people who don't like penetration.

[Sharky]

Sounds like they are bored and asking you inappropriate questions for entertainment. Stop humoring them and start standing up for yourself.

[Sean]

Well, if PIV was the only way to lose your virginity then lesbians would be screwed.

Or not. 

[MaxAloysius]

I've never had my clothes off around someone in a sexual situation, not even my shirt, but I've had sex, and I'm not a virgin.

Losing your viriginity is up to you and what you believe the act of having sex to be. In my opinion, even giving someone oral is sex, because of the situation you're in.

If they ask if you're a virgin, just say something equally insulting like 'Why, do you want to ->-bleeped-<- me?' 'Ask your sister' etc etc. In the long run, it's none of their business what you've done, or with whom.

I say if you've had sexual relations with someone, then you're no longer a virgin, no matter the gender of the participants.

[kyril]

I have to agree with "Ask your sister (mom, etc)" responses as the best thing to do here. It's really none of their business, but asking invasive questions to embarrass you is one of the more common forms of bullying/harassment among high school kids. And like all forms of low-level nonviolent bullying, the best response is just to refuse to give them what they want - in this case, information they can use to tease you. Don't blush, don't look scared or embarrassed, don't answer...just blow them off with something funny.

As to whether you are a virgin or not: If you've had consensual sex, you're not a virgin. "Sex" is whatever form of physical intimacy is appropriate to your particular sexual orientation, physical capabilities, likes, and interests. It sounds to me like you're not. But nobody's entitled to that information except for you and possibly your doctor if it's relevant.

[tekla]

Did it make you feel dirty yet sexy?  Then it was sex.

[JohnR]

Suicidal because someone might ask who or what you lost your virginity to and they might say that you can't be a virgin/slut/saint/horny dog because the person or thing you lost/didn't lose your virginity to doesn't count because boys/girls/thing of personal choice doesn't count. And that might make you get mad and do something stupid.

I feel very very old.

And 9 is way too young to be going the whole way anyway.

[ALX]

If you had sex and neither you nor the person you were with were forced, you're not a virgin. period. We don't hand out certificates or t shirts but there you go.. Your sex life is no one else's business though unless they're looking to sleep with you so maybe you should ask them if that is what they are looking for.......

[Kentrie]

Did it make you feel dirty yet sexy?  Then it was sex.

No, I didn't.

[Mr.Rainey]

If you have to have sex with a guy to lose your virginity, than there are a lot of lesbian virgins out there.

And all staight men would be virgins too lol

[Alex37]

This.

I have to agree with "Ask your sister (mom, etc)" responses as the best thing to do here. It's really none of their business, but asking invasive questions to embarrass you is one of the more common forms of bullying/harassment among high school kids. And like all forms of low-level nonviolent bullying, the best response is just to refuse to give them what they want - in this case, information they can use to tease you. Don't blush, don't look scared or embarrassed, don't answer...just blow them off with something funny.

Dealing with bullies in high school is like staring down an aggressive pit bull that wants to tear your throat out because it's scared.  Don't let them think they have anything on you, and as much as you can, don't give them anything on you, and don't hesitate/ act nervous.  Just act like you don't care one bit what they think.