Quote from: Forum Admin on January 03, 2011, 08:47:48 PM
May ask what it is about it? It just feels normal. If you're looking at examples online, make sure they haven't had a release or meta. Without that, they don't normally stick out that much.
The enlarge clit makes me feel uncomfortable. Females don't normally have enlarge clits down there. Some do yes, but most females don't. To me, clits are not supposed to be that big, they are just supposed to be small where ya can't see it or feel it, or have it sticking out of the vagina. I don't like change, so that change down there, is gunna freak me out.
But you mentioned that it just feels normal, so that makes me feel better. I thought I was gunna feel different down there with an enlarge clit, maybe uncomfortable or something.
Quote from: Nathan. on January 03, 2011, 09:03:38 PM
If your fears outweigh the positives for you then personally I think you shouldn't go on T or atleast wait till you're a bit more sure.
I had fears before going on T but the positives have alway outweighed the fears and the side affects on T that I wouldn't like
I think my issue with T tend to be more religious. I'm terrified I'll go to hell for changing my gender. But those are issues I have to work on.
Quote from: Keiran84 on January 03, 2011, 09:24:52 PM
Like our Admin, I also don't understand this particular concern. Gender and body dysphoria is different for all of us of course, but I don't know too many guys, trans or no, who don't want a dick. Before I could put a name to the organ, I feel that I always knew I was missing something, as if my brain were wired to expect different genitalia. I'd rather have a very tiny dick than none at all.
You can say it wouldn't really be a dick, but if you look at enough pictures of uncircumcised penises, you'll see they look extremely similar. I think some of the recognition issues (in the states especially) come from the fact that until extremely recently, almost all boys in the US were circumcised, which does drastically alter the look of a penis. Anyways, save for the size and lack of urethra, it's anatomically the same organ as a clitoris, and T can provide enough enhancement of it to enable surgery to provide you with the most normally functioning and appearing (albeit small) penis you can realistically achieve in the foreseeable future, as I don't expect phalloplasty or transplants to have any great advancements anytime soon.
As for your family not being on board with you beginning HRT, it could be that they're just extremely intolerant and resistant to your transition, or it could be (partially at least) because you're expressing doubts to them through either words or actions. The threads I've seen of yours lately do seem to express a lot of concerns about T, be it side effects and whether it will produce the results you want. It also seemed at times that you weren't aware of some of the risks and effects (as well as anatomy/ medical info) until someone mentioned it just days ago. I would advocate doing lots of research, medical and anecdotal before broaching the subject with your mother and grandma again. You can't expect them to be on board for something with such permanent effects if you're not sure yourself. If you've got open-minded and supportive friends it's totally cool to discuss pros and cons and fears/worries with them, but with already skeptical and reluctant parties (especially ones you live with and rely on for financial support), you need to be resolute, confident in your choices, and able to answer questions and concerns they might have without contradicting yourself.
And sadly, you need to plan your next move should the dreaded ultimatum be declared: "if you're on hormones, you're out of this house."
To me, an enlarge clit, is not a dick. No offense to anyone, it's just how I feel. I know in other posts, people have said that the clit is in fact a dick, but to me, I don't see it like that. I want a real penis, something that straight women want. Straight women don't want an enlarge clit, or a small penis, they want a guy with a real penis and I don't have that and never will. An enlarge clit does not satisfied me. I want a real penis that I can stand up and pee out of.
I'm sorry I do not mean to offend anyone, it's not meant to offend anyone, I'm just stating how I feel for me. This is just how I'm seeing it.
for my family it has to do with religion and what's best for me. My mom and grandmother just don't want to be me go through more pain in my life and be more unhappy.
My mom said she would never kick me out. I always threaten to move out b/c I'm not getting the support from her. But she's praying for understanding, but she said she would never kick me. Even if I'm not T, she won't kick me out. It's just gunna be hard for her and everyone else, including me.
Quote from: Keiran84 on January 03, 2011, 09:24:52 PM
Like our Admin, I also don't understand this particular concern. Gender and body dysphoria is different for all of us of course, but I don't know too many guys, trans or no, who don't want a dick. Before I could put a name to the organ, I feel that I always knew I was missing something, as if my brain were wired to expect different genitalia. I'd rather have a very tiny dick than none at all.
You can say it wouldn't really be a dick, but if you look at enough pictures of uncircumcised penises, you'll see they look extremely similar. I think some of the recognition issues (in the states especially) come from the fact that until extremely recently, almost all boys in the US were circumcised, which does drastically alter the look of a penis. Anyways, save for the size and lack of urethra, it's anatomically the same organ as a clitoris, and T can provide enough enhancement of it to enable surgery to provide you with the most normally functioning and appearing (albeit small) penis you can realistically achieve in the foreseeable future, as I don't expect phalloplasty or transplants to have any great advancements anytime soon.
As for your family not being on board with you beginning HRT, it could be that they're just extremely intolerant and resistant to your transition, or it could be (partially at least) because you're expressing doubts to them through either words or actions. The threads I've seen of yours lately do seem to express a lot of concerns about T, be it side effects and whether it will produce the results you want. It also seemed at times that you weren't aware of some of the risks and effects (as well as anatomy/ medical info) until someone mentioned it just days ago. I would advocate doing lots of research, medical and anecdotal before broaching the subject with your mother and grandma again. You can't expect them to be on board for something with such permanent effects if you're not sure yourself. If you've got open-minded and supportive friends it's totally cool to discuss pros and cons and fears/worries with them, but with already skeptical and reluctant parties (especially ones you live with and rely on for financial support), you need to be resolute, confident in your choices, and able to answer questions and concerns they might have without contradicting yourself.
And sadly, you need to plan your next move should the dreaded ultimatum be declared: "if you're on hormones, you're out of this house."
To me, an enlarge clit, is not a dick. No offense to anyone, it's just how I feel. I know in other post, people have said that the clit is in fact a dick, but to me, I don't see it like that. I want a real penis, something that straight women want. Straight women don't want an enlarge clit, or a small penis, they want a guy with a real penis and I don't have that and never will. An enlarge clit does not satisfied me. I want a real penis that I can stand up and pee out of.
I'm sorry I do not mean to offend anyone, it's not meant to offend anyone, I'm just stating how I feel for me. This is just how I'm seeing it.
for my family it has to do with religion and what's best for me. My mom and grandmother just don't want me to go through more pain in my life and be more unhappy.
My mom said she would never kick me out. I always threaten to move out b/c I'm not getting the support I want from her. But she's praying for understanding, but she said she would never kick me. Even if I'm not T, she won't kick me out. It's just gunna be hard for her and everyone else, including me.
Quote from: tekla on January 03, 2011, 11:48:58 PM
I would love not to work, but I need the money.
Really? REALLY? It's kind of funny that I work with multi-millionaires who just want to work one more night. When the day comes that they don't have that one more night, a huge part of their life will be over. My boss buys trains (not train sets, like 1935 club cars and rehabs them and leases them out), he can (because I've watched) write checks for $250,000. He works everyday, hates to have a day off, hates going on vacation. I'm 55 and the thought of having to retire fills me with dread. Luckily with the economy I doubt I'll ever have that luxury.
While it's true that guys just don't pull out their dicks and compare them they do compare jobs and pay - same thing, different method. Not to be able to play that game, is to not be a part of the group.
I hate my job so much, words can't describe how much I hate it. I feel agony all day at work. I feel like I'm going into hell everyday. Thank God it's just a temp job. I like the people there, but I hate HATE the job. It' bores me to death. It's an easy job but bores the hell out of me. It's not my dream job. If I had a job I liked I wouldn't mind going into work, depending the hours. I know what I want to be, it's getting there is the hard part. I wanna go back to school so I can pursue my dream. But I want to go back to school as a male.
