anyone else been stabbed in the back?

[supremecatoverlord]

Malachite, it's really not necessary to keep reviving all of these topics, especially when the OP is no longer active.
It kind of confuses me and makes think there's a new and interesting topic to post on, but really it's just an old thread.

[Devlyn]

I was slashed across the back in a fight, not stabbed, does that count? I have a devil of a scar! Hugs, Devlyn

[Natkat]

my mom did that pretty much after I came out,
she said it where fine and she loved me anyway, but she got angry when I talked about changing my name and said I picked a name only criminals got, when I got on homones she said I would turn ill, when I talked about surgery she said transgender people who got surgery turned misserable afterward, and she didnt want me to mention anything about me being trans and if I got banish form the school cause of it then it wa s my own fautl..

I where like.. Okay where is your surport??

she turned much better now, but shes still call me by female pronouce and I cant really trust her cause I fear she is actually in denial of whats going on.

[Devlyn]

@ JasonRX, try the decaff. Malachite can post anywhere he likes, it doesn't have to pass your sniff test. Hugs, Devlyn

[King Malachite]

I don't really mind if the OP isn't active anymore but for many of the current topics a lot of them have to do with stuff like doctors, T, binding, stealth, etc or needing advice or opinions on things that I can't actively give at the moment so I rather do topics I know a little bit about than to lie about something I have no experience with.

Besides when I first got started here the questions /siuations that showed up in my google search were from years ago.    I think some guest in the future and even some new members could benefit from some topics being revived but that's just me.    It worked for me in a few cases.

[Marvel]

I've only had it happen with one person who could really hurt me with it, but I've found it to be pretty common for people to be accepting at first or in theory, but not when time goes by and you take steps toward transition. I see a lot of transpeople being accused of selfishness for making other people uncomfortable. Which is belittling imo because that assumes we just do this on a lark or something.

this is what happened to me and parents

[niamh]

My sister (21 at the time) who I told in confidence a few years after I had previously come out to my parents. She pretended to be okay with it and I even sent her pics of me dressed. Behind my back she told my folks and they came down heavy on me. Was horrible. We have never spoken about it again and we don't have any relationship.

To a lesser degree, everyone I have told that has had a positive initial reaction has since disowned me. Everyone bar my wife. Now I not only don't tell anyone any more I don't bother getting to know anyone. If I'm not close to anyone they can't hurt me. Just this week my wife's best friend of three years told her that she never wanted to see us again because we 'weren't interesting enough'. People can be such aholes. Her best friend, imagine! My wife was in tears in the kitchen. Put a damper on the beginning of the week.

[Natkat]

people can be such horrible creatures.
I used to think of it like this, that if you really accept something then your are willing to let children in it.
Often I find people to turn from right to left when children are in the picture exemple.

"I dont mind muslims"
"could a muslim take care of your children"
"no"

"I dont mind gay people, but they should not be able to adopt"

"I dont mind transexuals, but there not going to teach my kid in school how to do math"

[Devin87]

This is less stabbed in the back as it is left high and dry.  I'm home in NH for the week and I'm taking advantage of that by going into Boston to Fenway Health to meet with the head of the transgender health program to talk about getting on testosterone.  My friend who was my best-joined-at-the-hip friend from 1st grade to high school said she'd go with me and "support me the whole way".  Morning of the appointment she's all of a sudden not talking to me.  Normally I wouldn't care, but I'm counting on her to be my ride into Boston this afternoon.  I threw together a quick contingency plan, part of which involved asking my mom to drive me to the bus stop to which she replied "I don't agree with this and think it's a phase" (I'm 25 years old.  If it's a phase, it's a long fracking phase).  I finally did convince my mom to drive me to the bus stop by telling her it's a mental health evaluation and his job is to find out if it is a phase, but still.  It took an already stressful situation and just made it even more stressful.  Now I'm just hoping to hear back from my friend so I don't have to worry about taking a bus into Boston by myself and then going around on the T to find this place I've never been.

[Devlyn]

The T has good info and maps, you'll be OK. Hugs, Devlyn

[Renee D]

Yep, by family and friends, but I gave up caring about it.  If anyone doesn't want me in their life just because I am trans, then fine, I'll do just fine without them.

[Noah James]

Yeah, I kinda went through the same thing with my older step-sister. She was actually the first person I told, and at first she seemed okay with it. Ya know, asking questions and being generally supportive; saying things like "Yeah, I guess I should've seen that coming" and "Mom once said she thought you'd be more comfortable in a boy's body". But half a year later she did a 180 and was completely against the idea, saying that I was too young to be making these kind of decisions and that I was probably making a mistake. We haven't really talked since then. 

[Fairy In Boots]

I have an aunt, who I used to be close to, that asked me what was going on with me. So I just flat out told her that I was a boy. She was cool with. Even told me that since my parents didn't support it, that I could come over just to be able to be me. Well, its been about a year and now she says that it isn't right and im going to go to hell. Has anybody just all of a sudden changed their mind about it to any of y'all? Cause it really sucks...

This kind of thing hasn't explicitly happened, but I do suspect it's the reason one of my (now-former) local friends just suddenly, out of the blue, decided that I'm "scary and dangerous", even though the worst all our mutual friends can say about me is that I'm "weird and obnoxious" and that I was this way long before transitioning.

If you're pagan, I'd recommend some kind of cleansing ritual to help you move on from it, but depending on how close you and your aunt were, some kind of family therapy might also be helpful.  Wish I had it in my conscience to say "It Gets Better™", but I don't know that for sure.