The Way They Talk

[Kitpup]

My friends and family, all open-minded accepting people. I understand exactly how lucky I am that  they all accept me and don't put me down or make comments like I know other's families do. But there are just... certain things... they say, how they phrase things, that just drive me INSANE. Two people in particular:
My mother, when I came out to her, sort of just looked at me in the most bland way and said "So you want to get surgery." I couldn't even figure out how to respond to that, she said it like I wanted a nose job or something. She was so understanding and supportive when I told her I like girls that I still can't believe her complete... blandness.
My good friend Wes, the only guy I ever fooled around with (before I figured out who I am), has also been one of the most understanding and supportive people I've ever known, I talk to him about everything. But he keeps calling me a 'male-minded female'. Like it's something that is just in my head. Oh, he uses male pronouns like all of my friends, but still whenever that falls out in conversation I can't help but feel the urge to scream and shout 'that's not how it is at all!'

I feel like a whiner for saying this, I know I'm ridiculously lucky, but still, what do they not get?

[Alexmakenoise]

I imagine being trans is really hard to understand if you haven't experienced it.  As you progress in your transition, and they have more time to learn about what being trans is all about, they'll probably grow to understand better.

[GQjoey]

I second Alex. Even though frustrating, you seem to have a solid support group, whether they fully grasp it all yet or not. I went through a similar situation years back in my mid teens, with a few friends whom I'd known since childhood. They'd ask questions like "So, when you're 18, you'll just get another guys penis that wants to be a girl?" Which, being completely ignorant myself, I thought that was the trade-off.
All I can suggest is leading in them in the direction of some solid material online, of what being a ftm entails. Sometimes your experience in itself isn't enough to help others understand. On the bright side, these same friends I mentioned above, 10+ years later, are still the closest, most understanding friends I could ever ask for. Time, patience, and knowledge will bring them a long way. The love is already there, which is most important.