Giving away my boy clothes

[Melody Maia]

Moving out in a little over a week. The divorce will be final shortly thereafter, so I went through all my boy clothes and took the opportunity to give the majority away. Just keeping the bare minimum to get by in boy-mode in Florida until I go full-time. It is both very sad and liberating. I can't wait until I can get rid off ALL my boy things!

[Hannah]

Oh, God, I know exactly how that feels. My room is almost totally bare and I've been living with only a couple of changes of clothes so I'm anxiously awaiting the day where I can toss the rest.

[Rock_chick]

Even better is getting a sewing machine and turning your old boy clothes into cute girl clothes.

but yeah, i'm going through all my old clothes at the moment and dividing them into stuff to sell, stuff to turn into other stuff and stuff to go to the charity shop.

[azSam]

OMG! I just did that about 2 months ago. I gave away almost all of my boy clothes. It feels soooo good, but at the same time it's scary, and it's kind of sad. I made sure to give them to a person who really needed them.

Congratulations Melody, that's a big step. Where in Florida are you planning to visit? Orlando area by any chance?

[Janet_Girl]

Sorry to hear that your marriage is coming to an end.  But now you can clean out closets and look forward to a little "shopping therapy".

I remember the day I clean his stuff out of my closets.   

[AmySmiles]

Hee hee.  I'm looking forward to that step as well, but I don't know if anybody would want my old stuff.  Used to have a little problem with underarm sweat you see...  I can only imagine how liberating it must feel

Do let us know if you'll be near Orlando yes, you could come to the group there and meet a few of us crazy Susan's people.

[Melody Maia]

I will be moving in with my mom in Clermont, so yes near Orlando. Should be there until April or so. Plan is to go full-time there and then proceed on to the NYC area.

I have already looked up the center in Orlando, so yes it looks like I will be meeting both of you soon!

[azSam]

Yay!! When do you plan to move down here?

[Melody Maia]

Yay!! When do you plan to move down here?

A week or so from Monday.

[Sarah B]

Yes, Yes.  What a feeling I bet that was?  I still remember to this day, when I dumped my old clothes in a bin and my long time friend was there when it happened.  Thinking back on that particular moment, I was not wearing them, so I decided to dump them, there and then and I never hesitated or looked back in doing so.  Like a purge in reverse!

Have fun shopping.

Kind regards
Sarah B

[Melody Maia]

Thanks everyone. I feel like I am almost done exiting a nightmare period of my life. I have hope that the most emotionally painful bits are ending and I can finally have some fun exploring who I am and what I like.

[Jillieann Rose]

Melody,
This has got to be an exciting time for you.
You are now starting over free of all that old emotional baggage, and some clothing too.
I wish you a great new beginning. Do share whats happening will you.

You remind me of when I threw out all the guy under things.
I didn't hold anything back and it was very liberating.
I still have some guys outwear, some day I will get rid of most of that too.

Oh Melody, do have fun, life is to short not too. 
Hugs,
Jillieann

[juliemac]

20 years later I still have some. A shirt from the USAF, my lab coat and a few bits and pieces.
Girls can wear guy stuff. No need to dispose of every thing.
Underwear? Yes 

((tells how old I am. Working on computers, we wore white lab coats 

[Sarah B]

I must apologise, I do have something from the old days.  It is actually a track suit top with all the various swimming badges and emblems from various swim meets. 

Nope, I will not get rid of that item, too sentimental.

Kind regards
Sarah B

[wannalivethetruth]

I did the same thing

[Rebekah with a K-A-H]

Aww, see. I'm going to get rid of my collared shirts and give all my ties to Dad, but I like most of my clothes!  Even if they're not all cut in a particularly flattering way, I have a ton of comfy pants and shirts that I would miss if I were to give them away.

(Blazers, however, can die a miserable death. I have to wear them occasionally for special occasions at school, and they make me look ridiculous: huge shoulders and a foot and a half of room around because of my slight frame. I look forward to the day where I can give every single one of those away.)

[Melody Maia]

In a fit of industriousness I purged much more than clothes. I spent the early evening going through all sorts of boxes, dividing out books and throwing away all sorts of things. I still had old t-shirts, trophies, college notebooks and textbooks and even love letters from the soon-to-be ex. All gone. What was left was my life distilled down to one plastic storage box. Unbelievable really. Next week I pack my clothes, a few files/documents, some videos and software and that's it. I am ready to go. I can't believe it has come to this, but I guess I really shouldn't be surprised.

[AbbyJ]

I remember tossing all of my boy things out. It was a big commitment. It's one of the first really big steps that says, "I'm not going back." Best of luck in Florida.

[Sarah B]

When I left all I had was a car, clothes and a couple of personal papers.  Virtually nothing now I have everything.  Its not perfect, but hey, that's life.

Take care and all the best for the future Melody.

Kind regards
Sarah B

[Melody Maia]

When I left all I had was a car, clothes and a couple of personal papers.  Virtually nothing now I have everything.  Its not perfect, but hey, that's life.

Take care and all the best for the future Melody.

Kind regards
Sarah B

Well, I will have the same, plus a computer, some software, movies and books. I will of course also have half of our monetary assets which will help a whole lot. My mom is offering me her home rent free as long as I need it, so I am not going to cry poverty by any means. It is still a humbling experience though.

Tonight I also came out on my male profile in Facebook and told everyone to refer to me from now on with female pronouns on my female profile. This is the end of my male identity and the beginning of my female one.