Pet hates in your partner

[Alex37]

This

The guy i am currently dating...is the perfect example of mr. fix-it and gives solutions to everything. I can't really complain though because he is so sweet in every way =]

I know it's kinda off topic, but can someone explain this?  Why don't most girls want to hear solutions to their problems after they explained them to someone?  I mean, either way you know someone cared enough to listen to you, but if they suggest a solution then you know that they not only care enough to listen, but enough to think about what you're saying, and now you have advice to consider.  It doesn't make sense to me, but to each his/her own. 

My partner for the life of him cannot handle paperwork.  I hate it too, but I guess I have a scientific mind, so I get stuck with it.  Also, he does not know where the mail boxes in our apartment complex are, let alone our number.  he's awesome other than that.

[CaitJ]

Sometimes I want a solution, sometimes I don't.
Actually, most of the time I don't; because I'm intelligent, rational, independent and capable - so if if there is a solution, I've probably already figured it out on my own.
So if I share my problem, it's just that - an exercise in sharing, so that my partner knows what I've been thinking about/doing lately.
On the rare occasion that I do want a solution, then I'll ask for a solution.
i.e. "Hey love, I've been having this problem at work and I was wondering if you could help me with it..."

[spacial]

Why don't most girls want to hear solutions to their problems after they explained them to someone?  I mean, either way you know someone cared enough to listen to you, but if they suggest a solution then you know that they not only care enough to listen, but enough to think about what you're saying, and now you have advice to consider.  It doesn't make sense to me, but to each his/her own. 

I've found that, unless people specifically ask for a solutions or help, they they don't want it. They just need to rant/sound off/talk, like we all do, sometimes.

Offering advice, when it isn't asked for, can often be annoying.

[PixieBoy]

He likes fighting game (Mortal Kombat, etc). He can't stand spicy food (how will I ever cook anything?! I don't want a corpse on my hands...). He says my music is too sad (Bauhaus, sad?). He doesn't drink tea OR coffee.

Yeah. Otherwise, he's alright. I mean, he's nice to me and such. He is also trying his darned best to respect me as a man, and treat me as such, which feels good. He's a sweet guy, and I'm converting him into becoming a Jhonen Vasquez fan and such, so that we can recite quotes endlessly to each other.

[tekla]

Why don't most girls want to hear solutions to their problems after they explained them to someone?

Well because they already have the solution (or are smart enough to know there isn't one), and 'the problem' isn't the focus, it's only a metaphor or vehicle for talking about everyone around the problem.

[spacial]

Sometimes, when she offers me some help with something and i don't need it, she gets all upset.

So she becomes the one with the problem!!

[spacial]

OK, so this isn't exactly a pet hate, but something that makes me smile when I don't want to.

She'll look at me and say, 'Don't look at me in that tone of voice'.

[Jacquelyn]

OK, so this isn't exactly a pet hate, but something that makes me smile when I don't want to.

She'll look at me and say, 'Don't look at me in that tone of voice'.

LOL. I say that to my SO all the time. 

[SarahM777]

                                                              The Question

Twas the end of a long week and having a much needed respite,a time to spend with my beloved and revel in our companionship. As we prepared for our evening out my heart is filled with excitement and joy. Tender thoughts of my beloved one flow freely. But alas at the back of my mind is that nagging feeling of dread. Perhaps i may be spared the question that fills me with fear. May my beloved spare me tonight.
I have sought the answer to this perplexing dilemma near and far. I have sought out the wise,but alas to no end. Will my beloved accept the answer i have so long affirmed?
As she has finished her preparation for the night,she appears a vision of loveliness, my heart leaps with joy. I tell my beloved how wonder she looks and a slight smile appears but alas as we head out the door the question i dreaded has come from her lips. Alas as i ponder anew for my sentence is near for i am doomed to a week of solitude with only the comfort of my pillow and couch. Honey does this dress make me look fat?

And no she was not fat,