Did he just check me out?

[CaitJ]

It happened again today...twice (not the same guy thankfully).

The feminist in me wants to take the male gaze on put its nuts in a vice, but another bit of me is kind of feeling appreciated (and a wee bit validated)

It's a tough call, that one. It's nice to be thought of as attractive, but it's not nice to be objectified.
Being trans makes it doubly tough.
I guess if I was a big, hirsute, stone butch wearing flannel and work boots, I probably wouldn't get objectified by men though.

[Debra]

I caught some office type (he wasn't that pretty) giving a really furtive and guilty glance...he looked decidedly embarrassed when i spotted him. that's classic guy caught staring at the girl behaviour isn't it?

I mean he could have clocked me, but for some reason I just don't think he'd clocked me...don't know why, i must have just woken up on the right side of the bed this morning.

Yes, yes it is. =) And despite most of the staff here knowing me before my transition....I have caught new guys looking =P

[pretty pauline]

Yep your getting checked out, just enjoy it and get use to it, Im now married to a wonderful guy but still get guys looking, its nice, great just being a woman.
p

[Rock_chick]

It's a tough call, that one. It's nice to be thought of as attractive, but it's not nice to be objectified.
Being trans makes it doubly tough.
I guess if I was a big, hirsute, stone butch wearing flannel and work boots, I probably wouldn't get objectified by men though.

yeah, the proto-feminist in me defintely wants to go and buy  vice 

[MillieB]

yeah, the proto-feminist in me defintely wants to go and buy  vice 

Meh! Guys will be guys and you are a looker!

Just try not to imagine them hunched over a speeding fist doing their best gurn! haha!

For the non brits who don't know what a gurn is, it's this!

[Rock_chick]

It'll be interesting in summer, just to see how many of them have their eyes tracking at chest level.

the proto-feminist really will go out and buy a vice then

[CaitJ]

It'll be interesting in summer, just to see how many of them have their eyes tracking at chest level.

Most of them. Apparently it's a impulsive behaviour for men to look at a woman's breasts first, then at her face.
When I'm feeling brave and assertive, I'll walk down the street and check where men's eye start when looking at me; depressingly, the majority do exactly what I've described - chest first, face after.
Although, it doesn't help that my tits are at eye level for most men 

[Lacey Lynne]

Uhmmmmm... I wouldn't be too surprised if he was checking you out, you're a hottie!

Helena's not the only hottie on this post!  Takes one to know one, right?  Count your blessings, hon.  If your significant other doesn't appreciate you that much, well they darned sure should. 

Okay, so I'm cyber-flirting.  At my age, so what?  Let an aging hippie chick have her fun.   Besides, on the radio as I write this, they're playing slammin' Eric Clapton (Cream) from back in The Day (1967)!  Life is good!  Rock on!  Yeah, I'm playin' air guitar!  Smart and pretty girls and Sixties Flashbacks on a Saturday night ... THIS is livin' good!

   Lacey

[Jacquelyn]

Helena's not the only hottie on this post!  Takes one to know one, right?  Count your blessings, hon.  If your significant other doesn't appreciate you that much, well they darned sure should. 

Okay, so I'm cyber-flirting.  At my age, so what?  Let an aging hippie chick have her fun.   Besides, on the radio as I write this, they're playing slammin' Eric Clapton (Cream) from back in The Day (1967)!  Life is good!  Rock on!  Yeah, I'm playin' air guitar!  Smart and pretty girls and Sixties Flashbacks on a Saturday night ... THIS is livin' good!

   Lacey

If only my SO felt that way. Lol.

Thanks, Lacy. I haven't blushed that hard in a while.

Hugs,
Jackie

[MillieB]

The weird thing is that altough I'm still in guy mode most of the time. I have had a fair bit more attention from girls since starting hrt Now this isn't really my thing , wanna swop?

[Rock_chick]

sounds like a fair swap to me Millie

[sweetie87]

It happened again today...twice (not the same guy thankfully).

The feminist in me wants to take the male gaze on put its nuts in a vice, but another bit of me is kind of feeling appreciated (and a wee bit validated)

welcome to womanhood. Just enjoy it girl! Only when they continue to gaze at tits,but,face,etc as if they are undressing you with their eyes it becomes uncomfortable. One day me and a friend were walking a busy street near traffic lights... a car with two boys in it was speeding and using the horn and waving to us... and then in a split second *BAM* the car crashed right into another car waiting for the traffic light...it was kind of funny! haha

[Melody Maia]

If only my SO felt that way. Lol.

Thanks, Lacy. I haven't blushed that hard in a while.

Hugs,
Jackie

I second what Lacey said Jackie. Your SO will regret it for a long time if he lets you get away. I know I would.

And Helena, you're a hottie and will have to just deal with the male attention even if you prefer the distaff side! 

[pretty pauline]

welcome to womanhood. Just enjoy it girl! Only when they continue to gaze at tits,but,face,etc as if they are undressing you with their eyes it becomes uncomfortable. One day me and a friend were walking a busy street near traffic lights... a car with two boys in it was speeding and using the horn and waving to us... and then in a split second *BAM* the car crashed right into another car waiting for the traffic light...it was kind of funny! haha

It happens lol I was in traffic when a truck driver in a high cab staring down into my car and staring down my lowcut dress at my cleavage, I avoided eye contact, but feeling his eyes on my girls made me blush, its nice to be seen as an attractive woman and just enjoying womanhood.
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[sweetie87]

It happens lol I was in traffic when a truck driver in a high cab staring down into my car and staring down my lowcut dress at my cleavage, I avoided eye contact, but feeling his eyes on my girls made me blush, its nice to be seen as an attractive woman and just enjoying womanhood.
p

Yeah, even without eye contact you just 'feel' when they are checking you out just as the truck driver did on you... Flirting when in a traffic jam or when awaiting traffic lights in a multiple-lane street is also funny

[MarinaM]

I think I'll jump on here and tell y'all something that happened to me today. I walked into the shoe store (SALE!) and was immediately greeted by the cashier in the sort of silly male half sing-song "Hey look at what just walked through the door" kind of voice. He was interested, I know he was, he started to strut around and he asked me if I needed help three times in the twenty minutes I spent there. I am by no means confident about my voice, but I sucked it up and gave what little responses I felt confident giving. He made the most concerted effort to try and sell me handbags, lip gloss, jewelry, socks... It was totally cute, and sort of made me feel like: staaalker at the same time. Then I realized: "Oh no, my stupid beard shadow that he hasn't yet noticed, the name on my card!"

He fell apart at the register. Totally retracted and embarrassed. Yeah, this stuff really, really needs to go, and soon.

[Elijah3291]

feel good huh? what were you wearing when he checked you out?

you know, I was never checked out as a girl, I guess I was awkward (duh!) but I got hit on by 2 straight girls a week ago, and even though im gay and taken, it was pretty cool.

[MarinaM]

I was conservatively dressed. Well, except for heels, because I felt I needed a "boost" of femininity. Form fitting straight leg jeans, tan peacoat, white shirt. I was on my way to school, but never made it there due to a family issue.

It felt great all the way up to the end!

[Serra]

the name on my card!"

That's why I pay for everything in cash nowadays.  Or for club cards that don't have my name on them, they're "my brother's."  Had a funny situation at a game store when the cashier said "Oh, I think I saw him last week!  Tell him hi for me!"
A couple weeks ago I was at work putting up sale labels after close with another associate, one of my friends who was the first person I told at work.  I had a slightly lower cut shirt on and I finally had to say "Tony.  Eyes up here."  He got the "Oh crap, caught..." look on his face but didn't say anything.  I guess I pass pretty well?

[Rock_chick]

Well I can now add being meowed at and being wolf whistled at in the growing repetoire of bloody stupid things men do when they see a pretty girl.