Would you prevent your child from being TG?

[Debtv]

I think someday this will be possible....what would we, as tg, do?

We all want the best for our children. I know my tgism caused me (and still does) a lot of misery. I suppose I would 'opt' to monitor my woman and prevent my child from being transgender. Sad but true.

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[Cassandra]

Absolutely,

If I could make sure that my child's mind and body remained in cinque throughout the fetal development I would do it in a heart beat. Why should my children have to go through the same things I had to when they can come out right in the first palce?

Cassie

[Leigh]

Rest assured that if this were possible, the *correct* segment of society would find a way to make adjustments mandatory.

[stephanie_craxford]

Right on Leigh,  as we speak, right now in a lot of Indian societies, parents are finding out what sex their child for the explicit reason that if it is  a girl they abort it, as girls are so expensive by way of dowries when they get married.

I can imagine what the Pat Robertson's in the world, who freely advocate assassination, would be advocating.

Truly though, I believe that I would let nature take it's course, as who am I to determine who populates this world.  My child would be loved, cared for and supported no matter what 

Steph

[Leigh]

Girls/women have little or no value in many societies.

Thailand school system is suppported by funding from the parents.  Boys go, girls don't.

Self determination.  Would I want my son to have to deal with this, NO.  Would I support his decision, YES.

[Shelley]

  Would I want my son to have to deal with this, NO.  Would I support his decision, YES.

You've got in a nuthell there Liegh. I'd only add son/daughter for me. I've got six, five boys one girl.

Shelley

[stephanie_craxford]

I've got six, five boys one girl.

Yikes 

[Chaunte]

Rest assured that if this were possible, the *correct* segment of society would find a way to make adjustments mandatory.

A recently replayed episode of Star Trek the next generation dealt directly with this issue.  Imagine a world where there is NO gender; uniformity is the norm as dictated by law.  Acting as a male or female is a criminal act, and the person is forced to undergo corrective psychiatic treatment to remove these "inferior" gender desires.

Those who have gender preferences and want to avoid manditory treatment for this "sickness"are forced into deep-stealth lives.  They present to the world a facade that is a total fabrication.

Sort of sounds alot like myself and many of my sisters and brothers here at Susans....

[VeryGnawty]

I would not.

I believe that everything happens for a reason, regardless of whether or not we know what that reason is.

[Cassandra]

Okay, I've changed my mind. Can I change my vote? Ya'll have brought up some fine points. I did not consider all of the aspects of such a decision. Who decides which gender is the correct one in order to make the adjustment. Do they go after the body or the mind. I was only considering haveing the body adjusted to fit the mind. I didn't consider the possibility that if you could alter one you could alter the other. I would not want anybody futsing around with my childs mind. So put me down in the definetely not column.

See, that's what's so great about this place. You get a lot of input that helps in making informed and thoughtful decisions. 


Cassie

[Kimberly]

You should be able to edit your vote now 

[Shelley]

If I had a choice of whether my child would be TG I would choose that they were correctly gender aligned.

I like you would not force my children into anything and will and do respect their choices. There is however one very clear exception, I try to bring my children up to be accepting of the differences between people whether they be be physical, sexual or psychological.

I don't think that you necessarily have to experience something to be accepting and often witnessing something wrong is all that is required to judge it that way. You don't have to experience bigotry to know its wrong and to be accepting of the individuals that receive it from others.

Shelley

[Sarah Louise]

For what it is worth, I don't think you can "prevent" your child from being who they are.

My parents weren't happy that I wanted to dress and be a woman.  They did everything they could to prevent it, from beatings, to being locked in my room, to shrinks.  Obviously, nothing worked.

If my children were TS's, I would rather help them, than make them go through the heartaches and problems I did.

Sarah

[Ellen]

i would support him or her complety , but i would be sure this is what they realy and truely want, as it will be hard for anyone.

[Glora Femboy]

I do believe, (if I have kids), that I would not stop them from being TG, i would support them fully no matter what. And, I would understand their plight, if they can take the heat from society, I say let them.

[Northern Jane]

If it could be prevented (so that it never manifested) OF COURSE! Why would you WISH to allow a situation that would cause so much pain and confusion to befall a child!!!

That's a totally different situation than having an abortion.

Of course, if it didn't work, the child would have my unconditional support!

[Leigh]

Why would you WISH to allow a situation that would cause so much pain and confusion to befall a child!!!

Self actualization.  The ability for a person to control their own destiny.  A parent can educate, shelter, guide but to take literal control, not for me.  This is akin to selecting the sex of an child before birth.  Predetermining what they will be like.  Very much like the mutilation that peeps who are IS go through.

Its the time travel paradox.  What would happen if you altered you past?   You could have ended up a drug addict, on the street.  You might not be alive today if your past had been changed.

[Terri-Gene]

Besides, most TS or TG people perfectly well realize that while being perceived as the wrong gender is a pain all of it's own, most of the problems we develop are caused by the rejection and discrimination that results.

Would you be a party to this rejection etc... concerning your own child?

Terri

[beth]

              I think the answer depends on whether we mean before a child is conceived, or changing a child once it is alive. I wouldn't have a transsexual child if I had a choice ahead of time but I wouldn't change a child I already had.

             This reminds me of how I felt when I witnessed the birth of my grandson, they said it's a boy, and I immediately thought "God I hope it really is"


beth

[Cassandra]

Of course we want the best for our children, but as has been pointed out in this thread should we meddle and where does meddling in the natural development end? What other consequences do we incur through such a process. I think, leave well enough alone. For us we have an advantage we can offer to our children should they turn out TS. Our experience.

Cassie