Hi,
not sure how to put this. For a while now my mornings start off with a double bourbon and a few sips of it throughout the day. In the evening usually a double again. I'm not sloshed anymore, but this every day thing kinda bugs me.
Especially when I'm not at home. When I'm somewhere else where I can't do that. I usually tell myself that I'll be home at night and can have all the bourbon I need. I don't need very much.
I can go days without needing any. And then some day I wake up and I just know that it is a bad day and the following days wil be just as bad. Then I tiptoe around the bottle forever, before I tell myself "what the heck". I'm not good in telling myself "no" when I need something.
I feel like there is a cork in my chest, that blocks up all the air. It's not that I can't breathe. I can. It's just that I keep bottling up everything I feel because I have to function in every day life.
I can't be myself. And I'm just numb sometimes. I feel like doing stupid things. Sometimes I just want to get wasted on liquor just to give the world the finger.
Just for a few hours of not having to be that woman that everybody sees.
And sometimes I feel like hurting myself, too. I don't know myself, when I'm like this.
It is just not me. Only time I did it before was when I was a teen and had a lot of stress. I used to burn myself. And for a few weeks now Ihave been thinking about doing it again.
Then dismissing the thought and hoping the need would go away. But the pressure somehow increases.
So I give in to it, and I feel better, but just for a little while. What bugs me is not so much that I do it, but that I can't do it the way I want to, because people would ask. I don't want anybody to know.
Also, I'm really ashamed to tell anybody. I could tell my therapist, but I wouldn't want her to think that I do this.
I really need to be on my own for a few hours and be able to do what I need. It doesn't hurt anybody but me and I just need it. I will feel better after it. I can't have my partner know.
I don't know what to do.