I think I might have made a mistake

[Dominick_81]

What century are you living in?
Most women I know do not want to be taken care of. That is almost the equivilant of slavery. Most women today are going to have their own job and bank accounts. Being taken care of solely by a man is not a smart way to go. The girl who allows that is setting herself up for abuse and manipulation at the hands of her captor husband.
Good luck finding a woman who wants to be helpless and at your whims.

I don't mean it in that way. I don't care if the woman wants to work. She can work. She can do whatever she wants. When I mean take care of her, I mean in way where she never has to worry about anything.  This is probably gunna be taken the wrong way too.

No matter what I say, people always take what I say wrong.

You need to start HRT when you are "secured" in life. Move out, try to get a job (do you have any interests? try getting a job in your area of interest), try to pay off some of your debt, and don't worry about what others will think. In your own place, you can lounge around in pink diamante PJ's if you want to, and nobody but you will know/care (if you're home alone, that is). You can put up any posters, buy any kind of clothes, etc.

Try to make your life more "secure", then you can consider HRT.

I can't get a job in my area of interest, I have to go to school for it, and I right now I can't.





You guys are taking what I'm saying all wrong. I'm talking about the future. Things I want to do and have in my life. I want to be on my own, have a career and have a gf. These are future plans. I'm not saying everything is gunna go as I plan. These are what I want to achieve in life.

[VeryGnawty]

When I mean take care of her, I mean in way where she never has to worry about anything.

Hey, not worrying about anything sounds like the good life.  I wouldn't mind someone taking care of me.

Just don't expect me to be a cat with no claws.  Meow 

[Dominick_81]

Hey, not worrying about anything sounds like the good life.  I wouldn't mind someone taking care of me.

Just don't expect me to be a cat with no claws.  Meow 

[PixieBoy]

Is there any "in-between" job you can take, Dominick? Something that is sort of in the area of your interest, but doesn't require as much schooling? The reason I said that it's good to have a job in your area of interest is because, well, if you don't hate your job or find it mind-numbingly boring, you will do it better. If you work with your passion in life, you will be a diligent worker and maybe climb up the career ladder. And, well, it seems like what you need right now is a job so you can work off some of that debt and afford to move out. If I may ask, what is your area of interest and why can't you go to school for it?

Did I misunderstand you again? Thing is, dreams are good to have, but a home is even better. So instead of just dreaming about your awesome life, you need to get out there and start doing it. I know that work is hard, I've worked at a comic book shop, and it wasn't exactly sunshine and roses. I worked 8 hours a day, and manned the registry at times, despite it making me feel like I was going to faint (seriously; I had to go into the back and calm down for a while afterwards). It wasn't always fun, but it was work in an area of interest and also an experience. Expect your job to be like this, even if you love the subject of it.

[Dominick_81]

Is there any "in-between" job you can take, Dominick? Something that is sort of in the area of your interest, but doesn't require as much schooling? The reason I said that it's good to have a job in your area of interest is because, well, if you don't hate your job or find it mind-numbingly boring, you will do it better. If you work with your passion in life, you will be a diligent worker and maybe climb up the career ladder. And, well, it seems like what you need right now is a job so you can work off some of that debt and afford to move out. If I may ask, what is your area of interest and why can't you go to school for it?

Did I misunderstand you again? Thing is, dreams are good to have, but a home is even better. So instead of just dreaming about your awesome life, you need to get out there and start doing it. I know that work is hard, I've worked at a comic book shop, and it wasn't exactly sunshine and roses. I worked 8 hours a day, and manned the registry at times, despite it making me feel like I was going to faint (seriously; I had to go into the back and calm down for a while afterwards). It wasn't always fun, but it was work in an area of interest and also an experience. Expect your job to be like this, even if you love the subject of it.

I have a temp job. I've been working at this place on and off since August of 2003.  When they have no work they lay us off. I got laid off just before Christmas and they haven't called me back, which in a way I'm kinda glad b/c I hate the job so much. But I need something study, and that job is no where near study.

Since I'm extremely shy and get extremely nervous around people I don't know and crowds, it's hard for me to find a job.

I want to be a screen Writer and Film maker. I want to get involved with anything that involves the entertainment field or theater. But my dream is to be a screen Writer. I know that's an extremely hard business to get into, but that's my passion in life, I love it! But being as shy as I am doesn't make it any easier. I've written a lot of screen plays, but only typed up about 2. The rest of the scripts I've written are in a notebooks.

I was going to school for like 2 years for something that was close in my field and that was "radio tv and broadcasting", but vessid stop paying for it b/c I wasn't doing well in the classes I needed to do well in and I was only taking 2 classes at a time. I have a learning disability so taking 2 classes at a time was a lot easier for me, but I didn't get the help I needed to do well in the classes I needed to and vessid won't pay no more, and vessid doesn't support my dream of being a screen writer b/c there are no job demands for it. If they can't place me with a job in that field, they can't support it. There's got to be a job demand for it if their gunna support it. I was looking into and hoping vessid would pay for BOCES in the same field, except I think it has screen writing also that's what I really want. My vessid counselor said she would talk to her boss about seeing if they would pay for BOCES for me, but she needs to know a few things, like cost, how many days a week, hours, etc... I called BOCES but they never called me back. I'm trying to get a hold of my vessid counselor, but she hasn't returned my calls yet.

Do you have the job you want now?

[tekla]

I've spend 40 years working in an around the entrainment industry.  While just about everyone is crazy, most are about 110% crazy with more mental problems running around than an asylum, it's the most social thing I've ever been around too.  We're almost psychopathy social, and stuff like shy and modest are pretty non-existent.

[Dominick_81]

I've spend 40 years working in an around the entrainment industry.  While just about everyone is crazy, most are about 110% crazy with more mental problems running around than an asylum, it's the most social thing I've ever been around too.  We're almost psychopathy social, and stuff like shy and modest are pretty non-existent.

Awesome! What do you do?

[tekla]

I've been a lighting tech, a lighting designer, a sound tech, the sound guy (monitors and front of house), house manager, security, head of security (for an over/under bar at that), a manager, promoter, booker, head of maintenance, a roadie, a stagehand, hospitality, sold merch, been a grip and a best boy, organized unions at two different venues, and I've been an usher.  Currently I'm the crew chief at a 2K+ rock venue, and senior tech at the most famous rock venue in the world.  And I've been writing for professional stand-up comedians for over 30 years also.

Show biz is all about 'whatever it takes to do the show, whatever it takes just to be there."

[Dominick_81]

That is so cool!!!