Dad just found out

[spacial]

Humans are unpredictable, no doubt about that.

Ain't that the truth.

As they say in Yorkshire, There's nowt queer as folk.

[Sarah B]

Hi Jennifer

Thank you for sharing your story about your father.  Its an absolutely fantastic outcome.  Human understanding at its best.  Let your dad know that the cost is yours to bear and the reasons behind it.  However if he still wants to pay for it, then accept it graciously.  Because this shows that your dad does care and love you very much and does not want to see his daughter suffer.

Take care and all the best for the future, which I'm sure after this revelation things will be much better.

Kind regards
Sarah B

[annette]

Hi Jennifer

I've read your story three times now and everytime it's touching again.
Count your blessings with such a reaction from your dad.
He just want to have you a smooth transition and he wants to be a part of it, to make
sure you will have a good future.
Sounds to me like a father who loves his daughter very much.

Thank you for sharing with us.

love
annette

[joshany12]

i was in floods of tears when you mentioned this on my post, and now ive finally come and read it all first hand, im back to tears again. you know i have a similar father, and the fact that he could, just maybe, react this way... well it filled me with hope.

thankyou for sharing your story

thankyou for giving me hope on this

thankyou

[justmeinoz]

Feeling a bit teary too on reading this.  My father died many years ago, so I never got the chance to talk to him about this.  It is wonderful that you have had the chance to connect this way.

[Jillieann Rose]

Me 3. Yes tears and wonderment.
Wow!
My dad was very much like your before dad.
And I knew always believed he would disown me when he found out.
I am so happy that it is working out for you.
Jillieann

[Padma]

I agree - see if you can find a good balance between being independent and letting him help you - it might help both of you. But good for him for wanting to respond!

[regan]

It a great start, and a heartwarming story.

Just one thing to be careful of though, that he doesn't slip into the assumption that you want to be "fixed" and that the counseling will be to try to make you into a man.

Make absolutely sure he understands from the start that you LIKE who you are inside and you want to be the daughter that you feel you should have been.

During my first attempt, after I told my parents my dad told me he wanted to set aside some time for us to take a long walk together.  Great, I thought, its a chance to explain my feelings to him and help him see my side of things.  Then I found out his agenda, he wanted to talk a long walk with me to make sure I was clear that he and my mom were totally opposed to my plans and were not going to support me by any means possible.  Needless to say the walk never happened.

I'm glad everything sounds positive so far with you dad, but make sure he's not assuming you're trying to get cured and he's willing to pay any price to get his son back.

[JaimeJJ]

i was in floods of tears when you mentioned this on my post, and now ive finally come and read it all first hand, im back to tears again. you know i have a similar father, and the fact that he could, just maybe, react this way... well it filled me with hope.

thankyou for sharing your story

thankyou for giving me hope on this

thankyou

Joshany, keep hold of that hope and don't let it go.  Message me anytime you want to talk or anything, we need to stick together.

My dad was so cold, never in my life had he told me loved me or hugged me or shown any affection towards me or even spoke in a nice way about me.  I couldn't believe it when I  caught him crying over my situation, it was so out of character.

Today I had to go to london for another appointment, last night he came in to my room and asked me how much my appointment was and how much the train fair was etc.  Then, he gave me enough money to cover all of that and even money for my friend's train fare who was coming with me, plus extra for us to go for food afterwards. 

So not used to him being that positive towards me, it shocks me just writing this!

[Jillieann Rose]

Wow!
I am so amazed.
That is great Jennifer.
Wow!

[JaimeJJ]

Thank you for all your comments. Yesterday he sat me down and told me that basically he was putting £24,000 split between a bank account and into shares in my name to pay for any surgeries and therapy etc that I will need. I feel so blessed!

[sfem]

Your story is amazing and heart-warming. This latest update seems to make it clear he is wanting to be supportive of the direction you want to go, and not trying to "fix" you. That is truly awesome. I wish you success and happiness as you progress!

[Padma]

Bloody hell, your dad's a diamond.

[Sarah B]

I'm speechless! on this amazing turnaround that your father has shown.   Have you had a chance to have a long conversation with him, since you found him crying?  It would be interesting to know how your relationship with your father is going these days.

Thank you for sharing your story with us.  Take care and all the best for the future, I'm sure from the sounds of it, it really is a very bright one.

Kind regards
Sarah B

[JaimeJJ]

I've not had a conversation with him on my own about it since, but I've had a couple of chats with him and my mum together.  I don't know how much he understands about this, and I don't think it matters, I think he just wants me to be happy and if that is what it is then so be it.

He has been really nice to me, not once have I heard him raise his voice in the past 2 weeks since he has found out, which was usually an every day occurance.  On the odd times we have spoke about it and I have looked at him, he has had a sadness in his eyes - but the situation is still so new to him so it's gonna take time to get used to.  He asked me about my update with sperm storing and said he would start getting some of the money he has promised me together tomorrow and asked for my bank details.

[Sarah B]

Hi Jamie Jennifer

Thank you for that. Yes, you are right it does not matter and of course understanding will come with time.  Its good to hear that he wants his daughter to be happy, which is the most important thing.  I'm sure his sadness will be replaced with joy eventually.

Once again thank you.

Kind regards
Sarah B

[Debra]

awww I hope positive support is in the future.

[Jillieann Rose]

Jaime Jennifer
That is just so amazing.
Wow!

[JaimeJJ]

Just thought I would do an update on my transition...

After being on hormones for about 9 days, the hospital called me back regarding storing sperm and had me go in to see a doctor.  I told him about my transition and he explained what happens with sperm storage and how long it's stored for etc.  I didn't tell him I had started hormones because I thought he might tell me to come off them for a few months and then store sperm and there was NO WAY I was doing that.  I took my hormone patch off and left it off for about a week until I had to do my first deposit, that was friday and I have 2 more deposits to make within the next 10 days.  I have put my hormone patch back on now because I felt like I was taking a step backwards not being on hormones while I was off them.

I've also become close with another TS girl who lives near to me that I met on Facebook.  She's 24 and she has her SRS in 2 weeks, we spoke online for a while and then I went to visit her and we have become inseperable ever since.  She's such a nice girl and is so supportive, it's so great to be able to relate to someone who knows exactly what I'm going through and who can say back to me "hey, I've been there and this is where I am now.. you will be fine".  Her and her boyfriend came to my house last week to see my mum and dad, so that they could see a "real life" TS and see what she's like, it went really well! She basically said to them that when she transitioned she didn't really have anyone who knew what she was going through and that I'm lucky now because I have got her to guide me and help me out, so I'm really glad about my new friend!

I also came out to one of my close friends recently, wrote her a long letter expalining everything that I had been coing through the past couple of years, she was initially so upset that I had been going through so much and not told her but she was very understanding.  I'm also due to come out to another friend on Tuesday.  I'm just slowly trying to let the people closest to me know whats going on with me and let them in, something I have really struggled with.  That way I wont feel like I'm withholding so much from them anymore and so that they can help me when I need a friend.

Just thought I'd keep you guys updated!

[Mrs Erocse]

Gee, I am so happy for you. I wish you the best. Thank you for the update.

Hugs,

Patty