Well just been out with my best friend and I'm even more confused. He has always been very effeminate and has a lot of friends who are girls. I've have been dissociated from girls for a long time, he has been happy with his male hood, I haven't. I want to connect to them the most now but know I can't because of my own denial over the years. I'm accepting who I am and want to connect like he has and more, but at the moment they just see me as a male threat and I can't get anywhere near. I wouldn't mind but I'm more interested in their clothes and their hair than anything else! I know it takes so long to overcome problems that we have been conditioned for, but I feel so low and worthless at the moment. I use to have predominantly female friends and just want to return to that feeling of sisterhood, even if it's honorary at the moment. How can I disarm this feeling of threat that they feel without been fully out'ed, or is that something I have to live with till they can see who I really am?
I don't want to be anything male anymore, and I am so disheartened that just been talkative suggests to most girls that I want them for sexual reasons. The worst thing is that I think I am bisexual, but more conditionally then I ever thought, since taking hormones my fantasies have been distinctly female, probably mostly down to my psychological response to them i.e. I'm allowing myself to think about men as I know ultimately where I want to be at the end of everything. How can I associate with the gender who I know I am? I hate this distinctly bipolar world we live in, why can't we just be trueful to ourselves instead of these idiotic "norms" that are set in place by "society". I just feel worthless now.