Any Older FTMs? (40+)

[tjack77]

Thank you,that's very kind of you,I have diabetes and my liver is irritated also my kidneys have to be monitored regularly,high blood pressure and cholesterol and severe anxiety attacks,I take a lot of medication that keeps it all safely under control at the moment.


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I'd say still worth a shot to see an endo regarding possibility of getting on T, I have non-alcoholic fatty liver, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, and pre-diabetes but still able to start T. As long as all levels are closely monitored, my endo was confident enough to start me on T. Although my dosage is much lower than most guys, I also noticed changes. Never give up!
 

[Markymarcbolan]

Thank you for your encouraging reply,I appreciate it,I am pleased that you are getting somewhere with your transition despite your health problems and wish you all the best of luck for the future.


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[xchrisx]

So I'm older (46) but had socially transitioned as a kid (I knew at 4, 'came out' to teachers, coaches, friends & family and altered my name around age 10). I started being really read as male in my teens and actually didn't think about medical transition til later (started T and had surgery in 2009).

Its nice to see some older guys here. Cheers!

[Markymarcbolan]

Hi xchrisx,it sounds as if you had a very supportive family and I am very pleased to hear that as its sadly often not the case so I hear. You're right,it is nice to chat to some of us more mature gentleman,pleased to be acquainted with you. cheers!


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[uk_older_ftm]

So I'm 35, can I be in this team?!

I've known since I was young that I'm a man, but when I told my mum aged 12 she told me I was a woman, and should be proud of it. She even gave me a magazine article about strong women to show me that being a woman is cool. I guess she just didn't get it...I lived the next 23 years as a gay woman, but time's come for me to be me. Excited, but anxious about doing the transition at an older age with associated baggage (a toddler, and a job in a school...).

[AnxietyDisord3r]

I'm 36, got the "strong woman" lecture from my grandmother. I knew at a very young age but got bullied into going underground because my mother absolutely flipped her lid when I said I was a "boy-girl". I developed the delusion that female puberty wouldn't happen to me and was utterly devastated when it did. I also thought my hips would never spread (dammit!). I was told that testosterone was as evil as crack cocaine and so I thought I would never go on hormones and I was holding out for top surgery. I wish I had known years ago what T would do for me. I wish I had known that my intuition that estrogen was poisoning me and making me mentally unwell was accurate.

I think when we're older it takes a lot longer for T to change one's appearance. It's so frustrating to see the transition stories of these young guys on Youtube. I am still getting "ma'am" a lot, especially from older men and women. I wish my hairline would recede already and my eyebrows would Neandertal up. All I seem to be getting is the beginnings of a dorky mustache.

I told a lot of people I was trans before I started medical transition and none of them believed me because there's literally nothing a "female" can wear in American society and be perceived as "too" masculine. By contrast, an MTF non binary friend of mine started wearing skirts in public and immediately started being treated differently. (In good ways and bad, of course.)

[xchrisx]

Marky- its complicated. My parents let me do my thing as a kid but it was also an extremely abusive / narcissistic home. It waa honesty like living in a weird cult but for whatever reason my gendwr expression and identity were not hot button issues. I cut my family off 10 years ago (prior to T and surgery).
Thanks for the the welcome though and its great to be here amongst the mature fellows: )

[Markymarcbolan]

Anxiety,I am so sorry to hear that,narcissism is so nasty and damaging without the abuse. I ,will chat again as I've had a beer or two ok and don't want to say the wrong thing. Take care Pal.


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[WorkingOnThomas]

I think when we're older it takes a lot longer for T to change one's appearance. It's so frustrating to see the transition stories of these young guys on Youtube. I am still getting "ma'am" a lot, especially from older men and women. I wish my hairline would recede already and my eyebrows would Neandertal up. All I seem to be getting is the beginnings of a dorky mustache.

I was worried about that too. I thought that at 37 I'd see no changes at all for months and months. But three weeks in, my voice has dropped, fat is vanishing from my thighs, stuff is happening downstairs, and I've got hair where I had none before. So I'm not sure that age is always a factor. I haven't been ma'm'd in two weeks, not since my first voice drop. I'm intensely grateful that I seem to be taking to it well.

[xchrisx]

@ Markymarcbolan: thanks man, chat with you later

[CMD042414]

I transitioned two years ago at 32 but told my sister I was a boy at the age of 4 and brought it up to my mom at 16. Though I'm not 40+ I definitely found my experience to be much different than the typical younger generation that has made transitioning a real, viable option. In fact it was seeing a few young college students at my job do it that made me finally take the leap. It is never too late. Especially in the world we live today.

[Arch]

Online and IRL, I have talked to a lot of older FTMs. I think that the idea that changes are slower for older guys is a crock. Everything is going to depend on your dosage and genetics.

I'm starting to feel quite old with all of these thirty-somethings in the thread.

[xchrisx]

Online and IRL, I have talked to a lot of older FTMs. I think that the idea that changes are slower for older guys is a crock. Everything is going to depend on your dosage and genetics.

I'm starting to feel quite old with all of these thirty-somethings in the thread.

Yeah I haven't met any older FTMs who had slower or lesser changes (myself included although I was fairly masculine/  very androgynous to begin with).

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[Ludovic]

Hi everybody
I don't know if anybody is still following this thread. My name is Jonas and I am 48 years old. I just made my coming out and look foreward to the changes to come (mastectomy, treatment on t).
As many of you stated, the challanges of a late transition are not the same as at 20, and I would love to be able to exchange with others.
I read here about Jays FB site, but I was not able to find it. Does anyone know if it still exists?
Best regards from Switzerland
Jonas

[JayBlue]

Hi everybody
I don't know if anybody is still following this thread. My name is Jonas and I am 48 years old. I just made my coming out and look foreward to the changes to come (mastectomy, treatment on t).
As many of you stated, the challanges of a late transition are not the same as at 20, and I would love to be able to exchange with others.
I read here about Jays FB site, but I was not able to find it. Does anyone know if it still exists?
Best regards from Switzerland
Jonas

Hi Jonas,
I am 49 and just started transitioning a few months ago-started T and will hopefully get top surgery next May. I'm out to a few people, but not everyone as I don't know how my job would react to it.  I don't know about that site, but I understand what it's like to be starting this process a bit late. I was concerned about that at first, but my therapist said he knows people who transitioned later than me, and I've met quite a few in my local transgender society that are transitioning later as well. 

I have found these boards to be incredibly helpful!
Jay

[Cailan Jerika]

I'm 48, non-binary transmasculine, discovered myself in January of this year, and am now seven weeks into testosterone. I have an appointment for a meta consult for next year. On one hand I'm glad I didn't discover my true self 30 years ago; society wasn't ready, even the transgender establishment was not yet ready for non-binaries, and I wouldn't have been allowed to do anything about it. It would have been worse living with being trans without being allowed treatment than it was having constant low-level dysphoria and not knowing why.

[Ryuichi13]

Okay, so it looks like currently on this thread, (2017CE),  I'm the "old man!" [emoji16]

I'm 55, started taking T in December, one and a half months before my
55th birthday, and let me tell you, this has been some ride!  Came partially out on fb to my family, but apparently the only one that noticed was my daughter.  She came right out and asked me if I was trans.  When I said "yes," she simply said, "that explains a lot."  Smart girl!

I've always felt I was born in the wrong body.  One of my earliest memories was being mad at my Mom for "not being born a boy," around age 7.  Growing up, I "out-boyed the boys" for quite some time, at least until they grew taller and stronger than me.  (I was still the fastest kid on the block though!)  So after discovering boys, I treated being born the wrong sex as a birth defect and tried to live as a female.

I tried for many years to hide my male side, but it came out whenever I cosplayed as a anime character at anime conventions.  Sure, I also did the marriage, kid and career thing for a bit, before the marriage failed.  (I am No ONE's verbal punching bag, and I wasn't going to wait until he started actual punches!)

Even though I wore mostly graphic t-shirts, jeans and converses, I actively tried the "uber-girly"route too, but just couldn't stop wearing my combat boots with dresses when I went out dancing.  (Glad that was actually an accepted Goth style back in the '80s!)  Finally, I more or less stopped wearing dresses altogether and went back to my beloved graphic t-shirts, jeans and converses.

I finally decided along the way to be androgynous sometime during the '90s, and that's what I presented as for the most part.  I still wished I was male, but being andro worked socially for me.

It wasn't until I was at an anime convention four years ago and in the ladies room that I first remember hearing the word "transgender"while talking with some younger adults as they adjusted their binders and fixed their costumes.  My jaw probably hit the floor when the realization came that "I'm not the only one with this birth defect!"

Once I realised I could actually transition into a man, I had to think long and hard about what to do about it.  I finally came to the conclusion that "since my kid is grown and has kids of her own and I now have a work-related disability, so I no longer work, I no longer care about what society thinks about me!"  Not that I ever fit "the norm" to begin with,  but I digress.

So now here I am, 10 months on T later.  My kid knows I'm trans, my grandkids (3, 6 and 11) are starting to call me grampy, half of my siblings know or have figured it out, and my genderfluid boyfriend  is thrilled by all the changes I'm undergoing!

So no, you 2017 posters are DEFINITELY not the oldest ones transitioning from FtM...and I doubt that I am too! [emoji6]

Ryuichi   

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