Safiyah, imagine someone who was homosexual falsifying documents to obtain a sex change, simply because they could not accept themselves as homosexual. That person would be making an enormous mistake. So too would a man who just likes to be pretty.There are ways for men to be pretty, in fact, crossdressing is losing steam as a fetish or mental illness,and there are organizations to help them cope. The point of the process is to help you prepare for the incredible difficulty and pain, and make sure you're making the right decison.
Being gendered male actually eats me alive. I've tried coping in all possible ways. I follow the process outlined in the soc because I want peace of mind and I find it responsible. If there was no other way, I would try to do it my way and probably fail, just give up and let myself dissolve. I will not endorse trying to do this any other way, but I won't view someone as "less than" for finding it a cumbersome pain and foregoing the process. I just don't want to be viewed in any way as a contributor to their misery should they fail.
