What makes you want to be female?

[Cody Jensen]

If this post has already been done sorry. I guess let me know and I'll take it down? I couldn't seem to find any related posts but it probably has been posted before. Anyways, what I want to know is what makes you ladies want to be female? I am a biological female and if given the chance to have been born male or be in a bio male's body I wouldn't hesitate to take it. I hate every little thing about being female. I'm trying to see the good in it but I can't find any. When me and my sister go shopping together (because no one knows I'm trans yet) it's torture for me. I just want male clothes and I want to be myself. My eyes drift off to the male clothing because that's all I want to wear (but I can't because my like I said my family doesn't know so I pretend to be a girl just to make them happy. My dad is a homophobiac as well). So, what is it about being a girl that makes you want to be one?

[Sarah Louise]

You already explained it, the same thing that tells you that your a male is what tells us we are female.

We were born with, what to us, is a birth defect.  Our brain does not agree with our body.

[Corey]

Aside from it being inborn, and just me, there are other reasons why I want to be a girl. Simple. I think they're prettier and much more caring than males. It just feels right.

[pebbles]

dunno It's something about having male attributes on my body that I find extremely upsetting and often pining to possess female attributes instead. I'm fine with male bits begin on others. Just not me XD

[Susan Kay]

Oh, I'm sure it has, but new discussion is always good - no need to take it down.

So, what makes you want to be a boy? Perhaps not because you want to be one particularly, but because you believe that you are one. Same for me, except to be a girl of course. It is not wanting to be a girl, it is knowing that I am at heart, mind and soul a female. It's just that the body came out wrong, and people being people believe what they see, not what who they see believes and knows.

So, do I want to wear girly frilly clothes? Yes, but I know genetic females and F-2-Ms that hate it. Do I like makeup and hair? Yes, but again I know GGs and F-2-Ms that don't. Do I value the idea of being pregnant and giving birth rather that the ability to wham-bang-not even thank you maam and leave? Absolutely. It will be my most painful part of lost womanhood that that my age precludes that even if I was a GG.

What makes me want to be a girl? Because I am a girl.

What should make you want to be a boy? Because, perhaps you are one.

And we should always want to be what we are, not what we look like.

Susan Kay

[Amykins]

Oh just offhand here, male wasn't me. I knew it all along, but tried to go into denial because it made life simpler, but you can only keep that up for so long, and it just wears you down. Then there was the fact that I was being hit on by lesbians long before I started to transition. That kinda sent a message....

[angiejuly]

I had an ignorant therapist that told me I want to be a girl because I never learned how to be a guy and I need to accept myself for who I am. I told her I am now and that is why I`m in transition. I love the frustraighted look she gave me.

[MarinaM]

Lol, if I knew the answer I would tell you. I kind of already am one, being a guy is dangerous for my mental and physical health. 

[Gabby]

I am a biological female and if given the chance to have been born male or be in a bio male's body I wouldn't hesitate to take it. I hate every little thing about being female.

Not everything about you is female, you already have male parts of your body, if it's not obvious stuff like a masculinized face or body then it's clearly mental processes.  The silly notion we need hormones to make our minds a certain gender, yes it switches on many things like having more lights switched on in a house, then surgery switches on the last ones, but there were already lights switched on mentally, there had to be and clearly they were very important ones.

So you're not biological female at an important level, and that is at the mental level.  You might be mostly bodily female but that does not make you bio female.

It's the complexity of biology which is why I don't hate my body parts even though one major one doesn't even work unless I trick it with my mind.  Ok I don't hate my male body full stop, I see people with alot less than me living on a dollar a day the true poor of the world but I can also understand why some people get depressed with having parts that do not work, sexually and socially.  Still i count my blessings I am fit and healthy and able to have some kind of life a pretty good one in many respects.

[-CRaSH-]

Aside from it being inborn, and just me, there are other reasons why I want to be a girl. Simple. I think they're prettier and much more caring than males. It just feels right.

What do you mean "More caring"?

[Susan Kay]

I think (always dangerous, almost as dangerous as walking) she might mean "more outwardly caring", more open to emotional expression. A stereotype surely, but based in gender generalities. Circular enough thought for you? It just hurt my head! Regardless, we'll always have more pretty!

Susan Kay

[MsSaneJane]

It's kinda for the most part what I am on the inside. For me it's the free emotional being and at a very close second appearance. That's for me is as simply as i can put it.

[Corey]

What do you mean "More caring"?

Many teenage females are very caring of others while many teenage males openly admit to only wanting sex. This is why a woman's father tends to be more skeptical of his daughter's boyfriend than the other way around. My own father admits that when he was young if he could knock a knot out of a piece of wood he would have stuck his junk in it. Yes, it is a stereotype and does not apply to everyone, but it is a generalization that we have all come to know. Simply knowing that many girls are viewed this way makes me more comfortable with my inner feelings of being female. I want to be seen as that loving and caring person that I truly feel inside, and the stereotype makes it difficult for me to relate to other biological males.

[-CRaSH-]

Oh, alright, I get it.

I guess you mean "More open with your caring."

Right?
Because men do care. We're not robots.

[-CRaSH-]

Many teenage females are very caring of others while many teenage males openly admit to only wanting sex. This is why a woman's father tends to be more skeptical of his daughter's boyfriend than the other way around. My own father admits that when he was young if he could knock a knot out of a piece of wood he would have stuck his junk in it. Yes, it is a stereotype and does not apply to everyone, but it is a generalization that we have all come to know. Simply knowing that many girls are viewed this way makes me more comfortable with my inner feelings of being female. I want to be seen as that loving and caring person that I truly feel inside, and the stereotype makes it difficult for me to relate to other biological males.

Men do care, we just aren't open with it as much as females. As I've said before, we aren't robots.

And in terms of teenagers, alot of the males do care, it's just that the young females in that age group choose to not date those kinds of males.
They usually just want to have fun at that stage. This is why the vast majority of guys that teenage girls bring home are like that. They're usually players/"badboys". At that stage women aren't looking for someone to settle down with.

[Corey]

Of course ^_^ I have a vast number of male friends and most of them do care. I stay away from the inconsiderate ones, which are quite abundant in my school.

[-CRaSH-]

Of course ^_^ I have a vast number of male friends and most of them do care. I stay away from the inconsiderate ones, which are quite abundant in my school.

Yeah those guys at your school will change eventually.

[Northern Jane]

I didn't want to be a girl -- I just was, regardless of what anyone thought. Life would have been a whole lot easier if I HAD been a boy. But from earliest childhood, I just naturally fit in with the other girls and never could pretend to be a boy very effectively and I never understood why until decades after transition when I started reading about the general developmental and behavioural differences between the genders. That's when I realized that my entire life was just typical for a girl and atypical for a boy and that's why I never fit as a boy and was so often mistaken for a girl whenever I let my guard down.

[EmilyElizabeth]

Josh, I think you answered your own question without realizing it.

Any of us could very easily ask you why on earth you would ever want to be male!  I know I had a hard time accepting the fact that there were bio-females that would ever want to give that up.  In fact, when I was younger I thought it was just natural for guys to want to be girls, because it was just so clear to me that being a girl was more desirable. 

Obviously, over time I've come to accept my FTM brothers just as I would anyone else, but there was a time when I was rather annoyed with them for wanting to give up something that, to me, was so clearly better than what they were getting in the end.  Now I just try my best to see it from their perspective.  Boy clothes always seemed boring to me, but that doesn't mean they're boring to everyone!  By the same token, just because being female does not seem desirable to you, doesn't mean that it can't seem like the best thing in the world to someone else!

[umop ap!sdn]

Well if the question is what drives us to be female, I would have to say it's all biology. We're just wired that way. If the question is what's great about being female, well we're prettier, softer, have nice voices, are more graceful.

As for me I didn't want to be a strong, hard person with a deep voice. It just didn't feel like me. I wanted to be like the women around me because hey, who wouldn't?