Im straight but...

[kalshady]

Aight so I know for a fact that Im straight and I dont like guys and am not attracted to them physically in any way. However, theres this guy Ive known since I was 14 (now Im 19) and he knows all about me obviously and hes bi... Ive always had a pull to him. Im not sure wtf it is but Ive always had some type of chemistry wit him. We "dated" once before but it was seriously nothing. We both were too young, didnt know who we were, and were on drugs. But now hes clean and hes really awesome, I hung out wit him tonight and Im really feelin mixed up, confused. I like him...but I dont like guys, I dont think I could ever do anything more (physically) than make out wit him. Ahhhhhh I jus dont know. Never been in a situation like this. Never felt like I dont know how I feel or "who i am."

[Sharky]

Maybe what you see in him are things you want to see in yourself.

[MaxAloysius]

I'll be honest, I think the whole 100% straight, 100% gay thing is complete bollocks. I don't think it exists at all. Just because you've never liked a guy before, or don't seem attracted to any guys, doesn't mean there isn't a guy out there that you'd totally go there for, even if it seemed strange or completely out of the ordinary for you.

I say don't get so caught up on the whole being straight thing. You probably are, there's nothing to say you aren't, but maybe that one guy is the exception to the rule that I'm sure everyone in the world has. Stop trying to psych yourself out with too many questions, just go with the flow and do what feels natural.

Stress less 

[Darth_Taco]

I can kinda relate. There's this girl I've known since I was about 14, and I've had a massive crush on her the whole time. That's really weird, since I know for a fact that I'm gay and I'm not attracted to any other woman. Also weird, I'm actually somewhat sexually attracted to her. The only thing sexually that would gross me about about her is oral sex. Otherwise, I don't know. I might go for it. Thankfully I have a boyfriend who helps me make sense of all this crap @_@.

[kyril]

If you like him, then you like him. That's really all there is to it. Labels are useful for describing yourself to other people, but they're pretty useless for understanding yourself.

If you don't think you want to have sex with him, then don't set out to have sex with him. If you want to make out with him, and he feels the same way, then give it a shot. If it feels weird, like making out with your brother, then stop. If it turns out you actually get turned on, and you want to do more, there's no harm in doing more. Basically, there's no required progression for physical relationships...you can do whatever the hell you want and label it whatever the hell you want and it's nobody's business but yours and your friend's.

[Adio]

If you like him, then you like him. That's really all there is to it. Labels are useful for describing yourself to other people, but they're pretty useless for understanding yourself.

So, so true.  Great way of putting that.

I consider myself gay, but I dated a girl for several years.  We had sex, but I was never really into it.  I've been attracted to other women besides her since then.  I just don't think I could ever date or have sex with a woman again.  However, if I did find a woman that I was romantically attracted to and it was genuine, I might give it a try.  Whether that would be fair to her or not, I don't know.  So I guess I could be homoflexible?  lol

[kalshady]

THANKS GUYS. MAKES SENSE. I WAS PRETTY MUCH THINKING ALONG THESE SAME LINES, BUT JUST WASNT SURE AND NEEDED SOME ADVICE. I REALLY APPRECIATE IT, MY BROTHERS. & SORRY FOR THE CAPS, MY KEYBOARD IS MAAAD MESSED UP BROKEN

[lexical]

I'll be honest, I think the whole 100% straight, 100% gay thing is complete bollocks. I don't think it exists at all. Just because you've never liked a guy before, or don't seem attracted to any guys, doesn't mean there isn't a guy out there that you'd totally go there for, even if it seemed strange or completely out of the ordinary for you.

I say don't get so caught up on the whole being straight thing. You probably are, there's nothing to say you aren't, but maybe that one guy is the exception to the rule that I'm sure everyone in the world has. Stop trying to psych yourself out with too many questions, just go with the flow and do what feels natural.

Stress less 

Agreed 100%. I think the categories of sexual orientation help us 'organize' sexuality but in actuality I think there's [almost] always grey areas

[N.Chaos]

Ah man, I've been there. I'm actually in the process of breaking up with a girlfriend of 7 1/2 years for my best friend/boyfriend that I've known for about 5 of those years. It's a weird, often terrifying situation to be in. (For me at least) feels like you're losing your mind, and on top of being trans it's...almost comically hellish. I've thought a lot of times "Can't ANYTHING be normal about me?" and then it's like "Can't anything be normal about ANYONE?" Everyone's screwed up, it's just varying degrees and opinions on what 'screwed up' means exactly.

I know it's confusing as all hell, but I agree that you should just go with whatever you're feeling. You can't change your instincts (unfortunately, at times). Who knows, maybe your pansexual or whateversexual. I'm horrible with terms, so I apologize in advance.

[wheat thins are delicious]

Agreed 100%. I think the categories of sexual orientation help us 'organize' sexuality but in actuality I think there's [almost] always grey areas

Agree.  It helps us to be able to say I'm gay/straight/bi to people without having to explain to them well I like girls mainly but sometimes find myself attracted to me. 

[onep1ece7]

we cant help who we fall for....if you are having these feelings for him I think you should give it a shot...might clarify for you whether you 100 percent only want women or whether maybe you are bisexual....

[Lee11]

For what it's worth I am with Sean 100% on this. Stop analyzing it and worrying about it. There is no need to classify yourself either way. People love to label  each other sexually and create boundaries that limit their experience in life. Just take it where you want to. You are obviously thinking it has to go straight to a full sexual encounter and this is what is worrying you. Remove that thought  - along with the thought that 'omg he is male and I am straight' - and you should be fine

[Lee11]

I wanted to revive this thread with this clip





says it all really.....