Just want to see if anyone else feels the way I do about SRS

[Julie Marie]

I wouldn't settle for it just because it's the only option, I wouldn't get an outfit that I wasn't completely happy with just because it was the only option I had available so then why would I have SRS if I know I wouldn't be compliantly satisfied with the results.

If I took that attitude about everything, I would never have done anything.  I realize GRS is a big step and finding the right surgeon is important but waiting for a procedure to be perfect may result in never having the surgery.  We don't get fully functioning female genitalia.  We get a neo vagina that looks like a vagina and requires a lifetime of dilation to keep it from closing up.  I don't see modern medicine working on anything better right now or in the near future.

Regardless of how long you wait, you will never be guaranteed you'll have exactly what you want unless you expect nothing more than the least everyone got.  Every surgery has different results, even with the same surgeon.  That's because we are all different and that's not going to change, ever.

[Francis Ann Burgett]

Normal or average size isnt a problem (for me), but large size is. Normal size feels wonderful while large is quite painful to impossible. Forget very large. So size is a factor in choosing which partners I am compatible with. Is this as much of a concern for natal women, I dont know. My vagina is tight, I will usually try to dilate before a date. Anyway, I've stopped dating men so its not a concern for me now. Thought it might be helpful to pass the experience along.

Valerie, You look so nice & happy. Can I ask why you stopped dating men?? What happened?

[Nicole]

I'm wondering if the OP has seen a port op vagina up close.
I'm sorry but I have, mine. I have also been with males & females, none have picked it up.

From what I've seen of vaginas, I'm yet to ever see 2 look the same, just like boobs, women & men, they come in all shapes & sizes.

[Francis Ann Burgett]

I'm not sure of the problem you have posted??

With penile inversion I/we can have a nice as normal & deep as possible vagina. We can make love with a man & maybe we can have an orgasim. How could life be any better?

[Francis Ann Burgett]

Thank you Francis, your a dear. I have just been so disappointed, unfortunately. I've had my heart broken by guys I've fallen hard for in the past year who've either wanted sex and moved on or rejected me hard on coming out to them, and it just hurts too much (I've learned not to tell). I havent given up on them forever, I still get crushes ...but somehow they always seem to be the unavailable ones who arent looking for a steady girlfriend. The ones that are available I havent been interested in.

I think part of the problem is I'm so scared of them. I like strong masculine men, but it's those same types I'm afraid of. Some of the guys I've liked the most I run away from after finding their violent tendencies or violent past. I'm attracted to dangerous men, but thats naturally terrifying... especially with our past.

Valerie,  Girl, dangerous men are not worth it. There are plenty of good men out there that need a woman to be with. I'm not yet complete however I've dated & been with lots of men. There are so many that are horny for sex & a woman that cares about making them happy. The phrase you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince is kind of my motto.  You are beautiful & you deserve a real sincere man not trouble.

There are plenty of folks with successful relationships. I plan to be one of them, I do have hope. I just have to work out some things.

[Francis Ann Burgett]

Val,

You seem so nice, beautiful & so normal & even though I do not know you much I truly hope you can find love in your life with a nice man if that is what is good for you at your current time in life.

On a lighter side as they say "you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince"

I've kissed my share of frogs & I guess unfortunately you have likewise.

Maybe I'm sorry to act like a mother but I do can about my fellow girlfriends.

Love to you & have fun.

Francis,

[Plain Jane]

While we are on this topic. Growing up I was so conflicted with myself and basically a-sexual that I never learned the dating thing. So now at the age of 43 I am too socially inept to find a male friend. I would like to, but don't know how. My social circle is pretty much fixed (and don't get me wrong, I am happy with my circle of friends and acquaintances). Let's say I lead a somewhat sheltered life in that respect.

[regan]

While we are on this topic. Growing up I was so conflicted with myself and basically a-sexual that I never learned the dating thing. So now at the age of 43 I am too socially inept to find a male friend. I would like to, but don't know how. My social circle is pretty much fixed (and don't get me wrong, I am happy with my circle of friends and acquaintances). Let's say I lead a somewhat sheltered life in that respect.

Just be yourself...