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A Bit of a Rant....

Started by PidgeTPN, May 21, 2011, 05:03:16 PM

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PidgeTPN

Ok, so I've been on T three weeks now (24 days to be exact), and I've lived as a man for four years. I live in Reno, Nevada.

Now, the rant part. I live with my fiance, his brother, brother's wife and five kids.

To give a run-down, I'm 21, my fiance is 20. His brother is 23 and tells me because he did cocaine for ten years, it makes him ten years older....he's only a few days more than a year older than me. His wife is 36, HER kids are 15, 13, 10, and 7. They have a 21 month old together.

Their church told them if we don't get married, that our family has to kick us out because we are a bad influence to the kids, we don't follow the bible and if we're not married, they're not being good Christians by forcing the bible on us. We want to get married at the beginning of next month, but on OUR terms, not theirs....AND ever since the church told them that, they've stopped addressing me as a man and say that they will not because God made me a woman. We....literally have nowhere else to go....I have to stick with this, being forced to live by their religion in order to not be on the streets....I have no idea what to do anymore.....
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sascraps

Sounds like they suck. No offense. So, drug use legally makes you older than your chronological age? He sounds full of it. Again, no offense. I deal with similar self-made rules and terms from people all the time and am sick of how people talk out their ass and make up the rules for themselves and others as they go.  >:( Sorry you're stuck in that house with them.
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PidgeTPN

Yeah, no offense taken, man. He's full of ->-bleeped-<- and really quite stupid and immature....I want to get out, but Reno's job market is worse than all of California's....
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sascraps

I have to deal with a lot of people who are full of ->-bleeped-<- and immature, so I know the feeling. I'm trying my best to get out of my situation too.
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Ratchet

Quote from: VakarianPride on May 21, 2011, 05:54:39 PM
Yeah, no offense taken, man. He's full of ->-bleeped-<- and really quite stupid and immature....I want to get out, but Reno's job market is worse than all of California's....

Come down to Vegas, with the Sahara closing that's probably a good couple thousand people without jobs once again (I currently stay in the Vegas area).

Now, the option of where to live really sucks for you. If there isn't anywhere else for you to go, no other option, then you kind of have to deal with the pieces given to you. I hate having to just take it and grit my teeth, but sometimes you have to do it. If they can't see you for you, then you can't force them. If you planned to get married, then I say do what you have to get through it and go from there.

One step at a time. I know, it sucks, but it's a part of life that I think every one encounters at some point. Find the happy medium and ride the wave until you can get out. Get aggressive with applying, going in, calling places you've applied to. Call every day, go in (dressed nicely) once a week. You really have to put yourself out there in the tougher job markets.
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Sharky

Hey if the Rapture has started, and they are believers, maybe they will be sucked up to heaven soon and you wont have to deal with them.  :P
I would do anything to get independent from them, even if it's a ->-bleeped-<-ty minimum wage job, it's still an income.


The Bible doesn't say an unmarried couple can't live together, it's just not ideal because it would hint that there is a possible sexual relationship. I've noticed you used male pronouns for your fiancé, the Bible doesn't condemn homosexually any more than heterosexuality, but whole other can of worms.  I'm surprised they don't seem to be on your case about that. You could say that you're a positive influence, showing a lesson in judging and loving those who you don't agree with. If anything, it would be unchristlike to kick you guys out. 


Everyone sins.
Ecclesiastes 7:20- Indeed, there is no one on earth who is righteous,  no one who does what is right and never sins.


They are not there to judge you.
James 4:11-12- Brothers and sisters, do not slander one another. Anyone who speaks against a brother or sister or judges them speaks against the law and judges it. When you judge the law, you are not keeping it, but sitting in judgment on it. 12There is only one Lawgiver and Judge, the one who is able to save and destroy. But you—who are you to judge your neighbor?


Even if you were living in sin, Jesus wouldn't want them to condemn you.
John 8:1-11- 1 but Jesus went to the Mount of Olives.
   2 At dawn he appeared again in the temple courts, where all the people gathered around him, and he sat down to teach them. 3 The teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought in a woman caught in adultery. They made her stand before the group 4 and said to Jesus, "Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. 5 In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?" 6 They were using this question as a trap, in order to have a basis for accusing him.

   But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger. 7 When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, "Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her." 8 Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground.

   9 At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there. 10 Jesus straightened up and asked her, "Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?"

   11 "No one, sir," she said.

   "Then neither do I condemn you," Jesus declared. "Go now and leave your life of sin."



They should help you if you need help, regardless of your beliefs.
Romans 12:17-21-  Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: "It is mine to avenge; I will repay," says the Lord. On the contrary: "If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head." Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good


They should evaluate themselves.
Matthew 7:5- You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye.
1 John 2:9-10)- Anyone who claims to be in the light but hates his brother is still in the darkness. Whoever loves his brother lives in the light, and there is nothing in him to make him stumble


God did make people who fall outside gender norms.
Matthew 19:12- For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others—and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it."
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PidgeTPN

I sent that all to his brother's Facebook, this should be fun when he reads it.

But I was just told half an hour ago that we have no choice but to leave, and I was treated like ->-bleeped-<- when he told me. I really hope my mom can get me out of here next week....I'm done.
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MaxAloysius

Wow...damn that sucks. Why do people think they can use religion to belittle and force others into acting the way they see fit?

If you can, get out. Now. Those kind of people will do no good in your life. :(
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