Horrible day!

[drvotion86]

Ok so today is my bf's brothers graduation. My bf wanted me to go, I told him no i know exactly how his family is going to be. He finally got me to go. I worked hard Curling my hair and doing my makeup and had a special dress just for today. So first stop grandma's house, I notice right away the look i get. They don't say anything to me about the way i look. I sit down they offer me some food all seems ok i guess as well as it could me...

We leave and go to his parents house (his dad was at the grandparents house as well). I guess they had said something to him. We were sitting there and his dad walked in and said AJ come here. He basically told him that I would embarrase them and that i should dress like a boy. I already knew what was going to happen. I told him lets leave, He told me to wait for his mom to get there. As if that would make any difference.

He texted his aunt who is a counceler, She called and i guess asked to talk to me. So she was going on and on about how I am male and that i need to dress that way because Its his brothers day. So it made me very mad, I told her look I am in transition I am full time and i am on estrogen. Basically i told her well ill just leave.

So I walk out to get my purse and makeup and wedges. His mom is finally home and he walks in there and sits down. I can hear them talking about me. I finally had enough! I was like you know what i am not male i never was it doesnt matter what i used to look like its not who i am... She tried to compare my breast to his dads.... I am like I Have more than just fat in my chest unlike him. She started throwing things at me. I don't curse much at all but i did then can only imagine what i called her...

All in all it was a pretty crappy day.... I just wanted to kinda talk about it since i dont have anyone right now. BTW here what i looked like...

And this is what i was gonna wear to the graduation, I am invited to a graduation party in a ballroom so i can wear it there i guess.


I am finally standing up for myself! But guess im gonna enjoy my day off and watch tv.

[Sandy]

Danni:

You are so damn cute!

**HUGS**

That outfit looks very nice on you BTW.

Obviously his parents are way over the deep end.  You did not deserve that kind of abuse.  There is no way you should (or could!) go in drab.  I hope your boyfriend sees that.

Hang in there, hon.  It will get better!

-Sandy

[drvotion86]

I worked very hard to look so nice.

[spacial]

You didn't deserve that at all.

And frankly, if you had dressed like a boy, you would have looked like a girl dressing as a boy.

Frankly I cannot imagine what you boyfriend was thinking of, leaving you exposed to such people.

[James-Alen]

That's awful. I'm sorry that they were so rude :/ you looked great, if it's any consolation.

[drvotion86]

His mom threw her hormones at me. She was like here have some more hormones.

[James-Alen]

I'd get in her grill. Threaten to take her in on harassment.

[drvotion86]

the aunt (Counciler) really hurt me. I did tell him that his aunt is biase (hope i spelled that right.) Because She is in his family.

[Maddie Secutura]

Danni I feel for you, girl.  I understand how frustrating it is to be told that all you'll ever be is a boy.  As long as you know who you are that's all that matters.  And I have to agree you are a beautiful young lady.

[V M]

His mom threw her hormones at me. She was like here have some more hormones.

I think I would have replied with something like "Meh, I think you need 'em more than I do" and then laughed and ask her something like "What do you plan to be when you grow up?... In other words, don't let them get to you and even if they do kinda get to you, don't let them know it

They acted like ->-bleeped-<-s, that's their problem... You don't need to make it your problem... It's like dealing with any kind of bully, the less you allow them to upset you, the sooner they'll give up and quit trying to upset you

You could also remind the mo that it is illegal to share prescription med.s

Sorry you had a bad day

Hugs

- Virginia

[Maddie Secutura]

I really wish I could give you a hug right now.

[Janet_Girl]

Damn girl. They must be blind.  All I see is a girl.

I would have picked up all those pills and say "Thanks.  I was running low."

for the bad day.  And  for standing up for yourself.

[xxUltraModLadyxx]

His mom threw her hormones at me. She was like here have some more hormones.

i would tell her to go back to the warehouse liqour, and get some more, because she's gonna need to get drunk after this 

[Joelene9]

  Heck, I don't see any guy boobs there!  I wish I had those, Danni!  I see a lot of girl!  Some councelor. geez! 
  Joelene

[bethw]

Hi Danni;
I'm so sorry you were treated like that. Some people are just so insensative.
All I can say is Boy? I don't see any boy in that picture. Tou are SOOOOO cute.
Hugs
Beth

[drvotion86]

thx girls, wish we were all together talking it would be so nice.... My bf dropped me off and went back there. I know hes there for his brother i can understand that. I just really need someone here with me. My own grandma told me she is glad she isnt going to be living long... She is the most important person to me and for her to say that to me is hurtfull. She was always there for me when i was being physically abused by my stepdad.

[Megan Joanne]

You poor thing. Its one thing with one not being able to understand such stuff that we are, or even be against it, but what they did was damn abusive behavior, all totally uncalled for, especially being that you are their son's girlfriend. Did they even know about you prior to you meeting them? Ugh, ignorant people just don't understand, and at this point, putting boys' clothes on doesn't mean you are going to look like a boy, just a girl wearing boys' clothing. So I take it they'd prefered you gone as a boy and being with their son as what, a gay couple? That would have been acceptable? Or would they have made you gone simply as friends? Even my mom says, "she looks like a girl to me", yeah, I read my mom posts once in a while, we share in things like that.

[Caith]

I worked very hard to look so nice.

You succeeded.  Seriously, you look great!

[drvotion86]

I should be used to being treated like that. My whole life i was told i wasn't good enough. Why cant you be like your brother. Be more masculine talk with a deeper voice. You carry yourself like a women. All of that is from my mom and stepdad. Most of my life is blocked out i don't even remember going to school at all. Childhood, What childhood? I feel like i want to break down and just be gone forever.

[juliemac]

I should be used to being treated like that. My whole life i was told i wasn't good enough. Why cant you be like your brother. Be more masculine talk with a deeper voice. You carry yourself like a women. All of that is from my mom and stepdad. Most of my life is blocked out i don't even remember going to school at all. Childhood, What childhood? I feel like i want to break down and just be gone forever.

Well you could piss them all off and live a full and happy life.
I love your hair. Can I have it?