Being with African American Men

[Wild Flower]

I never really took noticed of this, but I feel hyper-feminine around manual-labor/low-income African American men.

I even notice some of them look at me, more often than white men (straight ones). Gay men love me. But I never noticed this reaction in straight men. I do get a lot of attention from older white straight men, but never the younger straight white men (but there's only a few so I can't really tell).

I work at a place where 75% of the population is black, and it's a factory job. And it's about 85% of men too, and the 15% of women are older, obese, or just plain out ugly women with tires on their body or hard features. And I know I am probably the youngest person in the building, since everyone looks over 25 years old (I'm 19).

I'm still a guy, but I apply tons of beauty anti-aging products, and I spray on pheromones before I go to work. I like my job too, even though it's a man-job. The first day I was at work, one guy wanted to give me pizza, and I turned him down since I wasn't hungry and he kept on looking at me. He wasn't gay either.

I now know who will love me the most if I transition; black men, as long as I don't tell them.

[Nero]

and the 15% of women are older, obese, or just plain out ugly women with tires on their body or hard features.

Those poor women... how could they ever expect to compete

[kate durcal]

Oh you naughty Wildflower, now you have me going. Yes, yes, yes. Same experience here. Middle age and late middle age African males knowing fully well I am still a boy they look at me with such a desire. They constantly ask me out for drinks. Tempting, but I have said no. I am am afraid I am week.


Love to wear white pants  with slighty pink undies in front of them

[Lisbeth]

God! I've lost track of how many black men have tried to ask me out or get my phone number. And some of them I could really get off on.

[kate durcal]

Why the difference with other ethnic groups?

[kate durcal]

I think my posting was not clear. Let me rephrase it. I mostly but not exclusively get the lusting looks from African American, my question is why not from the other groups?

[SnailPace]

You say that 75% of the population where you live is black. So then of course a lot of the men who look at you would be black, there is a large black population.  You even say in your post that white men also like to look at you!

You shouldn't racially stereotype like that, it's bothersome.

[Wild Flower]

Those poor women... how could they ever expect to compete

They really cannot compete. They are hideous, and the ones who aren't hideous are mediocre at best. All of them I can safely say are above 40 years old (with one or two below 40 but they look like hell so I don't know). All the guys are pass 25-30 years old, and they are all big ugly men. How I am doing this, beats me! They are GG women, and still cannot compete with me... which is sad since I'm not even on hormones at this point. Just way better looking, way younger, way thinner (these are some cows), lighter complexion, longer eyelashes, better skin quality, a better waist, and speak more elegantly then what they sound like.

I had about 5-7 guys surrounding me trying to help me with this one machine, felt like Scarlet O'Hara, lmao. They just seem to want to help me, and they were all white (with one black guy; Indian guy). Geez, what the hell is going on... I'm not even trying to pass. I had one Indian guy approach me, three white men, one black man, and one Italian guy asking me who I was, and he wouldn't go until I told him, "Thanks, I have this handle".

I'm not trying to be "racist", since I love all men of all colors, it's just something I noticed about black men, since I don't work with African American men that often.

I don't know, and it's not in my head, they just swarmed to me.

[Sephirah]

Lol, so much for tact.

I now know who will love me the most if I transition; black men, as long as I don't tell them.

Sounds like you'll love yourself the most, hon. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

[MillieB]

It must be your 'inner beauty' shining through.

[kate durcal]

They really cannot compete. They are hideous, and the ones who aren't hideous are mediocre at best. All of them I can safely say are above 40 years old (with one or two below 40 but they look like hell so I don't know). All the guys are pass 25-30 years old, and they are all big ugly men. How I am doing this, beats me! They are GG women, and still cannot compete with me... which is sad since I'm not even on hormones at this point. Just way better looking, way younger, way thinner (these are some cows), lighter complexion, longer eyelashes, better skin quality, a better waist, and speak more elegantly then what they sound like.

I had about 5-7 guys surrounding me trying to help me with this one machine, felt like Scarlet O'Hara, lmao. They just seem to want to help me, and they were all white (with one black guy; Indian guy). Geez, what the hell is going on... I'm not even trying to pass. I had one Indian guy approach me, three white men, one black man, and one Italian guy asking me who I was, and he wouldn't go until I told him, "Thanks, I have this handle".

I'm not trying to be "racist", since I love all men of all colors, it's just something I noticed about black men, since I don't work with African American men that often.

I don't know, and it's not in my head, they just swarmed to me.

Wild Flower, Your post make this day Memorial LOL

Where I work there is pretty much an equal mix of genders and ethnicity, most men are over 35 and highly educated.

You know how guy sneak a peak on their females coworkers butts or breast. They do not mean anything by it, is just the nature of the beast, Well the funny thing is that after I come out and start dressing more feminine, I sought several of my coworkers peeking at my butt! They also open doors for me, and th4eir demeanor towards me has change.  I notice a couple of female coworkers jealous of me.

The other thing worth noting is that the number of females -all ages- smiling at me.

Kate D

[Wild Flower]

The females there are friendly towards me, but then again they work with men all day long. So this is not the same type of crop of females... you meet everyday.

Third day in, one guy waited and opened the door for me....

[Nygeel]

Fetishizing people of color is not cool. Neither is fetishizing trans people, larger people, people with disabilities, etc.

[~RoadToTrista~]

^It's totally cool!

[kate durcal]

Fetishizing people of color is not cool. Neither is fetishizing trans people, larger people, people with disabilities, etc.

"People of color" ? Every body has a color, you color dear is peachy beige. A for fetishism, unless "people of color" are object, it is normal for human to make other human the object of their desires. Take a chilax pill man

[Nygeel]

"People of color" ? Every body has a color, you color dear is peachy beige. A for fetishism, unless "people of color" are object, it is normal for human to make other human the object of their desires. Take a chilax pill man

People of color meaning people who aren't white. Typically with seeing this person as "exotic."

[Wild Flower]

Lol, so much for tact.

Sounds like you'll love yourself the most, hon. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

I don't love myself... I am highly critical of myself. But I know I am hot... for a guy.

I am totally honest with my appearance.

OMG
Highly embarassing, I had to go number 2 at work, which I did, and then the toilet began to flooded. Then that leaded to me to look for the plunger, OMG!!! And an African American man went to the toilet, and asked me, and then I had to respond about plunger (I was really going to walk off without embarrassing myself) Then after I fixed it, we both went on a 30 minute conversation about education, college, life experiences and all that jazz.

So it was worth it, but why did it had to be SO embarrassing like that. I can get men even when I am taking a dump.... now you have to be HOT to do that. At that moment I wanted to die in embarrassment.

[kate durcal]

People of color meaning people who aren't white. Typically with seeing this person as "exotic."

You do not look white, as I said your color is peachy, and you do look exotic  to me, that hoody, and all... hum...

Tell me: at what tone of skin does a person begins to be white? Who determines that?

[Wild Flower]

If your genetics is mostly white, and most people considered you to be white. I say you're white.

Adriana Lima to me looks hispanic with some white blood.
Vanessa Hudgens looks hispanic to me.
Carmen Diaz looks white to me.
Meranda Kerr looks white to me.
Shakira looks mostly white, or Middle Eastern to me (she's hispanic)
Madonna looks white, but could look like 25% hispanic in her earlier days.

looking white doesn't necessarily mean your blonde with blue eyes, since everyone could have that.
and looking white is not the goal, it's to look HOT.

Tyra Banks is hot.
Selma Hayek is hot.
Ayumi Hamasaki is hot.
Gong Li is hot.
Fran Drescher is hot (she's ethnic white; Jewish)

[PixieBoy]

Why do you absolutely have to mention the ancestry of these men? Couldn't you just say "ZOMG a guy checked me out" instead? Why does the ancestry of these men matter? I don't get it, to me it seems a bit like saying "A girl with long hair checked me out, and a girl with glasses checked me out, and a girl with ADHD hugged me once..." (listing random things about the person who is interested in you that are irrelevant to the fact that they're interested in you; I wrote about girls because I'm into girls). I'm "white" (born in Sweden), so maybe I don't understand these things properly, and I'm sorry if I offended anyone.