Hi! First time posting, forgive my lack of introduction. I actually read through this forum constantly- you guys are like, my personal celebrities. You've been of much assistance in figuring out what's what in my complicated life.
In any case, I'll try to make this brief. I'm estranged from my mother, and her side of the family. She's a very difficult woman, and growing up I was the family scapegoat. I had a difficult childhood, and a difficult early adulthood. Compounded of course by the issue of my gender identity. My mother has done me no favors, and I don't want to have a relationship with her [this is complicated guys- I'm actually a very very forgiving person, and a bit of a doormat when it comes to loves ones, so believe me when I say I tried. Just... pre-empting any random criticism] Regardless! I've started on T, and she needs to know what's up. Honestly, she scares the pants off of me, so I'm going the hand-written letter route. She is the antithesis of understanding and open-minded, so I thought I might include some reading material. She is not going to march off to the library, or Borders to pick up literature, so I'm looking for anything on-line you might suggest specifically for familes of transgendered folks. I've run into a lot of stuff for parents of trans-children, but I am 26. I'm probably not using the right search terms. :|
She is easily embarrassed, extremely image conscious etc., and has invalidated virtually every aspect of my life with her vitriol, so I'm looking for something that will help her understand that I didn't pull this out of my ass to ruin her life.
I actually wasn't expecting to have to do this so soon, but I'm on my second T shot, and transitioning a lot faster than I expected. Muscle growth, voice change, little bit of facial hair. I'm worried she'll seek me out, or god forbid something happens, and I show up to a family member's hospital room as an obvious man, or something in between. The worry is keeping me up at night, so I want to get this over with. Any suggestions, things you've read, or if you know a REALLY good easy to digest book, I might just buy it and send it with my note. I don't foresee this going down well, but! It needs to be done.
Well, that was hardly brief. Sorry about that. Also! If there happens to be a thread with a similarly answered question, feel free to direct me with ample scolding. 226 pages is a lot to sift through, but I get it. Repeat questions suck.
