Having read the whole thread today (for the first time), I have a short answer, and a long answer.
Short version: Androgyne is an umbrella term to describe anyone who does not identify as a male or a female.
Long version: There is an infinite variety of the way people perceive their gender. Most people, if you ask them, will say "I'm a male (boy, man, guy, dude, etc.)," others "I'm a female (girl, woman, princess, goddess, etc.)". These people are known as binary gendered people...they are one or the other. There are some people, however, who do not feel they fit so neatly in those two categories. They may be a mix of male and female (to varying degrees), both at the same time, neither, or their gender identities may float around all over the place. The people who aren't male or female are androgynes. There are as many sub-divisional categories of androgynes as there are people.
We all have a story to tell about how we came to understand that we weren't male or female. Most are very interesting and, amazingly enough, have a lot of points in common regardless of how we identify themselves.
A certain amount of irreverence seems to be another common trait. When one has spent a great deal of energy fighting against the societal pressure to conform to a male/female binary, a disregard of the gender rules inevitably follows. This also tends to spill over into many other areas of our lives. I tend to follow most of the rules of society that will keep me employed and out of jail, but generally consider the rest of them to be open to twisting, bending or breaking if the mood strikes me.
With the struggles to understand ourselves AND trying to explain why we aren't boys or girls, humor is a major coping mechanism. Given the choice to be in a constant state of rage over the injustice of being forced into a gender role that simply doesn't fit, or laughing at oneself and the incredible lengths people go to try to enforce "proper gender behavior", I'll take the laughter.
That doesn't mean there isn't still anger and frustration. Of course there is. But one gets so tired of fighting everyone. It's not that they are bad people, they simply don't understand. They can't comprehend the fact that we are happy outside the bounds of gender rules...and, truth be told, maybe just a little jealous.
Having finally cast off the roles and expectations of being a male, why in the world would I want to be subservient to the rules of being female? We are the Gender Outlaws. We are the free people who refuse to bow to the rigidity of historical gender rules. We are full of sh*t, and proud of it.
And yes, one does eventually reach the point of saying "F it". My "F it" response is usually followed by "This is who I am. If you don't like it, tough. You can be my friend, and accept me as I am, or you can go away and never bother me again. I'm not changing"
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