Quote from: omdorastrix on February 05, 2013, 09:10:00 AM
I'm bit of a sciencey type, and I like classification because it helps me sort of understand things. I see gender as a spectrum that goes from a state of "maleness" on one end and "Femaleness" on the other. Using that logic I see a few broad gender "classifications": Male (mostly to one side of the spectrum), Female (Mostly to the other side) and Genderqueer (In the middle OR not "male" or "female"). I see Androgynes (and Bi-gender and 2-spirit) having more leeway and being more varied in their expression and in their identity. No two are exactly alike.
I'm very much the 'sciencey type' and classifying things just comes with it I suppose.
I have totally dropped the idea of a spectrum with male and female on each end. Why are they the ends?
It doesn't make sense anymore.
It was someone on here (I know who
) that put it as male and female are like a highway and non-binary isn't something in the middle of them, it is it's own highway.
This makes total sense to me, for the reason that we don't follow the same terrain or destinations as the other highways do.
Male is a Gender. Female is a Gender. Androgyn is a Gender.
Any non-binary definition is it's own highway (or road or path if you prefer).
It totally makes sense to think of sexuality this way also. There isn't a middle of a spectrum. There are other's.
But what makes it that way to me, is that we all don't have the same destinations. So a spectrum just doesn't work.
This took a long time for me to really grasp the concept completely. But it was a long time in coming.
We are just not people that are between MTF and FTM, nor are any of us in between male and female.
There is a road that goes by the forest here, but it isn't a highway that goes directly from Male City to Female City.
We are our own gender, not a blend, not a mix. As people, we can all share characteristics. We have always done that.
I don't know, but it makes it easier to view things for what they are that way.
I never liked the impression that people have that we are nothing more than something in between two genders.
It's why they keep having expectations of us that we will suddenly realize that we really are just one or the other.
I call Bullsh*t on that idea. It happens sometimes, but it also goes the other way, too.
We are who
we are, not a mix of something that can't define us.
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