Neo-Cisgender living…

[Anatta]

Disclaimer : It is not my intention to "offend" others...But it "is" my intention to make one "think" about their present position in life...Nothing more Nothing less ! All are welcomed to post their opinions but please keep to topic...

Kia Ora "Post Transitioners" {with or without surgery M2F & F2M} This was the only section I could post this in...

I was wondering if any of you ever think along the lines of [dare I say] "Us & Them" when it comes to those trans-people who are still facing an inner and outer struggle of acceptance, that is not only with themselves but with society at large ?

This topic is not about "elitism", it's about how/what one "thinks" when situations crop up as they often do in the media or other wise about the plight of "trans-people"...

When interacting with the general public I no longer see myself as "trans" but just as a "run of the mill female" like any other woman...This was my personal goal which I've now achieved...This doesn't for one minute mean I'm better than others, just that I no longer have to face any inner or outer demons...

I guess I should add, in one sense I'm now on the "outside looking in"...If this makes sense...

Metta Zenda    

[Muffins]

No one should be ashamed for reaching their objective..... but proud and others should be proud of them! More so if they help others to reach the same result.
If someone wants to consider themselves complete and no longer feel like they are in transition then good on them but if others want to hold on to that idea that they are still or will always in someway be trans-something-O-rather, then that is their choice! ^___^

[Just Shelly]

Well I'm not post op but I do understand what you mean.

I have these moments at times (rare, as I'm not even out yet)

Like today, I went for a bike ride on a fairly busy trail, I was just another run of the mill female. I only interacted with a few people and it was short but I was not trans to them (although to my self I still know I'm trans).

I have seen my transition reach different milestones, ones I haven't even set for my self but heard of others achieving and then noticing it happening to me.

Passing (ugh hate that word) is of such importance, many will say it doesn't matter, what matters is if they are accepted as them selves. Thats fine but I want to be accepted as female. It seems though to other trans if you say this or if this is happening then they think your an elitist. If being accepted as  just another woman while shopping, doing yard work, biking, attending events and ...........makes me feel like I am achieving my goal, then I am an elitist. I already know for a fact that the people that knew me as (ugh him) will never see me as just onother women.


I've read over your post at least 3 times, I have tried to read something other then what was written, but I'm not to good at reading between the lines.  I'm sure someone will see something  though. 


Shelly

[Anatta]

Kia Ora and thanks for your replies...

It's true Muffin, it's all about choice, but from my personal experience what does tend to happen [well happened for me anyway] is the more/longer one "blends" into main stream society the more one become part of the social fabric of a cisgender world hence "Neo-Cisgender Living" = "Neo-Cisgender mind set"...

Metta Zenda

Kia Ora Shelly,

Phew boy am I glad you failed to read anything more into what I've written...It can be a bloody hard life being "perfect"...let me tell you !   

But jokes aside, it's nice when one can leave the "trans-world" behind for a while and just become part of the woodwork/fabric so to speak...

When I see trans-topics in the media, yes I sympathise with their plight and in the past I quite often have written articles in my local paper about the plight of trans-people, but I do feel somewhat distant from "them" now... Again this is not elitist, it's just where I'm at in life... I've crossed the "gender divide" and now have the ability to see things from the "comfort" of the other side...

Metta Zenda