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[Wraith]

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[Julie Marie]

Family and friends have a strange way of telling you they care.  When you aren't living up to their expectations, they let you know with rejection, bitching, mocking, ignoring and other forms of "love".

[Nicole99]

your mum is freaking out. I guess hormones make it all too real for our folks. That was one thing that scared my mum too, everything was good until I started talking about hormone therapy. It is like it is not really real until that point.

As hard as it is,  I think you should not disown them. From her perspective it is a bit like you are murdering her daughter. So she will have grief and anger.  Don't make any apologies for being yourself though hun. Connect with those that do love and support you, and give you mum as much space as you can. Perhaps in time they will come around.

[tvc15]

I hate this attitude. It's not fair for someone to deny another person a quality life "just to keep up appearances" or "for the family" or whatever other bogus reason they can come up with. We only get this one shot at life, so why can't people just be happy for each other?

[jesse]

i agree with what nicky says give her space when she does contact you keep as calm as you can or discontinue the call until you can remain calm and if you do still love her and it is possible to grow to hate your parents try to end every call with i love you in the end only kindness matters so try to reach out to her every chance you get with any luck she will remember the baby she gave birth too and grab a hold of your hand when you need it the most.
hugs my brother
jessi

[JadeS]

my parents just like to pretend "it" is not there, even though it's pretty obvious. I wish they'd stop using my old male name and male pronouns with me and  notjust pretend nothing is happening

[Jeh]

My parents said they accepted it when I came out to them last year, but as soon as I started T they did a complete 180 and decided I wasn't truly transgender and that I was making the hugest mistake of my life. My dad says he has no problem with transgender people, but he doesn't believe that I am one. He said he'll always love me, but he won't acknowledge my transition. I hope he will eventually. My family still calls me by my female name. I don't know what they'd do if I insisted they call me by my male name.

[xAndrewx]

First congrats on your first T shot Second... I agree with Nicky. My mom went through the murdering of her "daughter" stage too. It was thankfully short lived but in time she accepted it. Now a year later I'm her son, Drew, and everything. Sure, she screws up occasionally but she does better with it than others. Good luck with whatever you choose to do though man.

[Wraith]

Well that's the thing. She says she will accept "him". As if I'm being swapped out by someone. It freaks the hell out of me. It's just as scary as talking about my past as "her" as if that was someone else too.

I'd hate the day that I walk into her home, to be called "him" and her "son", knowing that she still never actually saw me or realised who I am. She turns it into a charade.

[justmeinoz]

I just keep reassuring my Mum that she has "two for the price of one".  I was a son for 50+ years, now she gets to have a daughter too.  It'll take time, but I hope her memory doesn't get any worse or I will have to keep repeating myself even more, explaining what's happening.
Karen