Prior to having my vaginoplasty revision I didn't really understand how much I needed it. It was almost as if my support team talked me into the revision. Initially I kind of thought that I only wanted a revision due to aesthetics, but my team pointed out that there were several physical issues that really needed to be addressed. Thus it was that I showed up to my revision surgery appointment with a post-it and a list of 5 things on it.

Let's see.....
1 - create clitoral hooding
2 - reduce size of labia majora
3 - reduce webbing from in front of vaginal canal
4 - remove excess erectile tissue
5 - bring everything more centered to be more of a V than a U, if that makes any sense.

All of those issues got addressed and I am vastly happier, and a surprising thing happened that never occurred to me, my urination now sounds right! Which is kind of a strange thing as I never knew that it sounded wrong. But it did! I mean of course it sounded wrong prior to my initial GCS, but even after it sounded very much like things were just sort of leaking out of me. Weird description I suppose, but accurate. Now it sounds much more like every other woman in the restroom. And that is a wonderful thing that I never knew I missing.

Somebody mentioned enjoying small reminders of their transition, like lipstick left on a drinking glass. I guess I kind of put this into that same sort of category. Peeing is such an everyday thing, and now every time I go, I am pleasantly reminded of how me I finally am.

Are there any small things that you never anticipated happening from any of your surgeries that now make you even more happy?

Hi Nadine Spirit Kelly

Thank you so much for this thread you do not know, how appropriate it is for me.

You wrote the following:

Quote from: Nadine Spirit on February 28, 2024, 05:17:39 PMPrior to having my vaginoplasty revision I didn't really understand how much I needed it. It was almost as if my support team talked me into the revision. Initially I kind of thought that I only wanted a revision due to aesthetics, but my team pointed out that there were several physical issues that really needed to be addressed. Thus it was that I showed up to my revision surgery appointment with a post-it and a list of 5 things on it.

Let's see.....
1 - create clitoral hooding
2 - reduce size of labia majora
3 - reduce webbing from in front of vaginal canal
4 - remove excess erectile tissue
5 - bring everything more centered to be more of a V than a U, if that makes any sense.

I'm going to see a gynaecologist in two weeks and your post further adds to what I should say when I meet her.  I had my surgery in Feb 1991 and I knew absolutely nothing about the surgery.  I walked away, with a functional vagina and that was the only thing that ever mattered to me the most.

I had an outer labia and a clitoris which is functional and I'm not sure about the inner labia.  Other than the surgeon, who examined me after the surgery and I think I may have looked once or twice, obviously with a mirror, nobody has ever seen it except my partners.

In those days there was no support whatsoever in this area and now I get the chance to avail myself of the wisdom of others.

Quote from: Nadine Spirit on February 28, 2024, 05:17:39 PMAll of those issues got addressed and I am vastly happier, and a surprising thing happened that never occurred to me, my urination now sounds right! Which is kind of a strange thing as I never knew that it sounded wrong. But it did! I mean of course it sounded wrong prior to my initial GCS, but even after it sounded very much like things were just sort of leaking out of me. Weird description I suppose, but accurate. Now it sounds much more like every other woman in the restroom. And that is a wonderful thing that I never knew I missing.

The sound of other women peeing did cross my mind once or twice and I did listen out a couple of other times, but could not hear anything out of the ordinary, however since I was able to go properly, then that was all that mattered.

Long story short I will be seeing a gynaecologist in two weeks, who is interested in our 'medical condition' and was suggested by my specialist GP.  Two reasons to see the gynaecologist are one I have never had any problems going to wee, however just recently my flow has changed and two I get an expert opinion and feedback on what it really looks like down there and is it healthy inside.
           

Quote from: Nadine Spirit on February 28, 2024, 05:17:39 PMSomebody mentioned enjoying small reminders of their transition, like lipstick left on a drinking glass. I guess I kind of put this into that same sort of category. Peeing is such an everyday thing, and now every time I go, I am pleasantly reminded of how me I finally am.

Are there any small things that you never anticipated happening from any of your surgeries that now make you even more happy?

Nothing like lipstick on a glass nope, peeing nope, wearing heels nope, stockings nope, bras nope.  All these feminine things, are just a part of my daily life in a sense they do make me contented, I suppose.  If you know what I mean.

There are only two things that make me more than happy after having surgery and they are one, I'm able to do a lot more hair styles than before, which was just a simple pony tail or a plain plait.  The second, feeling of peace, contentment and it feels right, when ever I think about when I had my surgery.

Seriously, lip stick on a glass.  (Laughing and Crying icon here)

Best Wishes and Hugs
Sarah B

It's a story I've already told, but I went to see a renowned gynecologist for bleeding and he took a look AND THEN I told him my history and he took another look and said, "I never would have known. I assumed you'd had a hysterectomy. How did your surgeon do this? May I call him and talk to him?"

Hi O&C and Kelly

After discussing with my specialist GP, who deals with our condition, she said she would ring the gynaecologist and hopefully she did not say what my condition was, this was so that I could get that early referral, so it could be a surprise in a sense.  I wish but I don't think that will happen.

The gynaecologist will be the fourth or fifth doctor that I will tell, one because, it will be more than obvious if she knows about me in advance, two I would like to know, how healthy it looks down there (no problems I suspect), three my specialist doctor said the gynaecologist is very much interested in my medical condition, four she is a female and fifth, just recently I have had weeing problem.  So, this doctor definitely needs to know.  She will be told straight of the bat with my surgery letter.

A little story about my surgery.  My surgeon examined me post op and a couple of months later I went and had a nodule removed from downstairs at his day surgery. I walked home and I started to bleed ended up in hospital and a week later he operated on me because he knew what was going on downstairs, it was a haematoma, I did not tell the other doctors what was going on. The doctor who was looking after and who examined me, did not know any different until my surgeon turned up to fix me.  This doctor said to me, "You should have told me about your condition".  So even then my vagina passed muster.  It will be interesting to see if there are any scars that can be seen 33 years later!

I will post relevant comments on my blog about what happens in the consultation.

Take care and I will talk again real soon!

Best Wishes and Hugs
Sarah B

Hi Kelly Nadine

Sorry I should have said in my posts above somewhere, I'm happy to hear about your revision and that it was successful in your case.  Did you come up with the list or was it a joint effort?

Once again your OP is very much appreciated.

You know what?  I really like love the name, Nadine.

Love and Hugs
Sarah B

Thanks Sarah! My list was created over time through conversations with my wife, my therapist, my surgeon's assistant, and my own desires. It took some thought, more than I initially thought. And some things that were suggested by my PA I didn't even consider until she mentioned it.

I really like the name Nadine also. I was sure it would be my IRL name, but alas when I started trying to use it, it just wasn't me. So I've kept it for some online things, like this place!

Thanks again!