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Title: My Introduction
Post by: Beverly Anne on May 27, 2018, 11:38:13 AM
Post by: Beverly Anne on May 27, 2018, 11:38:13 AM
Hello, new friends! I'm an AMaB, MtF in MD-supervised medical transition. I'm out and confidently living full-time as the woman I've always been. I obtained a court-ordered legal name change, and my gender marker with the SSA and on my driver's license is female. This was a huge source of dysphoria and disconnect for me. Jumping this hurdle was psychologically more fulfilling than beginning transition.
My cis-F spouse passed away last March, I have no children, and I live alone with my fur baby best friend. I'm active in the community and the LGBTQ+ inclusive church I attend. I'm attending school to prepare for a second career in nursing, after a successful career in public relations. I'm currently looking for a part-time job. Over the past nine months, I lost my job, my Dad, my spouse, and disclosed my gender to everyone.
The biggest issue for me at the moment is finding a new partner. I'm a strong, independent person, and I never thought I would become lonely, but I have. Those of you who have dated after transition or are currently dating understand what a challenge this can be. I just began online dating at the suggestion of my therapist. This is the area of life where I need the most support from members of this forum.
I'm happy to share my journey and offer my experience to those still questioning or going through the trials and tribulations of being transgender. I live in the Charlotte, NC metropolitan area.
My cis-F spouse passed away last March, I have no children, and I live alone with my fur baby best friend. I'm active in the community and the LGBTQ+ inclusive church I attend. I'm attending school to prepare for a second career in nursing, after a successful career in public relations. I'm currently looking for a part-time job. Over the past nine months, I lost my job, my Dad, my spouse, and disclosed my gender to everyone.
The biggest issue for me at the moment is finding a new partner. I'm a strong, independent person, and I never thought I would become lonely, but I have. Those of you who have dated after transition or are currently dating understand what a challenge this can be. I just began online dating at the suggestion of my therapist. This is the area of life where I need the most support from members of this forum.
I'm happy to share my journey and offer my experience to those still questioning or going through the trials and tribulations of being transgender. I live in the Charlotte, NC metropolitan area.
Title: Re: My Introduction
Post by: Jessica on May 27, 2018, 12:49:03 PM
Post by: Jessica on May 27, 2018, 12:49:03 PM
Hi Beverly Anne 🙋♀️ Welcome to Susan's Place! I'm Jessica.
Please accept my condolences for the loss of your wife and father. Losing loved ones for anyone in difficult.
As far as dating, I am married now for 37 years and have no idea about any of that. Though I am fairly sure you may get helpful information from other members here.
I see your new here, so I'll post some links that may help you get better acquainted with the site. Pay attention to the site rules they can be of great help and don't forget the link highlighted red. It has answers to questions that are commonly asked. Then join in on a topic you find interesting and learn and share.
Please accept my condolences for the loss of your wife and father. Losing loved ones for anyone in difficult.
As far as dating, I am married now for 37 years and have no idea about any of that. Though I am fairly sure you may get helpful information from other members here.
I see your new here, so I'll post some links that may help you get better acquainted with the site. Pay attention to the site rules they can be of great help and don't forget the link highlighted red. It has answers to questions that are commonly asked. Then join in on a topic you find interesting and learn and share.
Things that you should read
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Title: Re: My Introduction
Post by: Northern Star Girl on May 27, 2018, 12:54:39 PM
Post by: Northern Star Girl on May 27, 2018, 12:54:39 PM
@Beverly Anne
Hello Beverly Anne,
***I see that you have already been welcomed here by @Jessica.
Obviously you may have questions and concerns, this is the right place for you to be to find out what others have done that may have been in your circumstances.
Be aware that there are lots of members here that can identify with what you may be going through.
Please allow me to also WELCOME you to Susan's Place. You will find this a safe and friendly place to share with others and to read about others similar trials, tribulations, and successes.
It is nice that you had signed up so you can share with others and involve yourself with some give and take with other members.
When frustrated or if you have successes you can share it here if you wish and receive support from others and offer support to others. ....
***It's a very good chance that you might find that you will make some new friends here.
Please come in and get involved at your own pace. You may have already seen the following the LINKS that @Jessica posted in her welcome message to you.....be sure to look them over, there is information about the site that will help you navigate around and best utilize the features here.
Again, Welcome.
Danielle
Hello Beverly Anne,
***I see that you have already been welcomed here by @Jessica.
Obviously you may have questions and concerns, this is the right place for you to be to find out what others have done that may have been in your circumstances.
Be aware that there are lots of members here that can identify with what you may be going through.
Please allow me to also WELCOME you to Susan's Place. You will find this a safe and friendly place to share with others and to read about others similar trials, tribulations, and successes.
It is nice that you had signed up so you can share with others and involve yourself with some give and take with other members.
When frustrated or if you have successes you can share it here if you wish and receive support from others and offer support to others. ....
***It's a very good chance that you might find that you will make some new friends here.
Please come in and get involved at your own pace. You may have already seen the following the LINKS that @Jessica posted in her welcome message to you.....be sure to look them over, there is information about the site that will help you navigate around and best utilize the features here.
Again, Welcome.
Danielle
Title: Re: My Introduction
Post by: V M on May 27, 2018, 09:26:06 PM
Post by: V M on May 27, 2018, 09:26:06 PM
Hi Beverly Anne :icon_wave:
Welcome to Susan's Place :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
Hugs
V M
Welcome to Susan's Place :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
Hugs
V M
Title: Re: My Introduction
Post by: Amaki on May 28, 2018, 10:19:51 AM
Post by: Amaki on May 28, 2018, 10:19:51 AM
Oh Im so sorry, I wish there was more that can be said or done but you seem to have a strong handle on everything. My best friend (one of the people who are helping me transition) went through similar events losing both of her parents within a year of each other and finally deciding to come out about being transgender. Thats actually one of the big reasons I started this leg of my journey that and Im tired of feeling depressed about this. If you ever need someone to rant to Im use to being a shoulder and hope you can stay positive, dating is hard.
Stay Positive thats what we all need.
Stay Positive thats what we all need.
Title: Re: My Introduction
Post by: Beverly Anne on May 29, 2018, 07:20:32 AM
Post by: Beverly Anne on May 29, 2018, 07:20:32 AM
Thank you all for the warm welcome!