Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: darilee on November 12, 2025, 06:57:22 PM Return to Full Version
Title: coming out in spite of myself
Post by: darilee on November 12, 2025, 06:57:22 PM
Post by: darilee on November 12, 2025, 06:57:22 PM
hi all I have some good news that I wanted to share with you all. since my orchiectomy surgery and starting estrogen 4-1/2 years ago I was chugging along my breasts were growing thanks to genetics, but my body was looking like a sack of potatoes, I weighed 178 on my 5'-8 1/2" frame until five months ago when my doctor put me on mounjaro for my diabetes. That's when everything started to change, the combination of estrogen and mounjaro caused a drastic reduction in fat in my mid-section, legs, arms, back, actually everywhere except for my hip and breasts, estrogen made sure that fat stayed. as a result, today I'm 135 lbs., 44 busts x 27 waist x 35 hips. In spite of my non-gender affirming self, I couldn't hide my assets any longer. I used to be a short chubby male and now I'm a tall slender busty woman with an hourglass figure. I felt a need to share this information in hope someone may find it useful. I hope this picture is appropriate for this site.
thanks for letting me share.
thanks for letting me share.
Title: Re: coming out in spite of myself
Post by: Maid Marion on November 12, 2025, 07:20:32 PM
Post by: Maid Marion on November 12, 2025, 07:20:32 PM
Hi Darilee,
Great to hear that you have good news! Looks like you need to buy new clothes.
Marion
Great to hear that you have good news! Looks like you need to buy new clothes.
Marion
Title: Re: coming out in spite of myself
Post by: Lori Dee on November 12, 2025, 08:13:25 PM
Post by: Lori Dee on November 12, 2025, 08:13:25 PM
Hi Darilee.
Congrats on your success! With your weight in the right places, you will be healthier too.
Thanks for sharing!
Congrats on your success! With your weight in the right places, you will be healthier too.
Thanks for sharing!
Title: Re: coming out in spite of myself
Post by: NancyDrew1930 on November 13, 2025, 05:11:56 AM
Post by: NancyDrew1930 on November 13, 2025, 05:11:56 AM
Hi Darilee
That's what I'm hoping to be like in the spring/summer after my bariatric surgery.
That's what I'm hoping to be like in the spring/summer after my bariatric surgery.
Title: Re: coming out in spite of myself
Post by: darilee on November 14, 2025, 05:55:51 AM
Post by: darilee on November 14, 2025, 05:55:51 AM
I'm in the process of buying new clothing. I've learned that transitioning isn't just about changing oneself, it also requires changing everything else. Will it ever end?
Title: Re: coming out in spite of myself
Post by: Courtney G on November 14, 2025, 07:38:08 AM
Post by: Courtney G on November 14, 2025, 07:38:08 AM
Wow, congratulations! It's like a dream come true. Then again, I'm sure this took a lot of work on your part. Kudos for taking those steps.
I have to ask (no need to answer if too personal). Since your orchiectomy:
1. Were you able to retain bottom function?
2. Have you needed to supplement T? I've heard that can happen.
After 4 years of HRT, I'm still fighting to keep my T down. I'm taking spironolactone and I don't like it. Id much rather have the things removed but I'd like to retain function. I've had no problems with it so far.
Thanks
I have to ask (no need to answer if too personal). Since your orchiectomy:
1. Were you able to retain bottom function?
2. Have you needed to supplement T? I've heard that can happen.
After 4 years of HRT, I'm still fighting to keep my T down. I'm taking spironolactone and I don't like it. Id much rather have the things removed but I'd like to retain function. I've had no problems with it so far.
Thanks
Title: Re: coming out in spite of myself
Post by: Lori Dee on November 14, 2025, 08:57:57 AM
Post by: Lori Dee on November 14, 2025, 08:57:57 AM
Quote from: darilee on November 14, 2025, 05:55:51 AMI'm in the process of buying new clothing. I've learned that transitioning isn't just about changing oneself, it also requires changing everything else. Will it ever end?
It could be seen as changing, or maybe you are just casting away what no longer suits you. That is a lifelong journey. I no longer wear the same style of hair or clothing as I did when I was younger. Things adapted to whatever I was experiencing in my life at that time, from childhood to teen to adult.
Title: Re: coming out in spite of myself
Post by: darilee on November 16, 2025, 05:42:55 AM
Post by: darilee on November 16, 2025, 05:42:55 AM
Courtney,
#1, I'm 68 and naturally running out of time regarding that sort of thing. But Viagra still doe's works for me.
#2, For me personally, taking testosterone at this point would be counterintuitive for me. My body for the most part is all women without having any surgery other than the orchiectomy. I don't want to change that by adding testosterone.
#1, I'm 68 and naturally running out of time regarding that sort of thing. But Viagra still doe's works for me.
#2, For me personally, taking testosterone at this point would be counterintuitive for me. My body for the most part is all women without having any surgery other than the orchiectomy. I don't want to change that by adding testosterone.
Title: Re: coming out in spite of myself
Post by: darilee on August 17, 2026, 07:26:13 PM
Post by: darilee on August 17, 2026, 07:26:13 PM
3 month-15 days until robotic vaginoplasty, time may feel slow in the moment, but it is actually moving rather quickly.
Title: Re: coming out in spite of myself
Post by: Jillian-TG on August 18, 2026, 06:26:09 AM
Post by: Jillian-TG on August 18, 2026, 06:26:09 AM
Quote from: darilee on August 17, 2026, 07:26:13 PM3 month-15 days until robotic vaginoplasty, time may feel slow in the moment, but it is actually moving rather quickly.May I ask what the "robotic" part of that means? I'm not familiar with the term in this context.
Title: Re: coming out in spite of myself
Post by: Stottie Girl on August 18, 2026, 06:39:41 AM
Post by: Stottie Girl on August 18, 2026, 06:39:41 AM
Quote from: Jillian-TG on August 18, 2026, 06:26:09 AMMay I ask what the "robotic" part of that means? I'm not familiar with the term in this context.I think they use robotics for a PPT Laporoscopy vaginoplasy Jillian.
Title: Re: coming out in spite of myself
Post by: Maid Marion on August 18, 2026, 06:51:56 AM
Post by: Maid Marion on August 18, 2026, 06:51:56 AM
I think it means that the doctor controls tiny machines guided by a camera.
It avoids the need for invasive surgery that lengthens healing time.
It avoids the need for invasive surgery that lengthens healing time.
Title: Re: coming out in spite of myself
Post by: Finally Anna on August 18, 2026, 06:55:34 AM
Post by: Finally Anna on August 18, 2026, 06:55:34 AM
Computer assisted control of the "arms". For more exact movement.
Title: Re: coming out in spite of myself
Post by: darilee on August 19, 2026, 05:44:06 AM
Post by: darilee on August 19, 2026, 05:44:06 AM
That is how the surgeon describes peritoneal pull through surgery in my medical chart. When I opened up my chart yesterday to see how many day's I had remaining that is how it read, it gives a daily count down. I've gone from being excited to a little nervous the last couple of days, I imagine my emotions are going to be all over the place. I hope I don't say or do anything stupid towards my family as a result. I keep thinking I'm to old, to ugly, placing too much on my spouse. on top of that, I still have all the normal daily things that life brings at you. Oh well
Title: Re: coming out in spite of myself
Post by: darilee on September 07, 2026, 06:14:06 AM
Post by: darilee on September 07, 2026, 06:14:06 AM
ROBOT-ASSISTED VAGINOPLASTY
Procedure date: Dec 2, 2026
2 months, 25 days until procedure
I have received and approval letter from the insurance company, I don't know when that'll happen and I'm assuming my health is good. Think I'll take a month and go somewhere to take my mind off things I have a Postop coming up this October 19th I'll return for that and then I'll have 44 days till surgery
Procedure date: Dec 2, 2026
2 months, 25 days until procedure
I have received and approval letter from the insurance company, I don't know when that'll happen and I'm assuming my health is good. Think I'll take a month and go somewhere to take my mind off things I have a Postop coming up this October 19th I'll return for that and then I'll have 44 days till surgery
Title: Re: coming out in spite of myself
Post by: Jillian-TG on September 07, 2026, 06:31:38 AM
Post by: Jillian-TG on September 07, 2026, 06:31:38 AM
Quote from: darilee on August 19, 2026, 05:44:06 AMThat is how the surgeon describes peritoneal pull through surgery in my medical chart. When I opened up my chart yesterday to see how many day's I had remaining that is how it read, it gives a daily count down. I've gone from being excited to a little nervous the last couple of days, I imagine my emotions are going to be all over the place. I hope I don't say or do anything stupid towards my family as a result. I keep thinking I'm to old, to ugly, placing too much on my spouse. on top of that, I still have all the normal daily things that life brings at you. Oh wellI can imagine it's stressful on top of day to day life. The trans journey is especially challenging on top of daily life and all the responsibilities that come with it. The general public often struggles with daily living yet we have that PLUS all the stress and strain of transition. And when transition includes major surgery it becomes hectic.
I think it's perfectly normal to feel some stress and anxiety
Title: Re: coming out in spite of myself
Post by: Stottie Girl on September 07, 2026, 06:55:09 AM
Post by: Stottie Girl on September 07, 2026, 06:55:09 AM
Quote from: darilee on September 07, 2026, 06:14:06 AMROBOT-ASSISTED VAGINOPLASTYThat's great news Darilee! It must be fantastic to have a date to work towards. This time next year you will be pretty much fully recovered and living the good life. I'm not at all jealous ha ha!
Procedure date: Dec 2, 2026
2 months, 25 days until procedure
I have received and approval letter from the insurance company, I don't know when that'll happen and I'm assuming my health is good. Think I'll take a month and go somewhere to take my mind off things I have a Postop coming up this October 19th I'll return for that and then I'll have 44 days till surgery
Title: Re: coming out in spite of myself
Post by: Jillian-TG on September 07, 2026, 08:33:38 AM
Post by: Jillian-TG on September 07, 2026, 08:33:38 AM
Quote from: Stottie Girl on September 07, 2026, 06:55:09 AMThat's great news Darilee! It must be fantastic to have a date to work towards. This time next year you will be pretty much fully recovered and living the good life. I'm not at all jealous ha ha!My nerves would be shot. I'm not sure I would be brave enough to ever do it (even if I had the freedom to do so).
Title: Re: coming out in spite of myself
Post by: Stottie Girl on September 07, 2026, 12:26:15 PM
Post by: Stottie Girl on September 07, 2026, 12:26:15 PM
Quote from: Jillian-TG on September 07, 2026, 08:33:38 AMMy nerves would be shot. I'm not sure I would be brave enough to ever do it (even if I had the freedom to do so).If I had the money I would lie on the slab right now Jillian ha ha! Sadly life is not like that for me. By the time I will have saved up enough money it will probably by my turn on the NHS waiting list. I really must get myself registered on that list!
Title: Re: coming out in spite of myself
Post by: darilee on September 08, 2026, 11:19:59 AM
Post by: darilee on September 08, 2026, 11:19:59 AM
Thank you all it's good to have a place where I can say it out loud without fear and actually receive positive feedback in return.
So, Thank you very much again
PS I had to wait until I retired before I could seriously look at having surgery and then realizing that I'll never be able to allocate the money to do it. So I just decided to go for it or else it will never happen and I'd die wishing I had done it.
So, Thank you very much again
PS I had to wait until I retired before I could seriously look at having surgery and then realizing that I'll never be able to allocate the money to do it. So I just decided to go for it or else it will never happen and I'd die wishing I had done it.
Title: Re: coming out in spite of myself
Post by: Charlotte Kitty on September 08, 2026, 12:25:15 PM
Post by: Charlotte Kitty on September 08, 2026, 12:25:15 PM
Congratulations on approval for your surgery. Not far away. I'll be happier by that point too as a couple of months behind you.