Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: CosmicJoke on January 19, 2026, 10:54:37 AM Return to Full Version
Title: Finding out who your real friends are.
Post by: CosmicJoke on January 19, 2026, 10:54:37 AM
Post by: CosmicJoke on January 19, 2026, 10:54:37 AM
Hi everyone. I'm actually interested if anybody else has found this too? Do you find that some people that weren't nice to you before are now just because you transitioned?
I think I've seen this happen. I try to be open however to whoever wants to be in my life. Maybe they really have changed and genuinely want to be supportive?
It's an interesting thing. I also think you have to be careful because in some cases people aren't always trustworthy.
Does anyone have any experiences to share?
I think I've seen this happen. I try to be open however to whoever wants to be in my life. Maybe they really have changed and genuinely want to be supportive?
It's an interesting thing. I also think you have to be careful because in some cases people aren't always trustworthy.
Does anyone have any experiences to share?
Title: Re: Finding out who your real friends are.
Post by: ChrissyRyan on January 19, 2026, 11:09:31 AM
Post by: ChrissyRyan on January 19, 2026, 11:09:31 AM
Not really. But this seems to be a good reception change for you. That is a plus, it seems.
Chrissy
Chrissy
Title: Re: Finding out who your real friends are.
Post by: Dances With Trees on January 19, 2026, 07:40:06 PM
Post by: Dances With Trees on January 19, 2026, 07:40:06 PM
All the people who have been nice to me since affirming my gender variance are here. On Susan's Place. Most people from my past no longer talk to me. Except for a couple of sisters and my daughter. Fortunately, you can pick your friends. Family? Not so much.
Title: Re: Finding out who your real friends are.
Post by: Sephirah on January 22, 2026, 03:20:33 PM
Post by: Sephirah on January 22, 2026, 03:20:33 PM
Quote from: CosmicJoke on January 19, 2026, 10:54:37 AMI think I've seen this happen. I try to be open however to whoever wants to be in my life. Maybe they really have changed and genuinely want to be supportive?
It's also possible that you have changed and are more open to the outside world. :) Whether you transition or not, self-acceptance is like getting the key to a prison you never really knew you were locked inside.
We all read body language and subtle cues given off by the people around us. When you're keeping yourself hidden away, you're sending off signals that you don't want people to look for you. Often because you don't want to look for you. So often they don't.
As Annika alluded to, though, sometimes it isn't retroactive. Sometimes people who knew you before have their own issues, based on how they feel about trans people. And some of those never go away. Nothing to do with who you are, and what kind of friend you are. It depends on the individual and in those cases, all you can really do is just accept it and move on.
My rule of thumb is to be kind and friendly to everyone until they give you a reason not to be.