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Hi everyone. I guess I found sort of an interesting question to ask. Let's say you had this magic wand that could change your genitals into the correct ones. Let's also say that all the aspects of your transition would be completed as well by using this magic wand. Would you use it?

Some might say "Yes, I would use it because then my life would be perfect." Others might say "No, I would rather do the hard work of completing the journey on my own."

I just found this interesting. If you had this magic wand to sort of "be done" with it would you? I'm personally indecisive on that question actually!

Off the cuff, it would seem to be simple to say, "Oh yeah, let's just have it done!" BUT, if I did go that route, I would not have had the privilege of having all of you to be my comrades and ones that I love so dearly!  If I could do it with a magic wand, the parts would all be native to my body and I likely would not suffer the pain of surgery.  I could go back and forth on this decision point but what it boils down to is how much of myself am I thinking of?  Right this minute, I wholeheartedly would rather do it the "hard" way of going through the path of surgery... however when it comes my time for the surgery, it could be very tempting to use the wand.  I love each and every one of you and I count it a great privilege to go through what I must since it means that you are in my heart and life!

If only there was a magic wand .

I'd much rather go through the process but would use the wand for two reasons I can't really ignore.

It would save me £25k of debt which is no small amount.

It would also remove the risk of my surgeries not going to plan which is higher due to using lower cost surgeons abroad right now.

So I'd rather not, but for sake of above it would be insane not to.

Charlotte 😻

Yes, absolutely, in a heartbeat. Sadly we don't live in that world.


Unless............ you've found one? Dibs on first go!

The secret in all this is that we can spend decades wishing for a magic wand until we discover the truth... We don't need one and we never did... WE ARE the magic wand... 🤗

Onward!

Ashley 💕

Quote from: tgirlamg on February 15, 2026, 01:20:07 PMThe secret in all this is that we can spend decades wishing for a magic wand until we discover the truth... We don't need one and we never did... WE ARE the magic wand... 🤗

Onward!

Ashley 💕

That's deep Ashley! So true.

Still.......if anyone has one!

@CosmicJoke, when you posted a similar question last year (here (https://www.susans.org/index.php?topic=250711.msg2300359#msg2300359)), I was in a different place on this path. I'd only recognized being transgender a few months earlier and I wasn't even clear about whether I wanted to transition fully. My answer then would have been something like: Yes, I'd like to have the magic-wand treatment as a 30-day trial to see whether it put me in a place where I felt more "myself." I suppose I'd have wanted the option to continue or cancel my subscription at the 30-day mark.

Today I'm in a very different place. I've been on HRT for 4 months and I'm loving the effects so far. I still don't know whether I want to transition fully. Much of my ambivalence is about the practicality of surgeries and the everything else in my 60's. It's a considerable investment of time, energy, money, and more, and not without risk. So I'm very much a "feel my way through" and "what's the next right step" person. It's been less than a year, and I've already come a long way. It will all unfold exactly as it should.

BUT/AND...

I really feel very strongly that this entire process - being born in a male body and treated for 60+ years as a boy/man, trying to find a way to "fit in" in the world, then seeing clearly that it was time for me to change directions - it's all essential to my discovering, learning, growing as a human in this lifetime. *This is* what I came here to do, and "figuring it out" is a critical part of the experience.

Another enormous part of the experience is, as @AlisonM so beautifully described above, finding the extraordinary community of people here who are on similar (but different!) paths. I would have missed out on so much if I had arrived on this planet already in my final form (and who does, really?).

So my answer is emphatically no. The magic wand, for me, would be skipping all of the growth for a shortcut to a perceived reward. I think the experience is the actual reward. I am profoundly grateful for every moment of it.

100%, without a second of hesitation. Not even a fraction of a second. But like Ashley said, the only magic wand we have available is ourselves. Of course, that makes things a lot more complicated, unfortunately. The women 100, 200 years down the line with all sorts of options that would seem magical to us today won't know how good they have it!

Today, I would. But that is only because I have been at this for six years. When my doctor first asked me if I wanted surgery, I said yes, but not now. I wanted to see how far hormones would get me without a scalpel.

Now, six years later, I think I know the answer, so bring it on. By the time this Administration is replaced, and we start repairing all the damage, I will be close to 80 years old. I do not want any major surgeries at 80. So... pass the wand please.

Yes if such a magic wand existed I would use it. The reality of life and what transition actually entails, the answer isn't nearly as definitive.

I'd prefer the wand. I was born in Tennessee, doing research planning for the future I can't change my birth certificate. I live in KY and despite having a Democrat Governor, most of our state legislature is conservative and very much anti-Trans.

So beyond the HRT and potential surgery there's all that.

Personally though I'd rather there be a way to go back to my pre 22/23 year old self and figure it out before I married. My conversation with my wife couldn't have gone worse.

The short answer is yes, absolutely. It's something I used to dream about as a kid. However, if said magic wand did exist, what I'd really want to do is use it to go back in time and come out when I was eleven or twelve years old.

Simple:  zap now.

Clean-up while learning the new reality will be interesting as the gradual is gone.

If I was young. Really young, like puberty young, yes, please!

But now, at 74, I'm comfortable with who I am and where I'm going. I intend to resume HRT and will possibly pursue hair removal therapies. But the past six or seven years have been such a wild adventure I think a magic wand back in my 60''s would have prevented me from learning so much about myself, and about all of you.

So, no, not today.

I would rather have a magic wand which would have removed Dysphoria as a child, then I wouldn't have needed to change my genitals...

Hugs,

Allie

Absolutely yes, as I approach 60 years old the magic wand/instant transformation is the right one for me.  I'm sure there are AI promises being made around just this sort of thing!