Community Conversation => Transitioning => Gender Correction Surgery => Topic started by: CosmicJoke on February 15, 2026, 11:05:32 AM Return to Full Version
Title: Let's say you had this magic wand?
Post by: CosmicJoke on February 15, 2026, 11:05:32 AM
Post by: CosmicJoke on February 15, 2026, 11:05:32 AM
Hi everyone. I guess I found sort of an interesting question to ask. Let's say you had this magic wand that could change your genitals into the correct ones. Let's also say that all the aspects of your transition would be completed as well by using this magic wand. Would you use it?
Some might say "Yes, I would use it because then my life would be perfect." Others might say "No, I would rather do the hard work of completing the journey on my own."
I just found this interesting. If you had this magic wand to sort of "be done" with it would you? I'm personally indecisive on that question actually!
Some might say "Yes, I would use it because then my life would be perfect." Others might say "No, I would rather do the hard work of completing the journey on my own."
I just found this interesting. If you had this magic wand to sort of "be done" with it would you? I'm personally indecisive on that question actually!
Title: Re: Let's say you had this magic wand?
Post by: AlisonM on February 15, 2026, 11:36:49 AM
Post by: AlisonM on February 15, 2026, 11:36:49 AM
Off the cuff, it would seem to be simple to say, "Oh yeah, let's just have it done!" BUT, if I did go that route, I would not have had the privilege of having all of you to be my comrades and ones that I love so dearly! If I could do it with a magic wand, the parts would all be native to my body and I likely would not suffer the pain of surgery. I could go back and forth on this decision point but what it boils down to is how much of myself am I thinking of? Right this minute, I wholeheartedly would rather do it the "hard" way of going through the path of surgery... however when it comes my time for the surgery, it could be very tempting to use the wand. I love each and every one of you and I count it a great privilege to go through what I must since it means that you are in my heart and life!
Title: Re: Let's say you had this magic wand?
Post by: Jessica33 on February 15, 2026, 11:47:47 AM
Post by: Jessica33 on February 15, 2026, 11:47:47 AM
If only there was a magic wand .
Title: Re: Let's say you had this magic wand?
Post by: Charlotte_Ringwood on February 15, 2026, 12:43:12 PM
Post by: Charlotte_Ringwood on February 15, 2026, 12:43:12 PM
I'd much rather go through the process but would use the wand for two reasons I can't really ignore.
It would save me £25k of debt which is no small amount.
It would also remove the risk of my surgeries not going to plan which is higher due to using lower cost surgeons abroad right now.
So I'd rather not, but for sake of above it would be insane not to.
Charlotte 😻
It would save me £25k of debt which is no small amount.
It would also remove the risk of my surgeries not going to plan which is higher due to using lower cost surgeons abroad right now.
So I'd rather not, but for sake of above it would be insane not to.
Charlotte 😻
Title: Re: Let's say you had this magic wand?
Post by: Stottie Girl on February 15, 2026, 01:09:02 PM
Post by: Stottie Girl on February 15, 2026, 01:09:02 PM
Yes, absolutely, in a heartbeat. Sadly we don't live in that world.
Unless............ you've found one? Dibs on first go!
Unless............ you've found one? Dibs on first go!
Title: Re: Let's say you had this magic wand?
Post by: tgirlamg on February 15, 2026, 01:20:07 PM
Post by: tgirlamg on February 15, 2026, 01:20:07 PM
The secret in all this is that we can spend decades wishing for a magic wand until we discover the truth... We don't need one and we never did... WE ARE the magic wand... 🤗
Onward!
Ashley 💕
Onward!
Ashley 💕
Title: Re: Let's say you had this magic wand?
Post by: Stottie Girl on February 15, 2026, 01:32:38 PM
Post by: Stottie Girl on February 15, 2026, 01:32:38 PM
Quote from: tgirlamg on Today at 01:20:07 PMThe secret in all this is that we can spend decades wishing for a magic wand until we discover the truth... We don't need one and we never did... WE ARE the magic wand... 🤗That's deep Ashley! So true.
Onward!
Ashley 💕
Still.......if anyone has one!
Title: Re: Let's say you had this magic wand?
Post by: Pema on February 15, 2026, 02:37:56 PM
Post by: Pema on February 15, 2026, 02:37:56 PM
@CosmicJoke, when you posted a similar question last year (here (https://www.susans.org/index.php?topic=250711.msg2300359#msg2300359)), I was in a different place on this path. I'd only recognized being transgender a few months earlier and I wasn't even clear about whether I wanted to transition fully. My answer then would have been something like: Yes, I'd like to have the magic-wand treatment as a 30-day trial to see whether it put me in a place where I felt more "myself." I suppose I'd have wanted the option to continue or cancel my subscription at the 30-day mark.
Today I'm in a very different place. I've been on HRT for 4 months and I'm loving the effects so far. I still don't know whether I want to transition fully. Much of my ambivalence is about the practicality of surgeries and the everything else in my 60's. It's a considerable investment of time, energy, money, and more, and not without risk. So I'm very much a "feel my way through" and "what's the next right step" person. It's been less than a year, and I've already come a long way. It will all unfold exactly as it should.
BUT/AND...
I really feel very strongly that this entire process - being born in a male body and treated for 60+ years as a boy/man, trying to find a way to "fit in" in the world, then seeing clearly that it was time for me to change directions - it's all essential to my discovering, learning, growing as a human in this lifetime. *This is* what I came here to do, and "figuring it out" is a critical part of the experience.
Another enormous part of the experience is, as @AlisonM so beautifully described above, finding the extraordinary community of people here who are on similar (but different!) paths. I would have missed out on so much if I had arrived on this planet already in my final form (and who does, really?).
So my answer is emphatically no. The magic wand, for me, would be skipping all of the growth for a shortcut to a perceived reward. I think the experience is the actual reward. I am profoundly grateful for every moment of it.
Today I'm in a very different place. I've been on HRT for 4 months and I'm loving the effects so far. I still don't know whether I want to transition fully. Much of my ambivalence is about the practicality of surgeries and the everything else in my 60's. It's a considerable investment of time, energy, money, and more, and not without risk. So I'm very much a "feel my way through" and "what's the next right step" person. It's been less than a year, and I've already come a long way. It will all unfold exactly as it should.
BUT/AND...
I really feel very strongly that this entire process - being born in a male body and treated for 60+ years as a boy/man, trying to find a way to "fit in" in the world, then seeing clearly that it was time for me to change directions - it's all essential to my discovering, learning, growing as a human in this lifetime. *This is* what I came here to do, and "figuring it out" is a critical part of the experience.
Another enormous part of the experience is, as @AlisonM so beautifully described above, finding the extraordinary community of people here who are on similar (but different!) paths. I would have missed out on so much if I had arrived on this planet already in my final form (and who does, really?).
So my answer is emphatically no. The magic wand, for me, would be skipping all of the growth for a shortcut to a perceived reward. I think the experience is the actual reward. I am profoundly grateful for every moment of it.
Title: Re: Let's say you had this magic wand?
Post by: katiebee on February 15, 2026, 03:34:46 PM
Post by: katiebee on February 15, 2026, 03:34:46 PM
100%, without a second of hesitation. Not even a fraction of a second. But like Ashley said, the only magic wand we have available is ourselves. Of course, that makes things a lot more complicated, unfortunately. The women 100, 200 years down the line with all sorts of options that would seem magical to us today won't know how good they have it!