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Dear community,

my name is Valerie, I am middle adged, and I've only known for a couple of weeks that I'm a woman. It is incredible how I didn't see the truth earlier, because it was hidden under thick layers of shame for all my life. At first I thought I was an enby but I came to realise, I'm just a woman in a dude's body. For our marriage, for the sake of my supportive family and the life we built, I've decided to go on with the man role, kinda forever, no matter the personal cost. I came here to get in touch with people sharing a similar situation.

Anyway thanks so much for having me!
Val

Hi Valerie!



     Welcome!



Chrissy

Thx so much Chrissy. It is so lovely to be called by my new name.  🥹

What you said about your transgender identity being hidden under layers of shame is something a lot of us can relate to. It's a complicated and difficult process to navigate and we all deal with it differently.

Some brave ones are able to confront it immediately much earlier in life in order to come out and live freely. I wasn't that brave or even that self aware. I was confused for a long time. So for some trans people it's a process of hiding and repressing it before eventually figuring yourself out. The good news is that it's never too late and each path is unique. Our bravery does eventually show up even if it's a little later than planned.

Hiya Valerie! A big welcome from the UK.

I'm sure you will find plenty of like minded souls on here. We're a friendly bunch. I look forward to hearing more about you. Don't be frightened to join the discussions!

Sarah xx

Thank you so much for the warm welcome and the kind, encouraging words. 🩷

Quote from: Valerie.Val on Yesterday at 06:22:13 AMThx so much Chrissy. It is so lovely to be called by my new name.  🥹

Valerie,


I can relate to that, for sure.


Chrissy

And what lovely names you all have chosen for yourselves :-)

@Jillian-TG yes, it's true. It's definitely challenging, and a bit scary. But at the same time, the relaisation is one of the best things that have happened in my life.

So since I'm a noob, where's the best category to discuss how to navigate a planned life in stealth?

Val,

You can use the search function and type in Stealth.  You should then receive many pages of postings.  Which one is best?  I do not know.  Someone here may point out some specific ones to you though.


Chrissy

Quote from: Valerie.Val on Yesterday at 07:29:06 AMSo since I'm a noob, where's the best category to discuss how to navigate a planned life in stealth?

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@Valerie.Val
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Hey Valerie,

I'm Charlotte😻 and I too pleased to welcome you to Susan's Place!

Look forward to hearing more from you as and when you are ready and hope you find the information here useful.

Kind regards,
Charlotte😻
(Forum Staff)

Welcome to SP, Valerie!

I've made a decision similar to yours though it's not exactly stealth. I informed everyone of my gender variance several years ago. Shortly after my announcement, my daughter and her partner moved back home and have lived with me for almost four years.

Because of my daughter's ambivalence about my gender variance, I play the role of being her 'dad' when they are home. It's not a sacrifice; it's patience. Occasionally, that patience is rewarded. A few weeks ago, my daughter referred to me as 'Anni' in an email to a mutual friend I met on SP. Such moments are priceless.

Hi Valerie
Like @Stottie Girl said we're a nice bunch. You will find friends and support here.

Valerie!

Welcome Aboard Sister!... It is amazing how deeply we can bury ourselves isn't it?...

All Good Things To You Girl!

Onward!

Ashley 💕

Welcome to Susan's Place, we're happy to see and have you here. 💚

Thank you all for the kind welcome <3

@Dances With Trees - Anni, that does indeed sound like the life model I aim for. How do you manage to keep imposter syndrome and dysphoria in check? I'm struggling very hard with those at the moment.

@tgirlamg Ashley thank you so much, sister <3 Yah I'd have a hard time believe it if I weren't experiencing it. Once you start listing all the occasions when you could have known - the list starts when I was very little. But well, growing up where I did, kids and grown ups likewise were eager to teach me what was right and wrong for my assigned role by shaming and mobbing. And (worst of all) well meant advice from dad, a loving and caring man. Boys don't cry, cowboy mentality and so on. I needed to grow all up to perfect my masking well enough to fit in somewhere. I assume many here share similar experiences.