Hi, I've lurked here for a short while and got up the nerve to register tonight.
As my name suggests I'm not sure what is going on with me. I'm in my early 30's and in the last few months I'm realizing that I think I've suppressed a part of me that could of explained a lot of my problems in life. I am male but I have always identified more with females.
I don't know there is a lot to it and I'm just so confused. I don't know if this forum is the right place but I was hoping to find some people that might understand this situation better than I do and could maybe help me figure some things out. Support offline for me is sadly not even close to an option.
thanks for reading. I still can't believe I am posting this.
Hello Notsure,
It is sometimes hard to see are self's, but just read what a lot of what the boys and girls go
through here// you will fine a lot of us can give very good advice// also it will help to fine a
good conselor//
Be Well,
Janis
Quote from: janis on December 13, 2011, 06:56:31 AM
Hello Notsure,
It is sometimes hard to see are self's, but just read what a lot of what the boys and girls go
through here// you will fine a lot of us can give very good advice// also it will help to fine a
good conselor//
Be Well,
Janis
Thank you for the reply. I've read a lot of forums here, now just trying to figure out the best place to post some questions to others. I'm so new to all this I don't want to mess up and offend someone or anything like that.
Hi NotSure,Welcome to Susan's.There lots of info and lots of nice people here.Hugs,Rachael.
Hi Notsure, welcome to Susans! Take a quick look at the TOS and Site Rules, then jump right in! Don't be shy, if something's on your mind, ask. So long as your polite and within bounds, you'll get lots of help. See you around, hugs, Tracey
Quote from: Tracey on December 13, 2011, 03:25:39 PM
Hi Notsure, welcome to Susans! Take a quick look at the TOS and Site Rules, then jump right in! Don't be shy, if something's on your mind, ask. So long as your polite and within bounds, you'll get lots of help. See you around, hugs, Tracey
Thanks Rachael and Tracey.
I did read the site rules and stuff, and I think it's ok for me to be here. I don't know if you'd call it shy, this is just all very foreign to me. This thread is the first time I've voiced any of my thoughts about these things about myself anywhere. I'm going to try though. I can't keep going at this alone trying to figure things out.
I know nobody can tell me what to do, I just hope for some help. Again thanks, I'll go lurk some of these forums and see if I can find the words to ask and speak my thoughts.
Hi and welcome!
Welcome. Ask any question you have. We'll answer them all.
I was in my early thirties when I decided to make the change. It was tough. I was married and had children. It was overwhelming. If you look at us as a whole, you will find someone with the exact same problem you are thinking about right now.
So don't be shy. You are in good company.
Chin up!
Michelle
Hi NotSure :icon_wave:
You have taken the first step and the rest will come easier. :)
Ask questions, tell your story, read other peoples' stories, it's all good here at Susan's! ;D
Jennifer
Quote from: Jennifer on December 14, 2011, 12:14:01 PM
Hi NotSure :icon_wave:
You have taken the first step and the rest will come easier. :)
Ask questions, tell your story, read other peoples' stories, it's all good here at Susan's! ;D
Jennifer
Thanks Jennifer. I made a thread in another forum here, it got some replies but I think I'm gonna let it get buried, all that ended up happening was me making excuses. I still don't know what to say, I thought it would be easier once I started posting but I just feel more confused now. Also I don't want to be seen as that "emo" new person to the forum. I'm not an entirely stable person on good days, so it might be best if I stick with the reading others stories for now.
Amalina, it's good to be questioning. If you're making excuses, that's fine. It's also fine that you're even more confused after posting your thoughts. Stating your confusion is much better than keeping it bottled up. I didn't see your other post, haven't been active due to final exams, but I just want to let you know that you're okay.
I've repressed this for so long I don't know if I can ever be who I've known for a long time that I am. Me being transgender is the one thing I've never been more sure of, but I still find myself doubting, and being "emo" (I like emo music btw, that term's been taken through the ringer, but I know what you mean ;) ). I just had my first appointment with a gender therapist last night to talk about all of this out loud. While it made me unbelievably happy after leaving her office... it raised even more questions and made me more confused once everything settled down. The problems we deal with in ourselves and the hardest problems possible, especially after so many years of doubting and wondering.
It's okay to question, doubt, and be confused... and to express it! Everything we say from day to day isn't a commitment. Wherever you are in your life and wherever you're going will be left to time. Don't get discouraged, we love to help. Keep posting! This isn't something you figure out in a week!
( I like the new username by the way! )
Hi Pidgeontoed, thanks for the reply.
Here is a link (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,112222.0.html) to that other thread, just if you're curious, it's ok if you don't want to. I tried to explain my situation some in it. I'm used to friends bailing as soon as any potential drama happens, so it's not easy to feel ok to open up so much. I have always had a hard time offline as well with that. I feel bad, I've heard too many times about dumping problems on others and go away you're too depressing, or I'm not your therapist.
All that was before this realization, now I just don't know what to think. I'll stick around for sure and hopefully find the right words.
Thanks about the name, the other one was kind of awkward. I've always loved this one and was so happy to see I could change it on my own.
Hi Amalina and welcome to Susan's. This is a great place where you can be yourself. Feel free to ask whatever questions you may have.
:)
Hi Amalina! :) Welcome to the madness, hehe.
Thank you Gennee and Caseyyy. :)