If you could press a button or flick a switch and reduce or eliminate your GD would you forget about transition, surgery, passing and everything else? I have an opinion that I can't shake off and I'm interested to hear what other people think about it. I am very aware that my opinion stems from my own experience and my own GD which by the way I no longer suffer from anymore. I appreciate that everyone is different and no doubt so is the degree of their GD which is why I'm So curious. So! If there was a way to deal with your GD other than transition would you take it?
I've never not had it so I wouldn't know. I don't think I would want to be a woman, it would be inconvenient to be a woman with a beard and no breasts.
I assume you're asking us to answer as if we were pre-transition?
I've known I was meant to be female my entire life. It is an intrinsic part of my identity. What you are suggesting is to turn me into a different person. To kill me, and leave a different person in my place. If it was the ONLY way, okay. But transition is the far less destructive option for me.
No, I wouldn't. Transition is no doubt a PITA but, I can't imagine having the willpower to intervene with the one thing allowing me to feel complete; despite the temptation, I couldn't actually bring myself to do it.
'The Cure' LOL! This sounds like X-Men 3 and the cure. So we're like mutants who are not humans and 'if' we could have 'the cure'...LOL!
I'LL REMAIN A MUTANT(WOMAN) FOREVER, WITH OR WITHOUT THE CURE!!! I can't live without make up, mini skirts and high heels. ;D
Of course we would forget about transition if we were able to be happy in our birth genders. That's like asking, "would you repair your table if it weren't broken?" Of course not. But that's pushing the ifs a bit far. Our whole lives would have been different without dysphoria, and our personalities would be likely to be very different from what we are now on many points.
I feel there's hardly a point to the question. If there weren't a problem, it would be stupid to try to repair it, wouldn't it? "Don't fix what ain't broken", they say.
Actually transitioning has given me the ability to TRANSCEND GENDER ITSELF... i no longer feel other than a pure spiritual being with an outer shell..
Quote from: Amazon D on January 07, 2012, 04:23:55 PM
Actually transitioning has given me the ability to TRANSCEND GENDER ITSELF... i no longer feel other than a pure spiritual being with an outer shell..
I've often thought that one future step in human evolution would be the ability to transcend limits of gender and sexual orientation, but I'm not there yet. I am not comfortable as a man and as much as I've tried, I am not sexually attracted to women (I look at a gorgeous woman and just think, 'gee, wish I had her boobs' or 'wow, that is a beautiful skirt').
Quote from: smooth on January 07, 2012, 07:17:22 AM
If you could press a button or flick a switch and reduce or eliminate your GD would you forget about transition, surgery, passing and everything else? I have an opinion that I can't shake off and I'm interested to hear what other people think about it. I am very aware that my opinion stems from my own experience and my own GD which by the way I no longer suffer from anymore. I appreciate that everyone is different and no doubt so is the degree of their GD which is why I'm So curious. So! If there was a way to deal with your GD other than transition would you take it?
Kia Ora Smooth,
::) I'm happy to see that your GD is in 'remission' or as you say you're "cured!"
::) I would have to say in answer to your question...At certain times [in the bad old days] during my dysphoric state "If I could've I would've !" Just for my ex and children's sake...But as it is things have worked out well for me and transitioning was [for me anyway] the right thing to do...
::) It's an interesting question, however as you have said [when it comes to ones life circumstances and the level of ones dysphoria] "Ones mileage may vary !" ...
"Ones worst enemy cannot harm one as much as ones own unguarded thoughts!"Happy Mindfulness :)
Metta Zenda :)
In other words, if I could change things so that I was happy living as a woman, would I choose that? Certainly not. If I could change things and be born a regular boy, I might choose that. (One variable is, how far back does this go? If I could just wave a magic wand and be a regular guy now, that's different from starting my life over as a regular guy. And, of course, both are completely different from being a woman--I wouldn't choose that under any circumstances at all.)
Posting as someone who is pre coming out, pre HRT, pre everything I would say yes to making the gd go away. Of course while we're living in fantasy land I'd also say yes to waking up as my preferred gender.
This question makes my head hurt. I think I am a boy. I don't want to start thinking I'm a girl. That sounds more bizarre to me than getting shots every week and having my breasts removed.
Quote from: smooth on January 07, 2012, 07:17:22 AM
If you could press a button or flick a switch and reduce or eliminate your GD would you forget about transition, surgery, passing and everything else? I have an opinion that I can't shake off and I'm interested to hear what other people think about it. I am very aware that my opinion stems from my own experience and my own GD which by the way I no longer suffer from anymore. I appreciate that everyone is different and no doubt so is the degree of their GD which is why I'm So curious. So! If there was a way to deal with your GD other than transition would you take it?
I Never really had GD so my answer would be "I would transition regardless.
I did not transition to ease GD depression. I transitioned to align my physical body to my mental gender.
The question has a hint of those "pray the gay away" counseling camps.
Quote from: Felix on January 07, 2012, 06:17:43 PM
This question makes my head hurt. I think I am a boy. I don't want to start thinking I'm a girl. That sounds more bizarre to me than getting shots every week and having my breasts removed.
Yeah, that sums it up pretty well. I just don't see any reason to change course now. As strange as this may sound, I'd be an entirely different person too if I was female-identified, I'm sure of that. I don't know how to explain that right now either.
I regard my gender dysphoria not only as a physical symptom, but as a spiritual and energetic symptom innately linked with my astral self and my soul - a view which, certainly uncommon, renders my condition incurable, but manageable. So there could be no magic cure for my conflict unless divinely bestowed.
My humblest apologies. That was a kinda dumb ass question, when I thought about some more it gave me a headache. I pride myself on living in the real world but I went and got all hyperthetical
Dumb or not, it's been asked on here a lot in different variants, so it's a popular one.
My feelings are similar to Annah's in that I would have still transitioned without gender dysphoria simply because this body represents me better than the former one.
Unlike Annah though, I did have dysphoria.
I would never want that.
If I were to suddenly become happy with my life as a man and not feel any GD/need to transition it wouldn't be me anymore, and that's a scary thought.
Quote from: smooth on January 08, 2012, 03:45:53 AM
My humblest apologies. That was a kinda dumb ass question, when I thought about some more it gave me a headache. I pride myself on living in the real world but I went and got all hyperthetical
No worries, it wasn't a "dumb ass" question. Though as said, it's been asked before.
Nonetheless, it simply shows an imaginative side to you, and there's nothing wrong with that (well, so long as you return to reality in due time, of course ;)). As well, I didn't get any implications within the question itself or the way you asked it, so I'm under the impression it was merely a non-judgmental/unbiased hypothetical question... though certainly correct me if I am wrong.
Well strictly speaking I've already been 90% cured of my Gender Dysphora through transitioning. So any cure to flip my gender identity back to male would only make things 90% worse.
However yeah if there was a cure before I transitioned I would have taken it in a heartbeat. I don't like begin a transsexual I consider it an unfortunate thing to be if their was any other way (Barring death whitch wasn't a real choice) other than transition I'd have taken it... Assuming it was 100% reliable not to cause a resurgence later on.
For me, that switch to flip would have had to happen while I was still in the womb and then what I would have wanted to happen was to just come out 100% male.
Rationally I know I'd be better off, better at that "living" business, without this fairly disabling gender dysphoria. I don't even have a real sense of gender identity one way or the other... I don't believe my personality would be "inferior" in some way if it were ok with inhabiting a male body. And yet ~ I can't imagine actually wanting to be that person-that-is-fine-being-a-guy. It might still be me, but with a very important-to-me dream gone. Though if I could keep that dream and just not feel bad about my body any more, sign me up! It'd make waiting for this HRT lull to end much easier. First post :-*
I honestly don't know how to respond to this question. I don't think I'm a girl, so if I suddenly could make it so I thought I was one... wouldn't that change more than just the GD? I can't imagine a life in which I'd actually feel as though I was supposed to be a girl...
QuoteWould I become a sad potato couch monster drinking beer, farting and watching porn?
Sad potato couch monsters FTW!
(for the record, I don't actually own a couch, and I'm not sad or a potato. I might be a monster)
If there were to be a cure, then the answer could really only be best-answered from a strategic standpoint, as the subjective influences would really amount to nothing if the cure was administered. I would probably prefer to be female, and remain as I was. I believe that it makes me a better person, that I have a lot to learn from it, and that it is... my destiny, if you can call it that. It is right.
Anybody seen the second Wizard of Oz movie? That thing had a couch monster in it. That moose-headed thing. Used to scare me to death. :laugh:
Wasn't as bad as the wheelers, though. *shudder*