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If you could change only one thing about you to make it so it would be completely female what one thing is most important to you?

Voice to be completely female.

Face to be female within your family genetics (like your mother's or sister's)

Bone structure to be female within your family genetics.

Female genitalia - you'd be able to completely function as a female and give birth

Hair includes scalp, face, body and would again be similar to the women in your family

Breasts would be within your family genetics.

So, what would it be?  You don't get supermodel results unless it's in your family and you only get ONE choice.

Julie

Edit: You can still have FFS, SRS or any other medical procedure.  This poll is for the one thing that's most important to you.

Face - if I could change nothing else, magically OR medically.

Voice runs a very close second though... along with genitals, but only because you you mentioned I could give birth. Wow.

Kate

Quote from: Kate on March 17, 2007, 01:46:20 PM
Face - if I could change nothing else, magically OR medically.

Kate

You know Kate, the FFS surgeons today perform miracles.  When at Dr. Z's office I was amazed at what he's done.  And if money is a problem he can set you up with financing.  Heck, it's a car payment!

I picked bone structure because that's one thing that can't be changed medically or through hard work (voice).

Julie

Quote from: Julie Marie on March 17, 2007, 01:56:15 PM
You know Kate, the FFS surgeons today perform miracles.  When at Dr. Z's office I was amazed at what he's done.  And if money is a problem he can set you up with financing.  Heck, it's a car payment!

Ain't it the truth? I did a phone consult with him a ways back... VERY nice man. Nothing quite like asking someone to point out every flaw in your face for you, is there? He was very kind though. Yes, I have all the info packets from him lying around... it's tempting. Someday. Maybe. We'll see.

QuoteI picked bone structure because that's one thing that can't be changed medically or through hard work (voice).

Since we can only change ONE thing in our lifetime (that's the criteria, right? No FFS or HRT or anything?), I had to go with face. That's what bugs me the most by far. I'm tall as heck, but I actually kinda like my skeleton otherwise. I *adore* feminine hair, but... not a necessity. I'm not thrilled with keeping male genitals, but if it's between face vs. genitals... they stay.

If you're allowing only one MAGICAL wish, but we can use medical options to address anything else, I'd magically change the voice (unless it becomes natural over time) in order to pass. But GOD I would SO love to have a womb... no, never mind. I want the womb! I'll figure out the darn voice somehow, lol.

Neat poll. It really makes you aware of your priorities and how you think about all this.

Kate

I know what you mean.  I made a hair appointment yesterday and the lady on the other end said, "Will this be a man's styling?"  Grrrrrrrr.  But I was going from not talking all morning right to trying to talk in a femme voice.  I need warming up time and even then my voice is androgynous at best.  But I'm okay with that considering I've done Lurch convincingly.

Julie

Well this was tough, so this was my thoughts on each item:

Voice: I get maamed a lot and never sirred even over the phone.  I do wish I could sing at a higher pitch, but I can get away with so much already I can let it slide.
Face: For the most part it already is
Bone structure: My bone structure is actually more female than male, so this wasn't high on the list.
Female genitalia: This is the one thing that gets to me on a daily basis.  When you including giving childbirth, that made this one a winner for me.
Hair: My hair is actually really good for a female, so there's not much to complain about here.
Breasts: I'll see what happens, but I can always get a BA if I'm dissatisfied.

So I ended up going with female genetalia.

Melissa

Bone structure for sure.  That is my biggest tell.

Cindi

Where's the box that says "All of the Above"?

My voice needs work, but I get little chance to practice it.  And it's one thing while you're alone, another while you are actually out in the world.  But I think I can do it.  I think my face will look OK with HRT, but it would be nice to be more feminine.  Genetalia....well that goes without saying.  Breasts...OK can always be done with implants if things don't develop.  But hair....what I wouldn't give to have my youthful hair back!    You bet I chose hair!

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Heya Everyone,

Here are my thoughts ...

Voice: Face to face its no problems at all, although as Tink described, people can get a bit confused on the phone when I am talking.  However, that might be more to do with the fact I never have a clue what I am doing these days !! :)

Face: Am pretty happy with my facial fetures.

Female Genitalia: Same as Melissa - this would be the one for me.  I have been feeling a little down lately and a part of it has to do with wanting to settle down and have kids.  Although when I stay at my friends and I see her kids it sort of gives me second thoughts lol !! Seriously though, dont think there is anything I would want more right now !!

Hair: I look after it and appart from the fact its neither naturally straight or curly its no problem at all.

Breast: I would be happier if they were a little bigger but they are already starting to get in the way when I am doing anything physical, so maybe I shouldn't complain too much !!

Becky
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If I had one wish, I'd like to have more proportional breasts.  Been thinking about getting implants but I don't know about the long term side effects.  My voice is fine and so is my face; I am petite so that helps with regards to genitalia, I'm already post-op

OMG.

I am almost Bald on top - wish I had some nice hair so I could pass without a wig.

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just so you know how bad it is up there.

Al

Bone structure.

I voted for female genitalia, specifically for being able to give birth.

I wouldn't really want to change anything else. I have no trouble with my voice either in person or on the phone, I think my face is already quite feminine (and looks very similar to the older of my two sisters to boot), hair isn't really much of an issue (the hair on my head is fine, and the rest is being/can be taken care of), and I'm already happy with the size of my breasts and they'll probably keep growing thanks to HRT anyway. Bone structure is a bit more difficult as I would love to be a little shorter, but between being shorter or being able to give birth? No contest.

i voted for female genitalia.  i don't know about the giving birth part though, it is something i wouldn't like to experience even as a gg

Bone Structure ... I have done everything else

Buffy

I've already a pretty face, gorgeous hair (as well as no body hair aside from my legs) and semi-ample features without any of what you mentioned (I'm not even on HRT yet).  I like being tall, as well.

I would have to shoot for the genitalia, because of the ability to give birth.  I value my genetics, and I've always been wary of the limited vaginal depth offered by SRS.  I like sex, a lot.  I don't ever want to be unable to enjoy my man because he happens to have a good-sized...  ego.

~ Blair

Quote from: Tink on March 18, 2007, 11:26:08 PM


Blair hon, is that you on your avatar?  yup!  I agree, pretty face, gorgeous hair, pretty girl indeed!

I'm afraid not.  That's just a picture of someone I know.  I'll put up my picture when I move into my new place and get my webcam set up again.  Don't worry though, I promise I'm easy on the eyes!

~ Blair

Genetalia... mainly for the childbirth thing....  I dont think anyone really knows how many nights Ive stayed up crying cuz Id never have kids of my own...
My hands and feet are on the large side, but honestly, Id put up with being absolutely, grotesquely hidious if it ment I could have kids......

I'd have to go with voice but only under the condition that I still have a male voice as well. I figure of all the things listed, having an extra voice would probably be most appropriate for me being bigendered and all.
My Mia side likes to sing and talk which is just begging for a voice. It would be nice to be able to sing duets with myself(being bigendered is awesome) and have it sound like a male and female duet instead of a male and higher pitched male voice. Also the talking thing would probably clear up any questions when people are talking to me on which one is specifically talking back to them. Yeah totally all about the voice.

Marq and Mia
Live in concert, coming to a stage near you

Quote from: Julie Marie on March 17, 2007, 01:56:15 PM


I picked bone structure because that's one thing that can't be changed medically or through hard work (voice).

Julie

Ditto! Especially since you're still allowing GRS. It would be really nice to change my bone structure to get rid of the 46" chest and broad shoulders. Everything else is already works.  :)

Karen Lyn      :icon_female:

Quote from: LynnER on March 19, 2007, 03:33:48 AM
Genetalia... mainly for the childbirth thing....  I dont think anyone really knows how many nights Ive stayed up crying cuz Id never have kids of my own...
My hands and feet are on the large side, but honestly, Id put up with being absolutely, grotesquely hidious if it ment I could have kids......

If I wasn't over 50, I'd agree with you. I'll just have to settle for grandchildren.

Karen Lyn      :icon_female:

Quote from: LynnER on March 19, 2007, 03:33:48 AM
I dont think anyone really knows how many nights Ive stayed up crying cuz Id never have kids of my own...

Fortunately this hasn't impacted me as much because I actually do have kids of my own.  Both times my ex was pregnant (especially the first time), I was very, very jealous of her.  At the time I didn't put it into context, but at least now I understand why I felt this way.  It's more the prospect of actually birthing a child and the pregnancy that I crave.  So I would say that I probably only have it half as bad. 

I think I transitioned at a good age because if I had done it when I was 18, I wouldn't have had any children, but I didn't wait so long that my body completely masculinized either.

Melissa

heh,  woudnt have mattered what age I transitioned at...  steral as a guy, infertile as a woman... either way I cant and couldnt have kids of my own...  *Sighs*  but thats life for you sometimes...  Maby I'll be lucky enough to pick a very calm kid when I get around to adopting  :)

Hi all,

If I had 1 wish I'd get down stairs done so I could spend it on cycle gear and a new bike with Campy bits.

Floritine  :icon_wave:

bone structure.  I wanna be taller.

I'm not sure about one wish. I'd definitely spend a lot of time figuring out how to word it to get the most out of it. Rule 1.: Bring harm to none.  2. Genetic female 3. Rich

If I can work those all in Andi and I would be married, retired and living the "good" life. :)

♪  Karen Lyn  ♫

My one wish is not on the list.
It's acceptance of my family and friends.
:(
Jillieann

Quote from: Julie Marie on March 17, 2007, 01:18:10 PM
Face to be female within your family genetics (like your mother's or sister's)
Bone structure to be female within your family genetics.
Hair includes scalp, face, body and would again be similar to the women in your family

I've already got all of these.

My voice is good enough.  My breasts are coming along.  I only wish I could have real female genitals, not reconstructed.  And no, that's not so I can give birth.  If I was 30 years younger that would be different.

Sorry i can't have 1 wish only as I need them all

Correct Original Equipment.

If I only had one wish, for me I would definitely word it very carefully, my wish would be for Female Genitalia, complete with the ovaries, fallopian tubes and a complete uterus and reproductive system, and yes girls, the monthly rituals. As unpleasant as they may be for some, they'd be a blessing to me. I can't count how many times I've cried myself to sleep over the years because I was born with the wrong parts I'm disgusted, horrified and repulsed by so much between my legs. :icon_blah:

I already have female bone structure including my pelvis, long black feminine hair, My boobies are coming in nicely and I'll be happy with a B cup (I'm an A now) -more will just be gravy, my face is improving nicely as all traces of the beating my body has taken from the ugly T/DHT stick fade away and disappear, as the beautiful woman I am emerges. My voice will need some work and surgery (VFS) but with only one wish, Female Genitalia with a complete reproductive system would definitely be my wish.

Ally :icon_flower:

Genitalia by far. I would have loved to feel a life growing inside me even with all the pain, loss of sleep and the rest that comes with it. This is the only thing I have trouble finding peace with.  :)

Voice. A deep voice.

that hormones could do all that was needed to fully transition.

shoulder length hair

Thats easy, I would go for Genitalia. I would love to give birth. I even would not mind the monthly visitor.

Va jay jay

Considering the fact that I will never had dropped pitch, and that I would not develop facial hair, and that I would have developed breasts on my own because of producing estrogen...
Yeah, I'm gonna have to say genitals. Plus, I am so heartbroken that I wont be able to have kids  :-\ .

This is a great thread!

For me all but genitalia and bone structure can be eliminated straight away given the current state of medicine and treatments available. Not going to spend my wish on face, voice, hair or breasts when there is FFS, speech therapy, hair solutions and BA out there. Then, given that there are plenty of cis-females out there with quite masculine skeletal development, I would choose female genitalia. This is only way I would be able to experience everything that a cis-female can.

Genitals, vagina and ovaries to start. The rest could come later.

      I wish that all of us could live in society as ourselves in peace and without fear with access to proper medical facilities to help us on our journey.

Definitely my voice. Every time I open my mouth, I'm reminded of how irreparably deep it is...I can't stand it. I wouldn't really necessarily even want it to be female...just something I could tweak and adjust to pass as female, instead of sounding like freakin' Barry White. Puberty hit me like a freight train...

Quote from: StrykerXIII on March 14, 2015, 02:43:46 AM
Definitely my voice. Every time I open my mouth, I'm reminded of how irreparably deep it is...I can't stand it. I wouldn't really necessarily even want it to be female...just something I could tweak and adjust to pass as female, instead of sounding like freakin' Barry White. Puberty hit me like a freight train...

Funny that, I have/had a deep Liverpool/Irish voice, I NEVER passed on the phone. I practiced and have changed my pitch and vocal expression, I bought a cheap voice recorder and practiced; now? Unless I get excited, my voice is fine. But it is practice. laying in bed reading a book out loud, changing, modulating, trying, never crying but keeping going.

We are strong women, we can do anything.

With the correct genitals I could be confident presenting as a woman no matter how I looked otherwise even with an "M" on my driver's license; and even in public restrooms, changing rooms, or locker/shower rooms. If questioned I could challenge them by claiming to have the correct genitals. What would they do then? Could they really prosecute me?

I could even be confident presenting as male when necessary to do so as not having male genitals would not be considered a problem for others even in public restrooms, changing rooms, or locker/shower rooms.

Wow, is this an old thread! I remember Julie! She was very cute.

May I ask for world peace? I know it sounds corny, but seriously if we could all get along, most of us wouldn't have to suffer the humiliation, loss of family, job, whatever. Yes. Can't we just all get along?

Cindi

Genitals. I want a fully functioning cis penis.

Being a non transgender male, i would have to say neither of those things, but rather my emotions. During my time overseas and growing up in a rough childhood, i feel like i've lost pretty much my entire feminine side, I literally lack so much emotion than what I used to have. If i could change anything it would definitely be my emotions, and as we all know, emotions are controlled by hormones, so that would be the thing I would change about myself.

my bone structure wouldn't the facial structure also be included lol.

I chose genitals because that is the one thing that still upsets me.  I'm too old now for child bearing and it would have been a true gift to have that 35 years ago, but now I'd be content with having the horrible thing gone.
I'm a skinny vegetarian and while I'm tall my bone structure isn't massively male.  Face? - not bothered about that.  I'm more plain than pretty, but that's Ok.  Voice? - now that reminds me while I was still working as a social worker some of the other women clinic staff I worked with asked me what my voice sounded like before.  It was really funny because I had to shift a few mental gears to manage to produce my old voice.  It sounded really strange to hear it again and we all had a good laugh.
I live in a farming district here in New Zealand that was colonised by Norwegian and Dutch immigrants and let me tell you some of the local women here are taller than me and bigger boned so I certainly don't feel that I stand out in any way.

Quote from: Lady Smith on March 22, 2015, 01:25:31 PM
I chose genitals because that is the one thing that still upsets me.  I'm too old now for child bearing and it would have been a true gift to have that 35 years ago, but now I'd be content with having the horrible thing gone.
I'm a skinny vegetarian and while I'm tall my bone structure isn't massively male.  Face? - not bothered about that.  I'm more plain than pretty, but that's Ok.  Voice? - now that reminds me while I was still working as a social worker some of the other women clinic staff I worked with asked me what my voice sounded like before.  It was really funny because I had to shift a few mental gears to manage to produce my old voice.  It sounded really strange to hear it again and we all had a good laugh.
I live in a farming district here in New Zealand that was colonised by Norwegian and Dutch immigrants and let me tell you some of the local women here are taller than me and bigger boned so I certainly don't feel that I stand out in any way.

I agree with you.  All of those things would be nice to have and essential for total completeness.  However with the proper genitals I could be confident in most circumstances.  I could respond to any challenge by saying, "Would you like to check my genitals?".

I knew a post-op girl once who was taunted in the street by some young teenaged males and she promptly rounded on them, lifted her skirt and showed them what she had.  The drop jaw wide-eyed expressions on the faces of the young teenagers were priceless apparently.

If I had one wish it would to have a Vagina rather than a penis, if that was the only thing I had that was feminie then I would be very happy.

Female genitals would be my first wish.

My height.  I'm 6'3" which makes it hard to find clothes that fit and no matter how good my  make up, etc might be, draws extra attention.  And right now I'm trying to get  cozy curling up by a fire in my yoga pants and a I just don't fit in the damn chair.

Of course if I had been born with a  vagina that wouldn't matter

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I would want a female torso.  If I just had a perfect hourglass shape, it would be easier to wear whatever clothes I want and as long as I keep quite, I don't think anyone would gender me male.


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Quote from: StrykerXIII on March 14, 2015, 02:43:46 AM
instead of sounding like freakin' Barry White.

  LMAO please forgive but i know the feeling. do not think i do, however couple times i have been told this over the phone. must have been exaggerated i hope.

  of course i would love all the above. if i only get one, breasts for sure.

That I was never born


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If I had one wish to masculinise one thing... it would be a tough decision, but I'd choose to get male genitals over bone structure, despite my dysphoria being pretty much equally as bad in regards to both of those. Cause sure I'd feel more at ease with narrower hips and wider shoulders/ribcage and wider jaw, but it's not like I could do much with that. It doesn't serve any extra or other physical function what sizes my various bones are. A penis however, generally functions rather differently from a vagina and would therefore most likely have a greater impact on my life. I think I'd have much more use for a genital change than I would for a skeletal change.

As defined medically, the genitalia include both the internal and external organs—so definitely the genitalia. That would give me the entire female endocrine system... and I do wish I could bear children.

Tough call between bone structure (inc. height) and correct working junk.

I think I'd go for the bone structure/height.

As there's no guarantee I'd work anything other than mischief for myself with my junk, but having that male bone structure would never go amiss.