Have stories of times when someone tells you about something they noticed about you, that brighten your mood because it made you feel more masculine.
Recently I got told that I have broad shoulders. Was bit of a confidence boost for my body being able to pass as male. Also may explain why female shirts tended to be uncomfortable the most around the shoulders.
I injured myself one time after puffing up and feeling like a manly man when I overheard a little kid tell my daughter "Wow, your dad can jump really high!" I was getting berries out of a tree for them, and the kids acted like I was a big strong gorilla, powerful enough to get to and pull down any branch. Lol I pulled a muscle in my shoulder, and I also really tore up my bad ankle with all the jumping. :laugh:
But it was worth it. I felt amazing. :)
Not sure if this counts
I had a dream where I was sitting in the kitchen on Christmas morning and this boy came running down the stairs and said "Dad! Dad! Can we open presents now??"
Woke up with the warmest damn feeling inside.
Just a dream. But I was smiling for the rest of the day.
I love going to get my hair cut. I go to the local SUPERCUTS and they ALWAYS read me as male and give me a men's haircut. Call me sir, ask me how I want my sideburns cut... always makes my day.
Mum called me a hairy beast :-X
when people notice I actually DO have some fuss I call beard XD heheh.
also once a guy I had been with called me "seme", and then fall asleep on my cheast.
made me feel pretty manly that night.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yaoi#Seme_and_uke (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yaoi#Seme_and_uke)
Been told i've got broader shoulders ;D
(idk if it falls in the same category but) the staff at my school have been referring me to male pronouns lately (im just a random student, nothing special about me here), even the ones that visit the school, calling me mister and etc :D
I was told last month by a speech pathologist that I have a very deep masculine voice, and she also said that she found it "relaxing and a pleasant joy to listen to"... is it just me or was her second comment a bit much? :D I think I grew a foot taller
The girls in my class at college made a comment that they like having a male friend in our little social circle. I have always wanted to be the male friend. Never been one for segregating my friend circles according to gender! :D
My mum also commented on how hairy my legs are getting and keeps trying to pull my leg hair out when we sit on the couch together, just to muck around. My girlfriend always brushes her hand up my chin too, and giggles because my face fuzz tickles her fingers.
Also, when people refer to my biceps as my 'guns' and then say that my shoulders are bulky and broad, I get a temporary inflated ego. Hehe :)
Oooh, also, my friend told me that when she heard me on the phone, she didn't recognize my voice because of how deep it has gotten. That pretty much made my day!
My 2nd grade students have recently taken to calling me "sir", which is weird because I've never discussed any of this with anyone at that school and I present female there (although I don't go out of my way to act feminine). It makes me feel like I send off a male vibe that little kids can pick up on, but I'm still nervous about the other teachers hearing them say that.
When I was having one of my scans while I was pregnant the midwife told me that birth was going to be difficult for me because I had a very male shaped pelvis.
I ignored the first part was just like YEAAAH MALE PELVIS! SCORE!
Not quite relevant, but today in class my teacher split our (small) seminar group in half for discussion work. After a minute she goes "oh man, I split you into gender groups, sorry, I didn't mean to, that's just the way you all were sitting". I came out to her last week, and today I was sat with the other guys. Made me feel so good.
I rarely feel masculine and often when people point out "masculine" things it's done in a way that bothers me.
A friend of mine took me to a gym not too long ago and told me to stop prancing and doing jazz hands. That made me feel pretty good with my gender.
Co-Worker: "I'm so used to you as a dude; it's just weird that they'd even ask" :)
Years ago, probably when i was 14-15, I had this weird phase in high school where I attracted a lot of (supposedly straight) girls. They'd follow me around, tell me I looked handsome, one even went so far as to call me her "replacement boyfriend" a few times. It was (and still is) really weird, but it was extremely complimentary.
And every comparison I've ever gotten for my singing voice just makes me incredibly happy.
When people ask me to move heavy things, haha. I'm not particularly strong but being asked to use my strength makes me feel more masculine.
Also, I was recently hanging out at a friend's house and the group sort of split off into the girls and guys. We spent like 40 minutes talking about video games and the girls were like, seriously? Still talking about video games? It was a had to be there thing lol but I felt masculine being with the other guys.
Quote from: lexical on March 07, 2012, 04:19:52 PM
When people ask me to move heavy things, haha. I'm not particularly strong but being asked to use my strength makes me feel more masculine.
Yes! Same here. When my best female friend tells me to carry the groceries for her (lol), and all that stuff. She's treated me like a guy for years now.
Also, today at work pushing the carts up the ramp into the store, an older lady said to me "You're going to have strong arms, young man".
She recognized the physical intensity of the work, and gendered me correctly :D
One of the guys that works for me said my nickname should be Bill Belichick because of how well I plan, coordinate, and execute at work.
I can hardly think of a better compliment.
I should note that I haven't come out at work yet.
when I am at work with one of my female coworkers, and they ask me for my opinion on something having to do with style, or color arrangement of the products and I say "I don't know!"
and they reply *sigh* "you are such a guy!" (as in.. you have no idea how to color coordinate)
When I was with my now ex girlfriend she would always treat me as male so all her comments made me feel pretty male from general convo to erotic convo. Other than that I don't get too many comments that make me feel masculine. Last week my sister and I were shopping and she asked me to reach for something that was too high for her and I felt so masculine I strolled towards the item and reached up for it and she said nevermind. That was such a blow to my self-esteem lol.
The latest comment that made me feel very masculine was the one that our very own Miss Catherine Sarah made about perceiving me to be the leader of men one day. That made me feel all tingly inside in a masculine way. ::)
women tend to ask me to get things from high shelves and such, which is always good. also when i was talking in a trans and alies group about how my brother adopted the doll i got as a big sister present i got when our other brother was born. one of the employes who was running the group got a confused look on her face and afterwards she told me that she didnt realize i was trans and thought i was a cis guy. which was really funny that i pass so well that even when im talking about being a girl in the past people dont realize im trans even in a trans group.
Your avatar looks pretty leaderly, Malachite.
I help my daughter climb into the top bunk every day (idk why there's no ladder), and tonight she said "Wow you're strong!" That made me feel like the hulk. :)
Quote from: Felix on March 12, 2012, 01:16:56 AM
Your avatar looks pretty leaderly, Malachite.
Add this one to the list. ^
A bunch of random things, but probably my favorite is when my brother complains that I get more girls than he does. A close second is my dad calling me "Hobbit Feet."
I had to recently throw a pair of jeans away because there was nothing left to them. They were probably the most beat up pair of pants I have ever laid eyes on. When I finally agreed that they needed to move on to the pants afterlife I had a hard time actually taking the step to the trash pile, my husband looked at me and said "Just throw them away! I swear, you are such a guy."
"Open this jar please"
::)
Quote from: Danielle×o on March 12, 2012, 05:55:43 PM
"Open this jar please"
::)
Pre-T my ex often asked me to open things after his failed attempts and sore red hands :P He was too manly to use tools/shirt..
"Your hair is low*. You... to grow it, up*.
Told me my mother's aunt after she didn't let me and my sister in when used intercom, and we had to call her on phone. :D
(She's living by own, recovering from a stroke. My family visits her day by day, me on weekends only when I'm back at hometown. *-s are because of her aphasia - she has a unique, poor use of language now - so if she sees someone strange or unknown, doesn't press the "talk" or "green" button. She believed that I'm a random 14-years-old boy. :rolleyes: )
Proud and masculine, yeeeah. :D
Today was my second day working at walmart, first day in the meat dept. The guy in charge/dept. manager was telling me about the white coat things we had to wear...anywhos he said "Your gonna need a 2x or 3x, your a big guy...you have broad shoulders"....
I always thought I had small shoulders for a guy but to be told by some old guy, not to old, that I had broad shoulders was super nice. It felt super nice. Made my day actually, and the meat dept. is sooo much easier then the frozen dept.
I have the general body shape of a 12 year old boy at the moment (pre-T) XD, so whenever someone comments about my broad shoulders, my straight lines, or my lack of hips I get a pretty big smile.
I posted this elsewhere, but it belongs here too.
My mother walked in while I was procrastinating from going to the gym, and she told me "GO GET BUFF!" My family seems as happy about my muscles as I am. :D
This wasn't so much a comment, just a fun Big Ol' Pass! Last night at the Irish pub (on St. Patrick's--go figure) pressed up against the crowded bar, I got my Guinness and the bartender said, "That'll be $4.50, sir."
It's always a super epic awesome pass to me when I am around young 20-30-something men and a male bartender. I feel like that's my favorite time to pass. I was so happy all night after that.
"That'll be $4.50, sir." ;D
This isn't about any one physical aspect but an overall acknowledgment as male in a setting where I've always wanted to be accepted.
I was at a social at a temple& one of the guys introduced me as a "friendly jewish man looking for a temple in the area." :) :) It made me feel manly& accepted, even though they didn't know I'm trans..so I guess I wasn't technically accepted for it - oh well, it made me happy nonetheless.
I got two last night:
"You look more manly everytime I see you"
"If I didn't know you I'd think you were a young man" (meaning if she didn't know I was Trans she would have thought I was a cisgendered male)
today at the store some guy needed to get around me and was just like "excuse me bro" haha when we left i was like DAD DID YOU HEAR THAT GUY?! i havent been passing much lately so i was so excited hahahah
Today at work a collegue heard me speak stared at my neck and then said
'your voice! Is...are they working already?!'
'yeah'
'haven't you only had two shots?!'
'three'
'oh my god...say something else!'
'Uhhh'
'oh my god'
My daughter asked me the other day if Johnny Cash was as tough as I am.
Just a comment on my profile picture (same as here), from some women's dating site*...
"No way you're a woman!?!? Disgusting pervert!!!"
Offensive but made my day. ;D
* Did not delete my account because... if bisexual and whatever girls don't come to trans dating site, I gotta find 'em. ??? ::) (So just wrote that I'm there because of my body stuff. :-X )
Quote from: Andris on April 02, 2012, 06:41:19 PM
Just a comment on my profile picture (same as here), from some women's dating site*...
"No way you're a woman!?!? Disgusting pervert!!!"
Offensive but made my day. ;D
* Did not delete my account because... if bisexual and whatever girls don't come to trans dating site, I gotta find 'em. ??? ::) (So just wrote that I'm there because of my body stuff. :-X )
Wait did she mean disgusting because your trans or disgusting because she doesn't believe you can have been female? I'm thinking the last one you know because 'woman' just does not go with you AT ALL.
Male coworker - 'wanna go and get a pint with me Tom'
Somebody asked if I was okay carrying something today, and my kid jumped in with "oh yeah my dad can usually lift anything. He's strong." :)
My nephew saw me carrying the laundry in and he said "WOW you're strong! You have big strong muscles like a wrestling man!" I kind of felt like a father when he said that.
I was sitting outside a library, waiting for my girlfriend and having a smoke. This young guy came over to me and said "hey dude, can i bum i smoke?" :laugh: it was so awesome!! Also that same day, i was struttin my manliness around town I got called sir everywhere. Ive been passing 100% for a few months now, but it still excites me! ;)
I'm doing a salsa performance in a few weeks, and I don't know all of the moves for the advanced group as a lead. The guy running it signed me up as a lead because he said I'm "too damn good to follow."
Quote from: Tom on April 02, 2012, 07:06:13 PM
Wait did she mean disgusting because your trans or disgusting because she doesn't believe you can have been female? I'm thinking the last one you know because 'woman' just does not go with you AT ALL.
Yes, 2nd meaning, fortunately. :D
Nice to read all comments, guys. By the way. Inspiring! :)
for some weeks ago we where cleaning in the kitchen and a very strong guy was like:
"I clearned it all exept this part, I just cant get it off"
me: got it off in no time..
the guys where like "wow your so strong.. "
haha,
it was seriously very simple, I bet he just had done it wrong.
I spoke with my former sociology teacher and she went on a tangent about how this has been a weird semester for her and she can't wait for it to be over. Anyway at the end of the rant she patted my shoulder and said, "Well thank you for lending me your broad shoulders and lending ear." Now mind you I'm still presenting as female. This was awesome! Hehe....my broad shoulders. Gosh I feel so manly I could prance around to Sailor Moon music in a garden bed of flowers.
My thesis chair complimented my new tie. :D He said "Damn. You pull off ties better than I do!"
This is a strange story but oh well.
I was out with some friends of mixed genders. A girl and I (very cute but she's married) were fooling around and pretending to be related because we are goofy like that. Just because we are nuts she started referring to me as her sister as in, "He is my sister" and I called her my brother.
Another guy we were with got fed up with this after a bit. He said, "There is no way you could be anything but a girl", (point at our female friend), "and you could not be anything but a boy." (pointing at me) "I'm sorry but there is just no way." Annoyed voice.
We just looked at him because what is there to say to that. It was a nice comment to hear. :)
It sounds weird, but whenever someone (especially my friends) say that they thought I was already on T and can't believe that I'm not yet. :)
Quote from: Paul on April 07, 2012, 12:42:43 PM
It sounds weird, but whenever someone (especially my friends) say that they thought I was already on T and can't believe that I'm not yet. :)
I used to get this one (I think cuz my voice was deep) and it always made me happy.
Well I finally received a "masculine" compliment by my mom... she said my binder made my back look strong?
I guess that's a start lol
Quote from: Kody C on April 10, 2012, 12:29:15 AM
Well I finally received a "masculine" compliment by my mom... she said my binder made my back look strong?
I guess that's a start lol
Lol that is kind of a weird one. It sounds like she's trying though. :D
I photoshopped a picture for myself - only put a fake goatee to see how would it be, someday soon(?). Then started to use it as a profile picture on MSN.
Just an hour ago received an e-mail. One of my gay friends. He told me ~ "Hi! you're such a sexy guy in your picture. I wouldn't find out, it were you. A small beard (may/would) looks good for you. Kisses!"
Well... (He does not know, but made my day.) ;)
Anyone, recently? No way you did not felt masculine because of someone. :)
Yesterday I was chillin with my son and he told me I was going to grow up to be a great man someday haha I thought it was cute and awesome also I had a co worker comment on how i have large manly hands made my day
A little kid said "wow you're very strong" when I picked him up.
Also i was with my nephew and his mom and I told her I didn't want to go to a hair show coming up and my little nephew said "But you have to. You are a girl but you are almost a boy now." I asked him why did he say that and he said "because your face is round"
I have no clue where he came up with that but hey a compliment is a compliment and I'll take it anyway I can get it.
Little kids are awesome cause they are so honest a little kid on the bus called me a boy until there mom said no thats a girl(she had met me pre transition before) I smiled at the kids comment though
Quote from: Traivs on May 19, 2012, 10:14:54 PM
Little kids are awesome cause they are so honest a little kid on the bus called me a boy until there mom said no thats a girl(she had met me pre transition before) I smiled at the kids comment though
Some definately can pick up on things that adults can't.
I was called a "nice man" this past week at work by a customer.
Usually I'm called a "guy" which is still great but being called a man is better, esp. a nice one, lol. ;D
I work in a call center (not as an agent (anymore), but as operations control and tech specialist), but I used to be on the phone. I haven't started T yet, and over the years I was trained in other customer service jobs that raising your voice a few octives makes you seem more pleasant. I would do it without thinking. Most of the time it would get me Ma'am'd *twitch*, but on a few occasions when they listened and asked my name, I got things like 'Oh, I have a brother named Sal!', and one time the following conversation happened.
"Is there anything else I can do for you Miss?"
"Well, there is, Sal, but you can't do it over the phone..."
"... ah..."
"Oh! I'm sorry, I always hit on the nice sounding boys when I've had wine with lunch!"
And recently, I got myself a wicked pair of aviators, and wearing them, after I got out of work me and my friend, were stopped by a man asking for change.
He looks at my friend, and then me, and then asks him
"Is this your brother?"
I shook my head, and my friend said that we just work together, but I was floating on air for a while after that... because that is just a random Joe off the streets making the assumption (though I imagine it was either the assumption that we were brothers, or that we were boyfriends... and I think the guy was more comfortable with the first idea).
Lately my 7 and 8-year-old students (who I am definitely not out to and never will be) have been pointing out how hairy I am. One of them asked if she could "comb my arm hair" and another told me it looked like I was growing a beard. Another one told me "you're gonna grow into a young man". And it's been a running joke among them to yell out "YES, SIR!" when I tell them something. Of course, I have to tell them this is all inappropriate, but it does secretly make me feel good to hear it and I tend to walk a little taller and with a little bit of a swagger for awhile after every time they say things like that.
this girl said i was a "cool guy" it made me wonder but it also made me happy
Out to dinner with my gf last night, and she was definitely the hottest girl in the place. ;D She told me the door man winked at her on the way out. I said, Yeah, but you're going home with me! And she said, You are one lucky guy!
And I was!
I got called a "handsome young man" by an old lady at the grocery store today. It didn't actually make me feel masculine - quite the opposite - but it's always nice to have reminders that I can pass without falling back on my masculine name and deep voice.
My grandma always says ''You search like damn man!''
Lol apparently men can't find stuff they're looking for around here.
Ex. I'm looking for sugar, can't find it, ask grandma for help,
come to find out it was in my face the whole time.
A lady on the bus called me a bright young man ;D
Just came out to a long time family friend who is in her 70s. That evening while sitting outside at the pic-nic table she looks at my wife and says " I'm gonna sit by your handsome guy". Lol. Probly said it just to make me feel good but if do it WORKED!
My gf and I took her 8 year old little sister out for ice cream and we got talking about how her dad doesn't like me. Her little sister chimed in and said " I dunno why nick you are so strong and smart!" I literally did a spit-take of my ice cream cone. No body has ever called me strong before. It felt really good
Quote from: nuclearw1nter19 on May 23, 2012, 07:45:00 PM
My gf and I took her 8 year old little sister out for ice cream and we got talking about how her dad doesn't like me. Her little sister chimed in and said " I dunno why nick you are so strong and smart!" I literally did a spit-take of my ice cream cone. No body has ever called me strong before. It felt really good
Say what you want about kids, but they are the best at making a person feel like a superhero. ;D
An odd one, but "You look like a gay boy scout." (Coming from a gay guy who was wearing the same thing.)
I was chatting to my best friend today...we've been friends since we were kids and she's always been very supportive but not often do our interactions contain anything gender related if that makes sense.
I've been growing out my hair for a little while and she was encouraging me to shave it short, when I finally gave in and said I would shave it she said "yay I like guys with short back and sides!" ... *blush* ;D
Earlier last year probaly May or so I went to my friend's house and hung around. She lives with her folks and me and her fiance are good friends like brothers from a different mother. Since I've always respected her and her family her mom had always sort of treated my like a part of the family as a male without really trying hard. Later in that day I had helped clean up after a party after raiding the candy dish (i love candy) She called me and my brother over. Then she both said boys could you take this table into the basement and get the other one. I was slightly stunned, but also felt quite happy that she accepted me.