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I think the poll is pretty self explainitory.

:)

I am in a dual transition relationship and I personally love my relationship dynamic and I think my spouse is the best in the world and ze would win if there was a contest on the best spouse in the world.

I put "I had to pick this option because Cyndi is short sighted and didn't think of my life circumstances. (Place your answer in the replys.)" as I didn't agree with the "No, but I have entertained the idea . . ." one.  I would be perfectly fine with dating someone else who's trans*.  I am interested in someone within the community, but that's not why I'd date someone within the community.  I just personally don't care what someone's gender identity is or what their body status is.  I'm generally homo/panromantic and am asexual (generally speaking).  I can fall for someone regardless of their trans status or lack of trans status so I'm a "No, but I would date someone within the trans community" portion of people.

Haha, I love the options here!

I picked "No, but I've entertained the idea" because I have. I have only been with cis women, but I had a crush on a trans woman about two years ago, and I have one I'm crushing on pretty hard right now. ;)

I did date an Ftm for a while. It did not end because we are trans but because we just were not a good match. I would have no issues being in a relationship with another trans person but, I am far more into femininity than masculinity so it would have to be another MtF.

Gee. Option 4 wasn't value-loaded much, was it? ;)

I used to wish my ex was lesbian. I tended to identify her as such. She's presently in no romantic or sexual relationship, and practically all her social relationships, outside of work, are with women. There have been times when I have even wondered whether she might a transman, but have to admit much of that was probably projection on my part.

I was offered at least a short-term relationship from one of my first trans-sisters, who came out to herself in many ways in parallel to me, but was far more resolute in seeking transition. The only reason I didn't act on it was that I was already in a relationship with the aforementioned partner, and was still hoping that she would see fit to adapt herself to my emergence. The trans-sister's eventual ex also became a close friend, and made a quilt for our first child. We also went shopping together at a funky fabric warehouse in Philly several times. Some of my reservations were as much to honor my friendship with my trans-sister's partner as to honor the integrity of my own partnership at the time. But I was extremely curious, and after separating, very nearly followed through on the invitation. 

In light of my most recent brief tryst with a long-time friend, I think I also realize that for me, a sexual relationship almost cannot exist without me also losing my heart at least a little bit, and becoming attached, and by the time it was possible in my mind to pursue that offer, it was also clear that my trans-sister was already in the middle of a new, seemingly committed relationship (with another transwoman).

I do tend to think that any lasting relationship I could have is far more likely with either a cis or transwoman, than with a cis man.  I do wonder what could work out, though, between myself and a transman.

I'm open to it but I doubt I ever will. Let's see, the chance of running into a cisguy that I'm genuinely interested in? Low. The chance of running into any transguy at all? Lower.

Quote from: Elspeth on February 11, 2013, 09:58:08 PM
Gee. Option 4 wasn't value-loaded much, was it? ;)

what can I say? I am a fairy/gremlin at heart.
:D

I have had a couple of crushes.  I would not be opposed to a trans*/trans* relationship.  If only ... *sigh

Heck, at this point, I'm doubting that I will ever even date again, period. I've gone many, many years without, I suppose I could continue, plus the idea of being in a relationship of any sort scares the hell out of me.

 ;)

Umm...yes, I are in one. And it's awesome! (mtf/mtf).

I think I would love my girlfriend the same even if she was cis, but I would have to explain and translate more if she was. The fact that my struggles and joys make perfect sense to her - priceless.

Quote from: ~RoadToTrista~ on February 11, 2013, 10:08:29 PM
I'm open to it but I doubt I ever will. Let's see, the chance of running into a cisguy that I'm genuinely interested in? Low. The chance of running into any transguy at all? Lower.

This is basically what I thought, except I'm gay, so female-ish people. But then things happened and now I'm dating another trans person? It's pretty cool.

Not a transition relationship though. We were both pretty much done with that before we met.

I've been in a trans-trans relationship.

She was really early on, so there was a lot of insecurity, and it was generally unpleasant.

I've had a few trans relationships and would love to be a partner but I've had 2 dates in 5 years so the chances are a bit on the slim side!

I had to pick this option because Cyndi is short sighted and didn't think of my life circumstances. (Place your answer in the replys.)

I fell for another trans girl.. Who then promptly rejected me due to my pre-op status. Funny thing, so was she..

Funny how life works out though. I'm now involved with a wonderful (cis) woman and have been accepted in to the lesbian community without a second thought.. (or comment)

Ms.Rejection is still alone and still trying very hard to be a 'stereotypical' lesbian.. I've come across a few women who have met her - apparently she comes off as very 'fake'..

I voted 'never been in such a relationship'.
I've been attracted to a trans person before, so you never know. But like Sarah, they'd probably have to be pretty much done with transition. Or at least not have a lot of 'trans drama' going on.

Probably a moot point considering...

I never have but I definitely would. I think it could be an amazing relationship because the other would understand much of what I have been though and vise versa. Any takers? Haha! 

I was actually asked this question by a friend just a few days ago.  I would say that I would, as long as there is a connection I don't have an issue if they are trans or not.  Granted dating another MTF could have the added benefit of having someone truly understand what you're going though or have gone though... However the chances of finding another MTF in my area are low heck I think chances of finding a CIS girl that would have an interest are pretty low.. But I'm sure she's out there, no matter what thier genetic status may be.

Love this poll. :laugh:

I'd consider it certainly.I have a crush on someone who is also trans. But it's not because he is trams.he just has all the right things going for me to find attractive.

Currently in such a relationship.  We are together regardless of our transness, and just see ourselves as two women in love.

Quote from: The Original Cami on February 12, 2013, 02:24:00 AM
I never have but I definitely would. I think it could be an amazing relationship because the other would understand much of what I have been though and vise versa. Any takers? Haha!

Sure! But you have to come to me.  ;D

Definitely! I'm pansexual - so I like anything with a pulse hehe! More and more I find myself falling for a person, irrespective of what's in their pants.

That said though, I do harbor an affinity for trans*people. Knowing you're with someone who has been through what you have is a great mutual bond.

[also the sex is pretty amazing]

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Not sure what option this would be. I've never been attracted to any specific trans person, but if I were to meet one where we had a mutual interest, I'd happily go ahead.

i was in a mtf relationship once. Not a very good experience at all. It ended with me having to do a restraining order. This was about 3 years ago.

I have nothing against trans/trans relationships but im perfectly fine dating guys atm.

I have always preferred to have a woman partner and would prefer a trans woman over cis simply because there is some commonality of mindset that is not usually the case between me and cis females. I find that not only do we innately know what blows the other's hair back during intimate moments, but there is much less drama to contend with, I have little patience for drama. I had a trans woman girlfriend but it became such an affront to my marriage that is was over before it really got strong. Still, if I found myself single again I would opt for a relationship with a trans woman over a cis female.

Quote from: Brooke777 on February 12, 2013, 09:18:39 AM
Sure! But you have to come to me.  ;D

As long as you're within 50 miles :p

I was in a relationship with another trans girl. We broke up (or rather, I broke up with her). The break up had nothing to do with our genders or sexualities.

Why not?  :)

I voted for no but I would. I'm into a trans guy at the minute and he knows. We're not official or anything but we're just getting to know each other and taking things slow. I can imagine it being a nice understanding relationship though.

Joey

Quote from: The Original Cami on February 12, 2013, 03:41:55 PM
As long as you're within 50 miles :p

I'm within 50 miles of the Seattle airport.  ;D

I am rather surprised by the results so far.

How so?

One thing I find interesting is that, in terms of transition, it can really have two effects. It can tear a relationship apart, and cause two people with similar issues to tear each other apart, or it can create a very deepened level of understanding. I find that odd, to be honest, that there seem to be two extremes.

Quote from: Brooke777 on February 12, 2013, 05:16:16 PM
I'm within 50 miles of the Seattle airport.  ;D

I'll get started on learning to fly :D

Quote from: The Original Cami on February 13, 2013, 12:55:46 PM
I'll get started on learning to fly :D

It's easy. All you need are happy thoughts and some pixie dust.  ;D

Quote from: crazy at the coast on February 11, 2013, 10:39:41 PM
Heck, at this point, I'm doubting that I will ever even date again, period. I've gone many, many years without, I suppose I could continue, plus the idea of being in a relationship of any sort scares the hell out of me.

What are you doing Saturday night?  8)

Quote from: Pleasingly Plump Jamie D on February 13, 2013, 01:19:52 PM
What are you doing Saturday night?  8)

Wait,wait,wait, I wanted to ask her about Saturday night!.....grrrrrr Jamie D

Why not Sunday night? Seriously, why is it always Saturday?  ???

Sunday is when you always nurse the hangover.

Why not do what Bruce Wayne does and drink ginger ale, pretending it's some sort of alcoholic beverage? You won't be hung over and you'll actually remember the night before.  :laugh:

Anyway, I still don't get the big deal. Can someone give me one good reason that trans/trans relationships are questionable? If I were to date a trans person, I'd feel a common understanding.  ???

Quote from: Pleasingly Plump Jamie D on February 13, 2013, 01:19:52 PM
What are you doing Saturday night?  8)

Washing my hair.   ;D

I started this originaly so I could segue into a conversation delving into why we don't see more of these types of relationships; however it is obvious to me now that I just wasn't looking. There are alot of us in dual transition homes.

So out of us with trans spouse's/lovers I wonder how many of us are in FTM/MTF or similar relationships? The relationship I am in is not quite that as my spouse is a transitioning androgyne and I am MTF, but the lifes chalenges are similar.
We get to see transition from many differant angles as a result.

I was in a relationship with a transman years back.  It didn't go so well, but I think it was more personality than anything to do with being trans anything.