Its about 3/4 months since I had my grs and as some are already aware I've not fully healed as of yet. I'm wondering though would it be safe to use a vibrator since i'm not ready yet to have vaginal sex? :)
Thanks
nessa76
Should be ok, just be gentle (assuming a vibrator of the poking type as opposed to an egg style or a pocket rocket that is mostly clit stimulating type). I recommend a towel in case things get messy on orgasm. :P
Like the previous poster said, I'm sure you'd be fine. May I recommend a rabbit? ;)
Quote from: Shaina on October 21, 2013, 12:11:12 AM
Like the previous poster said, I'm sure you'd be fine. May I recommend a rabbit? ;)
I tried that but it wouldn't hold the vibrator and kept hoping away.
Dumb Bunny :laugh:
Quote from: Cindy on October 21, 2013, 01:57:37 AM
I tried that but it wouldn't hold the vibrator and kept hoping away.
Dumb Bunny :laugh:
Haha Cindy you crack me up! Clearly I should move to Australia, never met an Aussie I didn't like :)
Hee Heee
Oh no another American I have to warn the immigration dept about. Place will be over run by Susie's Warriors!
Quote from: Cindy on October 21, 2013, 01:57:37 AM
I tried that but it wouldn't hold the vibrator and kept hoping away.
Dumb Bunny :laugh:
You need a better rabbit!
Quote from: Cherrie on October 21, 2013, 08:08:57 AM
I think you need to ask this to your surgeon.
I suppose your right Cherrie, better for me to be safe than sorry because the last thing I need is to have more complications :)
I will admit though, I was just getting a little curious though as to what an orgasm feels like now that I've had grs lol
Ok guys - I'm only a student so this is NOT medical advice... (sorry I have to preface my comment with that or I could get into trouble)
However - having said that, I can tell you that issue is not really with it being a vibe - but rather the fact that:
a.) if you aren't fully healed then any vigorous movement could cause tears or damage
b.) a vibe may not have nicely rounded contours like a dilator and so again could cause damage if not inserted with care.
c.) if you were having sex there would be an infection risk.
That said - I had corrective surgery for my intersex condition about 30 years ago - and I started using a vibe within days of the surgery before the stitches were even fully out... I'm still here and so is my vag! So used carefully I can't see a problem.
That said I concur with everyone that a quick email or telephone call to your supervising doctor (surgeon) just to check is a jolly good idea.
Aside from seconding "ask your surgeon" (which you're going to do!), I personally was cautious about that sort of thing until the site was fully healed. It's hard to predict or control how much vibration will affect half-healed tissue.
That said, nothing at all stops you from trying a non-insertable vibe if you think *that* area is healed. :) The first time I tried that post-op... wow. I gotta say, despite knowing it's the same or fewer nerve endings as before, I couldn't BELIEVE that fact anymore.
Quote from: Jenna Marie on October 21, 2013, 03:59:36 PM
Aside from seconding "ask your surgeon" (which you're going to do!), I personally was cautious about that sort of thing until the site was fully healed. It's hard to predict or control how much vibration will affect half-healed tissue.
That said, nothing at all stops you from trying a non-insertable vibe if you think *that* area is healed. :) The first time I tried that post-op... wow. I gotta say, despite knowing it's the same or fewer nerve endings as before, I couldn't BELIEVE that fact anymore.
Why, was the feeling/orgasm better despite knowing the same or fewer nerve endings as before? :)
MUCH better. It felt like about 10,000 new nerve endings. :) Still, though, it won't be nearly as much fun if things are still sore there... I remember that part, too.
You said you are at the 3 or 4 month mark. I know most of the surgeons say after 3 months most can has SEX. I would say as long as you do not get to rough with it you should be fine internal or external. But i would look at your discharge papers for the time mark of sex.
The nurses said on my discharge to stay away from vibs for first 3 months or until i felt it was healed enough for sex.
Lots of luck on getting to know your new found BIG O
Izzy
Quote from: mind is quiet now on October 21, 2013, 06:11:36 PM
You said you are at the 3 or 4 month mark. I know most of the surgeons say after 3 months most can has SEX. I would say as long as you do not get to rough with it you should be fine internal or external. But i would look at your discharge papers for the time mark of sex.
The nurses said on my discharge to stay away from vibs for first 3 months or until i felt it was healed enough for sex.
Lots of luck on getting to know your new found BIG O
Izzy
I had a warm tingly feeling when I dilated on the 2nd week, which I think was kind of an orgasm. I just can't wait to discover the new found BIG O, curiosity more than anything :)
Quote from: Jenna Marie on October 21, 2013, 05:45:57 PM
MUCH better. It felt like about 10,000 new nerve endings. :) Still, though, it won't be nearly as much fun if things are still sore there... I remember that part, too.
That's good, 10,000 new nerve endings must have made it real intense :)
That might be fun to find your O spot & enjoy. I wish I were there with you now. For me I want a man!
Quote from: FrancisAnn on October 22, 2013, 10:07:22 PM
That might be fun to find your O spot & enjoy. I wish I were there with you now. For me I want a man!
Here here! :eusa_clap: